Grief and Loss Support Megathread

[looseye]

Current demand says we need it, so we'll have it.

This thread is for those of you who suffer from grief/loss and wish to share their experiences, vent or seek to give or receive advice on how to deal with such feelings.

It is completely up to you how much you want to share and how frequently (or infrequently) you choose to post here. Keep it at a level that you're comfortable with.

Staff will monitor this thread to ensure that it stays a safe and supportive thread for those who participate.

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[BBBB]

I have severe "Complicated Grief and Loss" 😥 (most people don't know what this is).
I'm not ready to share more than that right now but I'm "glad" this thread was made. Maybe it will help me and others suffering with similar issues??

 

[Per Ardua Ad Astra]

Thank you 🙏💔

 

[leaf23]

Thank you to members who've suggested this thread and admin and staff who've created this ❤️. I'm sad that so many are suffering because of this to the point that a thread of this nature had to be created but thankful at the same time there's a safe place like this. Much appreciation to everyone who've worked on this 🤗.

People say that remembering those who've left us will heal us but I just feel unbearably sad all the time. Remembering them is just painful to me. I don't really want to talk about them, or reminisce about good memories about them because I just associate it with what I've lost, how I'll never experience the simple joy and safety of their mere presence. Right after they died I used to try to imagine and pretend that they were just out or in another city. I would've been fine with that, with never seeing or even speaking with them ever again, if they were still alive and happy and safe somewhere out in the world. But it can never stick, reality eventually smacks me in the face and I'll have to accept they've died and won't ever see them again.

Oh, and on a related note, I've learned something fairly recent that surprised me. Grief and loss isn't restricted to the trauma of losing a person or a pet. It can also mean trauma over losing a job, your house..it can mean coping from a breakup or a divorce. I feel so stupid not realizing before 😅
EDIT: I mean, the trauma responses and the treatment therapies are similar, I apologize for being unclear 😅

 

[orca87]

I’ve destroyed a relationship and with it my whole life (lost friends, my drive for my career). Even worse, I realized my own illusionary life that has been a nightmare since I was 5. I was unable to live but was pretty good in keeping up a facade of hope to myself and my environment. Now, I have nothing. Not the love of my life, no friends, no apartment, no job, no hope.
It’s just too late for me to start over.