Hate being ugly

[mordumfan]

I hate being ugly. You are treated so much worse than an attractive or average person. After searching up what men find unnattractive ive come to the realiization I will never find a partner and will be alone. Why do I have so many flaws, it's actually crazy. And it's not like I can just exercise or eat healthy to get rid of them, it's just my bone structure. Strangely though, I often find myself in strange fantasies where I think I'm attractive, like 'maybe that guy thinks I'm cute.' I have to mentally slap myself when I think of these things.

Being ugly has made me become a very jealous person aswell. I see someone thinner or more attractive than me and I feel like crying. It makes me feel even more disgusting than I feel when I remember what I look like.

My parents told me I'm not ugly, which lifted my confidence for a while until I realized everyone's parents say that. Anyways I feel so envious when I see (specifically a woman) who is attractive. It's a disgusting feeling really, I don't want to feel like this. I've always wanted to just tear my skin off and just be an entity that could not be perceived.

 

[yesi]

Everyone is harder on themselves than what an unbiased person would say, also men are attracted to all kinds, there is no universal unattractive thing so don't give up hope :)

It doesn't mean your feelings aren't real, but bear in mind that most of it is the depression talking.

 

[Snailey]

The halo effect is harsh. Seeing someone get spoken to with so much enthusiasm, only for them to turn to you and give you a monotone blank voice.

 

[Jamesbond]

One persons ugly is another persons beauty,
I'd rather be with a person who made me a cup of tea and had a chat with me after a bad day than someone so vein they are too obsessed with their looks to notice id had a bad day!
There is no pressure to look a certain way it's all just media manipulation, you were born to look exactly how you do. We can't control how we look, only how we behave and treat one another, that is where true beauty lies.
We all get old and our looks deteriorate anyway, just be kind, be loving, and the rest doesn't matter.
Plenty of movie stars are blessed with "physical good looks" but they are known for being arseholes lol.
You're perfect just how you are.
I see 'models" in the paper who are supposed to be "beautiful" and I think they have more mental health problems than a lot of us on here how they deform themselves.
You're not ugly and you shouldn't compare yourself to anyone else. Be kinder to yourself, be loving and the best version of yourself you can be, and one day mr right will sweep you off your feet and appreciate you for who you are!
The only form of ugly that exists, is In behaviour.
Please be kinder to yourself

 

[NihilDoll]

"A man would date a rock if it made the first move"
Don't be too harsh on yourself. You don't deserve someone who's only into you for the looks. That's a recipe for disaster anyways.
Like with many other things, people's expectations are grossly skewed by social media shit.
If all you see are plastic models, you're bound to feel bad about yourself.

But believe me, there are plenty dudes out there that actually feel the same way you do.
The issue comes from that you're now both sitting there, with shattered self esteem, and not being able to find each other.

Live the best life you can.
Always keep in mind, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, and once people stop oogling all those pretty people... how much of them will actually be left?
How much "person" is actually behind that facade?
Usually not enough to be jealous about anything, really.
Make sure to be a whole person. Be yourself to its fullest. That, too, is an incredibly attractive trait.

 

[Jamesbond]

"A man would date a rock if it made the first move"
Don't be too harsh on yourself. You don't deserve someone who's only into you for the looks. That's a recipe for disaster anyways.
Like with many other things, people's expectations are grossly skewed by social media shit.
If all you see are plastic models, you're bound to feel bad about yourself.

But believe me, there are plenty dudes out there that actually feel the same way you do.
The issue comes from that you're now both sitting there, with shattered self esteem, and not being able to find each other.

Live the best life you can.
Always keep in mind, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, and once people start oogling all those pretty people... how much of them will actually be left?
How much "person" is actually behind that facade?
Usually not enough to be jealous about anything, really.
Make sure to be a whole person. Be yourself to its fullest. That, too, is an incredibly attractive trait.

100% mate I think the sense of what the average man desires has become so distorted. Trust, love, care and loyalty has been replaced by massive fish lips, filler, and silicon, when the reality is so different, no body asks us lol but what ever sells papers and earns theses companies money. It's such a shame it leads to this. There is no such thing as ugly, it's what ever floats your boat and we're all different. Their is someone out there for everyone it's just finding the right one who will love you for who you are!

 

[Aflame5926]

i gave up. im about 5.2m and the girls i like somehow likes tall white man.

it sure gives me such a positive boost to my self esteem every single time. FML

My parents told me I'm not ugly, which lifted my confidence for a while until I realized everyone's parents say that. Anyways I feel so envious when I see (specifically a woman) who is attractive. It's a disgusting feeling really, I don't want to feel like this. I've always wanted to just tear my skin off and just be an entity that could not be perceived.

its certainly not impossible tho. there are quite some people that find personality more important.
got a couple old friends and i can say those girls aint pretty. but it does work out

but yes as a man im pretty sure my vieuw is also messed up after all them p*rn.
but im here so yeah hopefully CTB 1 day

 

[NihilDoll]

100% mate I think the sense of what the average man desires has become so distorted. Trust, love, care and loyalty has been replaced by massive fish lips, filler, and silicon, when the reality is so different, no body asks us lol but what ever sells papers and earns theses companies money. It's such a shame it leads to this. There is no such thing as ugly, it's what ever floats your boat and we're all different. Their is someone out there for everyone it's just finding the right one who will love you for who you are!

