Discussion Have you ever felt completely understood by someone? How important is it to you?

[todiefor]

Have you ever felt someone truly completely understood you as a person?

Do you feel like you put yourself out there and try to help people understand you but they never do?

Have you realised at some point that someone you trusted and you thought understood you really didn't? And that hurt you deeply?

Do you think you can be understood?

How important is it for you to be understood?

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think a couple of people have been on my wavelength. One was a very good friend- so- kind of understandable- they knew me for a longer time. One though was a friend of my Mum's who I barely met but could read me like a book. That was impressive and very comforting. She validated a lot of what I was feeling because I think she somehow knew me- maybe because she knew my Mum. It meant a lot to me. I've lost all that now. In some ways, I'd like to still have it but in reality- the pain of losing relationships like that is awful. Seems safer in some ways- just to not open up and connect on such a deep level now.

 

[purple_keeper]

The only person I've opened up to before about my suicidal ideation is my brother. But he thinks the reasons I wanna kill myself relate to stress from my parent - which is only partially the reason

 

[MeltingBrain]

I keeps my problems tightly to my chest as far as I can . My problems are my burden .
Although I do use this forum to vent some of them anonymously .

 

[isthisit?]

I don't trust anyone with my plan and I really don't want anyone to understand. No one even has a clue that I'm planning to ctb, so I guess I maxed out my deception skill.

 

[UKscotty]

I used to tell people but I learned the hard way.

People don't care, they don't want to understand us, and we just become a burden when we do share.

Best to keep quiet for me personally, people just think I am a moaning snowflake otherwise.

 

[Hollowman]

It used to be important to me but I'm too far gone for anyone to understand me. I don't even understand me.

 

[777cave]

I keeps my problems tightly to my chest as far as I can . My problems are my burden .
Although I do use this forum to vent some of them anonymously .

Yes, this

 

[sammiechzxv]

Yes. It's at least somewhat important for having any relationship with someone but in general I don't expect most people to.

 

[Unattainable666]

I thought I did at one point in time, but he turned out to be a narc so uh no. It would be great if someone understood me and supported me but ....................... aint gonna happen

 

[brokeandbroken]

No, no one has ever understood me or taken the time to. They have seen pieces of me or maybe even taken pieces with them... But me? God no. Not even close. I would like to be yes.

 

[vitbar]

Some have come close. Close enough anyway.

Not convinced it's possible for anyone to know someone completely. Not even themselves.

 

[groucho]

Maybe one of my therapist has a good idea but personal life no. I don't want people to know me because I fear they'd despise me as much as I do.