Help help how do i stop feeling this way

[allidoiswish]

some time ago i sent thigh videos to a man i liked and trusted because he kept asking for them. this person then proceeded to ghost me entirely for days. i regret sending those videos so much and im so scared that he's sending them to other people. even just the fact he has them in his possession right now makes me feel so miserable and uncomfortable. my life was already bad but this just made me feel even worse. i wanted to have a good summer this year but i know ill just keep getting reminded of this. is there any way i can stop feeling so miserable or just move on from this entirely? any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you to whoever read all of this.

 

[LastNite]

How much information does he know about you? for example, location, full gov name, socials, etc.
If he barely knows anything about you then that's good.

You have 2 options that you can take at least thats what I think.
1. Contact law enforcement and report him
2. block him and wipe out all of your socials (delete all sent videos and text before doing so, also trace back to how you met and where you met and delete that trace).
Disable the ability for others to ever message you. It would be better to delete the account entirely if you can.

Even if you barely know anything about him. Police can request data from whichever chatting app that you used about that person.
If there was anything private or NSFW and he blackmailed you using it then they can arrest him for that.

Learn and live. Im sorry you had to go through that. Never get comfortable online enough to share personal information or personal photos.
From a single photo someone can gather enough information to either blackmail you or find your real address. That man you talked to used whatever you spoke to him about to manipulate you into sending him personal videos of yourself. That is what predators do. Always be vigilant.

 

[allidoiswish]

How much information does he know about you? for example, location, full gov name, socials, etc.
If he barely knows anything about you then that's good.

You have 2 options that you can take at least thats what I think.
1. Contact law enforcement and report him
2. block him and wipe out all of your socials (delete all sent videos and text before doing so, also trace back to how you met and where you met and delete that trace).
Disable the ability for others to ever message you. It would be better to delete the account entirely if you can.

Even if you barely know anything about him. Police can request data from whichever chatting app that you used about that person.
If there was anything private or NSFW and he blackmailed you using it then they can arrest him for that.

Learn and live. Im sorry you had to go through that. Never get comfortable online enough to share personal information or personal photos.
From a single photo someone can gather enough information to either blackmail you or find your real address. That man you talked to used whatever you spoke to him about to manipulate you into sending him personal videos of yourself. That is what predators do. Always be vigilant.

hello! first of all thank you SO much for the advice! i had already deleted the videos but now i deleted every single message ive ever sent him! i also deleted the gc where we first met and im planning on blocking him. he actually finally answered one of my texts 30 minutes ago and i just asked him if he's willing to delete the vids (if he still has them) should i wait for his response or just block him immediately? thank you again!

 

[LastNite]

hello! first of all thank you SO much for the advice! i had already deleted the videos but now i deleted every single message ive ever sent him! i also deleted the gc where we first met and im planning on blocking him. he actually finally answered one of my texts 30 minutes ago and i just asked him if he's willing to delete the vids (if he still has them) should i wait for his response or just block him immediately? thank you again!

Tell me more about him and what he actually has against you. If he has your location then speaking to him is not good at all. Blocking wont be enough. Deleting your entire account would be better. If he has your location and you ask him to delete video a, b, c. Then he might start to blackmail you for more using your address against you.

Asking him to delete videos with the hope of him actually doing so wont work. If hes a greedy dumbass then you might be able to trick him in doing so. You could say something like "please send me video proof of you deleting everything and I'll send you X amount." Make sure he deletes them from recently deleted as well. He could also very well put them in a cloud. Hope that he doesnt do that and he falls for the bait and actually deletes everything forever. After that block him and like I said just delete your account. Make a new one.

 

[allidoiswish]

Tell me more about him and what he actually has against you. If he has your location then speaking to him is not good at all. Blocking wont be enough. Deleting your entire account would be better. If he has your location and you ask him to delete video a, b, c. Then he might start to blackmail you for more using your address against you.

Asking him to delete videos with the hope of him actually doing so wont work. If hes a greedy dumbass then you might be able to trick him in doing so. You could say something like "please send me video proof of you deleting everything and I'll send you X amount." Make sure he deletes them from recently deleted as well. He could also very well put them in a cloud. Hope that he doesnt do that and he falls for the bait and actually deletes everything forever. After that block him and like I said just delete your account. Make a new one.

he doesnt have my location! all he knows about me is my first name, my age and what i look like. we also have two friends in common but thats it. i asked him to delete the videos and he refused so i just decided to block him, i want to delete the account but i dont think i can so ill probably just deactivate it for a while. thank you so much for the advice, this has certainly helped me feel way better!

 

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