Got rejected by my crush for being 'too chronically online'

[Wolf-Alice]

Be SO FUCKING FOR REAL. Why can't it be for a good reason? Like me being pathetic and ugly and unlikeable and everything? Maybe he's lying. It's so stupid. I don't like to admit it but I do spend a lot of time online. He only knows that because I post things for him to see them. I really fucked up.

 

[anastenka]

that's such a half assed excuse to not date someone I'm sorry

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Rarely do I see guys ever use that against women. That's usually something women are meant to say against men. His loss I guess.

 

[Wolf-Alice]

that's such a half assed excuse to not date someone I'm sorry

thank you. it really is.

Rarely do I see guys ever use that against women. That's usually something women are meant to say against men. His loss I guess.

thank you. he said he 'doesn't want to be reminded of his past'

 

[Worndown]

Did he have a gf with internet issues in the past? While this does not please you, he has his own issues to avoid or overcome.
You could post less but there is no guarantee he will notice or feel comfortable.
A crush is just that. There is a lot of one sided commitment.
I am sorry you got "crushed" by this. A suggestion is to move on. To pursue further gets too close to stalking and that is not good for you.
To say "you win some, you lose some" will not be comforting, but it is true. I hope you can move on to a more compatible person. They are out there.

 

[Abyssal]

Sounds fake tbh. That or surface level. Hate to say it, but I genuinely think you're better off without them, they sound kinda judgemental.

 

[thenamingofcats]

What's wrong with being chronically online?

 

[Saturn_]

Anyone else feel like the terms "chronically online" or "terminally online" are incredibly presumptuous and dismissive of our struggling youth, who are now more online than ever because of a complex variety of factors? I have always hated hearing those buzzwords, and ironically they often come from other "terminally online" people themselves, unable to articulate their grievances with something because of a poor vocabulary. The Internet has become a necessity in many people's lives, no shit some of them would become reliant on this invention if it offers them connection from likeminded people in such a judgmental and broken society. I'm sorry you had to go through this OP. Really hoping you can feel better.

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Be SO FUCKING FOR REAL. Why can't it be for a good reason? Like me being pathetic and ugly and unlikeable and everything? Maybe he's lying. It's so stupid. I don't like to admit it but I do spend a lot of time online. He only knows that because I post things for him to see them. I really fucked up.

He may be serious. My wife can't get off her fucking phone even if she tries, and it's gotten to the point that we can no longer have conversations because she's more invested in the phone than what's going on around her.

 

[sadcausebad]

He may be serious. My wife can't get off her fucking phone even if she tries, and it's gotten to the point that we can no longer have conversations because she's more invested in the phone than what's going on around her.

I feel this, my current partner rather post online than actually talk me lol

 

[Wolf-Alice]

He may be serious. My wife can't get off her fucking phone even if she tries, and it's gotten to the point that we can no longer have conversations because she's more invested in the phone than what's going on around her.

That's the thing, I am definitely not like that. I feel undeserving of being referred to as this.

 

[1MiserableGuy]

That's the thing, I am definitely not like that. I feel undeserving of being referred to as this.

If you're receiving complaints about it, you are. The population doesn't have a fucking clue just how much time they spend on the phone. It's gotten so bad, trying to interact with people independently of the phone is treated as awkward. The industrial revolution was a mistake.

 

[Wolf-Alice]

It's gotten so bad, trying to interact with people independently of the phone is treated as awkward. The industrial revolution was a mistake.

Agree. I'll try to be better and rise above the allegations.