Discussion Have you gotten used to feeling lonely/being alone?

[UninformedLover]

Thought I did but yesterday I hung out with a family member yesterday and it made me realize how desperate I am for human contact.

It's actually pretty nauseating how much of a freaking loser I am. Even had the idea to meet up again with the guy who basically sexually assaulted me so that I can feel wanted by someone.

 

[deep-sleeper]

I used to for a long time, but now I need to relearn this skill

 

[MyShadow]

The loneliness is real. I sleep and wake up alone and spend 95% of every day by myself. This is after years of having my family around me. I miss my kids and my dogs. It's been a year and I struggle with it every day.

 

[nool]

Yeah. I avoid my family whenever I can for the most part and have no irl friends so I'm alone 90% of the time. I can go days without talking to anybody. I honestly prefer it at this point because I'm really impatient and get overstimulated easily. When I'm alone, I don't have to wait on anybody whenever I want to leave or stop doing something.

Do I want to hang out with others? Sometimes. Do I wish for physical contact? Yeah. Do I want to love somebody? Also yes. But am I content with not having those things? Yes, I am.

 

[Aya&Dazy]

I'm so lonely, mostly I'm alone 95%, no friend no family. Good thing is, my job does require a little bit of human interact. I am really good at hiding my loneliness. I'll never show someone that I want to be with them even though I need it so bad because I get more respect this way. Honestly, as long as I get to interact to at least one person a day, I feel okay. lol

 

[Wolf Girl]

I was fine with it in my 20s, but once my 30s hit the loneliness started to eat away at my soul. Don't let people tell you you'll get over everything in your 30s. There's a good chance things will just get worse.

 

[kunikuzushi]

You would think I'd get used to it, but nope. The loneliness keeps building up the longer I'm alive and just feels worse and worse as the years go by. Now every day is spent in pain because I feel so lonely.

 

[Irisse]

Yeah, pretty much. But I'm not really bothered by it. I am an only child and never had any cousins my age. I did have friends as a child but those friendships didn't end on good terms. Nowdays I have one friend and several acquintances. I am asexual so no real need for a partner (I do have romantic fantasies but they don't involve anything sexual). I guess I also learned to be on my own since I was isolated and abused by my classmates.

 

[User111885]

no

 

[darksouls]

I have given up hope to have a loving partner a long time ago, my female dog left me in 2020, the isolation in my fortress of loneliness is unbearable for me, I plan my exit in the near future

 

[kyuuketsuki]

i've felt deeply lonely and isolated for the majority of my life. i should be used to it by now, but those rare and fleeting times of genuinely enjoying someone's company, not just putting up with it to be kind, remind me of how desperate i really am for friendship.

 

[fazzle]

I never realised I was lonely until I hit my 40s. For over 20 years I minimalised interaction with other people and at this point in life I long for it, but don't really know how anymore. Conversations with family are merely hi/bye. I dont have friends, never have. I speak to people at work but it's never social, just about the task to complete. 8billion people on the planet and it's the loneliest place in the universe for me.

 

[starboy2k]

Yep. I've come to the realization that it's useless to start any type of relationship whether that be platonic, romantic, or a friendship. I don't want anyone to perceive me, I don't want anyone to know me, I don't want anyone claiming me as anything to them.

I know Im going to die by my own hand so the loneliness helps me keep this in mind.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I seem weirdly immune to loneliness so far. I'm dreading that changing I suppose. But, I live alone and work alone. It can be years between seeing family and friends. It's more the other way for me really- in that I get really anxious if I have to be around people.

I don't think I'd cope well if there was really no one there. I do still text with a friend and, this forum is so special to me.