Help [HELP NEEDED ASAP] How do I just give up entirely on life?

[I hate it]

Hello,

I am 18 years old, I turn 19 in 2 weeks. For the last year and two months, I have mindlessly crushed on multiple girls who I either do not know, or if I do know them, I just don't see them that often to even try to attempt to make moves on them. It all started back in November of 2024 during the weekend right before Thanksgiving that year, I followed this girl I knew from middle school on Instagram, who had been going to my old elementary school (K-12) that I went to up until 6th grade. She followed me back not long after I followed her and that's when this "crushing" stuff started. At the time in November 2024, I hadn't seen the said girl since May of the same year, which was only six months ago at the time. To this day, January 18th, 2026, I have not seen her since May of 2024, which is now nearing two years ago. This crush started to turn for the worst in March of last year when this girl started catching feelings for a former classmate of mine who I didn't get along well with. The girl eventually got into a relationship with the guy in May, which forced me to move on from her. However, in late July, the two broke up, and of course, my interest for the girl came back. She entered her freshman year of college last August, as for me, I am currently jobless (a NEET) still living in my parent's house with no intention to apply to any college or apply to any job (I already have a few times applied for a job, but have had no luck with any.)

As for now, I have moved on from this girl, but the problem is, I keep thinking of other girls that I could "possibly" make moves on that I find attractive. I deleted Instagram and Facebook entirely back in November, however, as of late I have been lurking on Instagram under "secret" accounts I had laying around. I have scheduled deletion on all of them as of writing this. All these girls I keep seeing that my stupid mind thinks I'll have a "chance" with either go to college, or if they aren't in college they go to different churches that I am unfamiliar with. I know you're probably thinking, "Why don't you just go to their church then?" The purpose of going to church is to worship Jesus, not chase after girls. Also, I don't have a driver's license so it's up to my parents to take me to said churches, but they obviously won't, especially when they find out my reason to why.

All I'm asking is how the hell do I manage to move on on this shit and "give up" on life, not as in taking my own life, but as in to just stop caring about what I don't have and to be happy and content? How do I stop focusing on this stuff? How do I just move on and forget all of this and be happy as well as content? This shit has been stressing me the hell out almost daily ever since the latter half of summer last year, and I want it to stop, NOW.
Also, I'm sorry for how crappy this was written out. I probably made a lot of grammar mistakes, but oh well. There's just too much to say, I don't even feel satisfied with all this I've already put out.

 

[Dot]

Hello,

I am 18 years old, I turn 19 in 2 weeks. For the last year and two months, I have mindlessly crushed on multiple girls who I either do not know, or if I do know them, I just don't see them that often to even try to attempt to make moves on them. It all started back in November of 2024 during the weekend right before Thanksgiving that year, I followed this girl I knew from middle school on Instagram, who had been going to my old elementary school (K-12) that I went to up until 6th grade. She followed me back not long after I followed her and that's when this "crushing" stuff started. At the time in November 2024, I hadn't seen the said girl since May of the same year, which was only six months ago at the time. To this day, January 18th, 2026, I have not seen her since May of 2024, which is now nearing two years ago. This crush started to turn for the worst in March of last year when this girl started catching feelings for a former classmate of mine who I didn't get along well with. The girl eventually got into a relationship with the guy in May, which forced me to move on from her. However, in late July, the two broke up, and of course, my interest for the girl came back. She entered her freshman year of college last August, as for me, I am currently jobless (a NEET) still living in my parent's house with no intention to apply to any college or apply to any job (I already have a few times applied for a job, but have had no luck with any.)

As for now, I have moved on from this girl, but the problem is, I keep thinking of other girls that I could "possibly" make moves on that I find attractive. I deleted Instagram and Facebook entirely back in November, however, as of late I have been lurking on Instagram under "secret" accounts I had laying around. I have scheduled deletion on all of them as of writing this. All these girls I keep seeing that my stupid mind thinks I'll have a "chance" with either go to college, or if they aren't in college they go to different churches that I am unfamiliar with. I know you're probably thinking, "Why don't you just go to their church then?" The purpose of going to church is to worship Jesus, not chase after girls. Also, I don't have a driver's license so it's up to my parents to take me to said churches, but they obviously won't, especially when they find out my reason to why.

All I'm asking is how the hell do I manage to move on on this shit and "give up" on life, not as in taking my own life, but as in to just stop caring about what I don't have and to be happy and content? How do I stop focusing on this stuff? How do I just move on and forget all of this and be happy as well as content? This shit has been stressing me the hell out almost daily ever since the latter half of summer last year, and I want it to stop, NOW.
Also, I'm sorry for how crappy this was written out. I probably made a lot of grammar mistakes, but oh well. There's just too much to say, I don't even feel satisfied with all this I've already put out.

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The purpose of going to church is to worship Jesus, not chase after girls. Also, I don't have a driver's license so it's up to my parents to take me to said churches, but they obviously won't, especially when they find out my reason to why.

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Slf usd 2 knw ppl wh/ wld vist othr churchs t/ mt mre ppl whch = fne agn as lng as u r nt b-ing a creepr

Cld also b gd t/ lk @ ur othr rlatnshps in ur lfe tho e.g frnds/socl circls as th/ mre helthy & satsfyng rlatnshps u hve in ur lfe thn th/ mre lkely u wll b in helthr plce fr romantc rlatnshps

 

[TDF]

I'm translating for dot's response above

"I only have a few points and suggestions:

It sounds as though you are getting infatuated with ideas of people rather than getting to know or seeing them as unique people. If you are getting fixated or obsessed with people that you do not know, then this might say more about your desperation for a relationship in general rather than this being an emotionally healthy way of getting to know people"

"
Finding ways to get to know more people in the Christian community is not that awful, to be honest, as long as you are not being a creep. Churches are often trying to find ways to get Christians meeting and mingling with other Christians — there will also be plenty of Christian dating sites where you can browse people who are also actively looking for relationships.

Also, "flirt to convert" is a known thing, so there are two sides to that perspective.

I used to know people who would visit other churches to meet more people, which is fine again as long as you are not being a creeper"

It could also be good to look at your other relationships in your life though, for example friends and social circles, as the more healthy and satisfying relationships you have in your life, the more likely you will be in a healthier place for romantic relationships."

 

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The purpose of going to church is to worship Jesus, not chase after girls.

then why did Jesus endorse co-ed churches and make it such a social practice? would Jesus want you to die alone or to find another religious girl to start a nice Christian family with? religious gatherings were always meant to bring others of the same religion together. not just platonically, but romantically too.

All I'm asking is how the hell do I manage to move on on this shit and "give up" on life, not as in taking my own life, but as in to just stop caring about what I don't have and to be happy and content? How do I stop focusing on this stuff? How do I just move on and forget all of this and be happy as well as content?

literally only reaching rock bottom, hell on earth, a tortuous existence will do that.

i only became extremely content with everything i have when my health and quality of life were destroyed by an eating disorder that wouldve killed me by now, along w severe ocd-like anxiety. severe mental and physical illness basically. as soon as i started recovering from those, the simplest things became euphoric. so happy i could eat regular food, go hours without meals and feel normal, i could get up and do chores, i could shower and brush my teeth, i could go outside, i didn't wake up at night sweating and severely nauseous with my heart rate 180+. it's basically just experiencing a living hell that will make you truly grateful for the mundane/bare minimum. any other "method" is just pretending and forcing an attitude you don't really understand. i'm a neet 20yo with no social life and no purpose but i'm ecstatic with my life; it's not at all why i want to ctb. i feel like i live lavishly just because i have average health again.