Exactly this.
There's a lid for every pot.
And since i love stupid comparisons: People are into the *wildest* stuff... i don't think it's physically possible to be "too ugly" to not be attractive to *someone* out there :D

But in all seriousness: Don't compare yourself to "pop-culture beauty". It's a losing game.
Just be your own beauty, that's more than enough, and more than these dolls have going for them already.

but yes as a man im pretty sure my vieuw is also messed up after all them p*rn.
but im here so yeah hopefully CTB 1 day

(This quote system will be the end of me >.<)
I sometimes forget where i am and sentences like that still catch me off guard

I sincerely hope that everything turns out well for you, regardless of where your journey takes you!

 

[Jamesbond]

Exactly this.
There's a lid for every pot.
And since i love stupid comparisons: People are into the *wildest* stuff... i don't think it's physically possible to be "too ugly" to not be attractive to *someone* out there :D

But in all seriousness: Don't compare yourself to "pop-culture beauty". It's a losing game.
Just be your own beauty, that's more than enough, and more than these dolls have going for them already.

(This quote system will be the end of me >.<)
I sometimes forget where i am and sentences like that still catch me off guard

I sincerely hope that everything turns out well for you, regardless of where your journey takes you!

Here's a scenario for you to consider. You're a gentleman considered the most handsome man in the world! kind and compassionate, a heart full of love, but every woman you meet only wants to be with you because of the way you look. On paper you've got it all, you're friends are all envious of of you having a "beautiful" woman on your arm but emotionally you're empty, In a void and feel lost and empty .you never meet the right person who truely makes you feel happy and cares about you so deeply they would lay their life on the line for you. Stick with you through thick and thin!
For me beauty comes from the love we show each other. Obviously there has to be an attraction, but often that attraction is developed over time, learning about someone, developing a connection and sharing interests
This lady will meet the man of her dreams one day, he might be over weight, he might be a bag of bones, he might be mentally ill, he might be a boring geography or science teacher( hopefully not Walter white) he might be mr olyimpia, But it will be real and they will be accepting of each other and they will be happy.
No body is ugly. We are just conditioned to think that we are.
You go out and kill someone you're an ugly person
The OP is no doubt beautiful but comparing herself to airbrushed pictures that she sees in magazines and online.
Her Mr right will come along I believe that In my heart.

 

[GyreOfAsh]

Same. I'm mtn at best. Sub5 at worst. I hate that we can live in a world so unfair in this way. Mistreated for factors completely out of our control. Forced to identify with these random bodies we've been given. Expected to function as if were all exact replicas of one another. I'm tired of playing this sick rigged game. I cannot identify with this build.

 

[Jamesbond]

Same. I'm mtn at best. Sub5 at worst. I hate that we can live in a world so unfair in this way. Mistreated for factors completely out of our control. Forced to identify with these random bodies we've been given. Expected to function as if were all exact replicas of one another. I'm tired of playing this sick rigged game. I cannot identify with this build.

They tell me to have hope.im just about hanging on, im not here to to be a saviour or anything like that. I'm a physical and mental mess, stopped taking care of myself years ago.
the only thing that sometimes keeps me going is knowing I'm still kind. Like I said non of us are ugly until we start hurting other people we just have problems that we can't understand and cope with.

 

[rainatthebusstop]

I hate being ugly. You are treated so much worse than an attractive or average person. After searching up what men find unnattractive ive come to the realiization I will never find a partner and will be alone.

As a lot of people pointed out in this thread, general lists of what men find unattractive are blanket statements that don't apply to every man out there.

Strangely though, I often find myself in strange fantasies where I think I'm attractive, like 'maybe that guy thinks I'm cute.' I have to mentally slap myself when I think of these things.

Don't do that. Maybe they did find you cute. Or attractive.

My parents told me I'm not ugly, which lifted my confidence for a while until I realized everyone's parents say that.

They usually say that because a lot of parents actually think that. As someone who thinks their parents are insane for saying that, it's pretty unbelievable but it is true. They actually do think that.

 

[Jamesbond]

They usually say that because a lot of parents actually think that. As someone who thinks their parents are insane for saying that, it's pretty unbelievable but it is true. They actually do think that.

when parents make a child they obviously have an attraction to one one another I think that's a really strong point. You are the product of that relationship and love. There is someone out there who will love you the same way your parents fell I'm love and you will fell equally In love. I've lived on my own for 16 years now. Some times are harder than others. But OP the right one will come along and until then you're young free and single. Even if you can't sing go out to a karaoke bar, go embarrass yourself at a dance class and learn a new skill.
You'll meet new people and the right one will come along when you least expect it.