Gf issues. My last weekend

[Heartbroken22]

Hi all. First of all I have to say that my english is the worst but I will try to express myself since I didnt tell this to anyone.
I only have my family there. No friends, no girlfriend, no one. My gf broke up with me, this is so cliché but feels horrible, she was my first love and I gave everything to her she says that im different to her. I told her if we broke up I will stay alone forever, she didnt give a f as obvious. I dont wanna live the rest of my life alone and I can't stop thinking on her. I know that my thoughts are stupid, it is just my life. All was going nice, i got a job and I kept studying on what I love, but she had to talk to me again just to know how i was going... and we started chatting and finally she said that she was looking for another man that suits her. She broke my heart again and I blocked her instantly then she tried to use her another accounts so I delete mines. Hope you get what i said. This friday at midnight I will pass away first of all I have to get my salary to give to my mom. And then she could get the life insurance too. I'm hating myself for leaving my family alone but i dont wanna live empty the rest of my life thinking on her. Thank you for read and sorry for my bad english.

 

[sharky]

I understand how you feel, may I ask how old you are? Heartbreak is horrible, but the truth is, there isn't just one love. You'll meet many people during your lifetime. I was in the same position as you, but one year later I met another girl and the relationship was even better than the previous. Then we broke up and some time later I met someone else. Nobody can say if you'll miss her forever, it's possible, but you won't be alone.

 

[OldDrummer]

*NEVER* off yourself for someone else. There's 4 billion other women out there, what are the statistical odds that at least *one* isn't a better option for you?

 

[Red Scare]

I agree with the other two comments, this is probably not a good reason to take your life. You already found one girlfriend, the chances of being able to find another one are pretty good. You seem like a good catch, you have a good job, you are a family man, you are studying to improve your life.

Seriously fuck her, she seems like a heartless woman. She doesn't regard your feelings, you deserve better than that. Look at it like that, you should be glad to be rid of her. Focus on finding someone who can appreciate you for being you.

 

[Heartbroken22]

I understand how you feel, may I ask how old you are? Heartbreak is horrible, but the truth is, there isn't just one love. You'll meet many people during your lifetime. I was in the same position as you, but one year later I met another girl and the relationship was even better than the previous. Then we broke up and some time later I met someone else. Nobody can say if you'll miss her forever, it's possible, but you won't be alone.

I know what you mean but I dont really like this world, the superficiality, fake ppl around, at the beginning she was different then she started to become another girl with her aesthicish kind of mind. I dont have anything left to live for. Thanks for your words btw

 

[Darkover]

life is pointless you fall in love with someone just for them to dump you, whats the point in trying to love again if it will only end up the same way with you being miserable with nothing but your own thoughts to keep you company, we've had enough of these so called human relationships once the trust has been borken there's no going back you get one chance at life and this is how it treates us despicable absolutely pointless there's no such thing has love when its just one sided everything going to hurt you the thing is to choose the things that are worth hurting for, i want a end to this so call universe to be nothing for all time. there was never any point to life in this place just to suffer and die.

 

[Ethereal Knight]

I can relate, I became increasingly more suicidal after my gf broke up with me, three years ago. I've been alone since then and yes, being alone sucks.

human beings were made for affection, touch and physical contact, intimacy, sex and orgasms.

being alone makes our lives gray and colorless.

but I agree with people above who say you'll have other opportunities to meet new people. it's just a matter of time.

I had many opportunities. I rejected them because I wanted to learn how to be alone and I was still heartbroken.
now if I could go back in time, I would have taken one of these opportunities because being with someone you like can be quite amazing and teach you a lot. it's okay to get a rebound relationship. rebounds can help. I regret that I didn't rebound when I had the chance.

I'll still have other opportunities, but in my case I have to fix my self-esteem and insecurity issues before I venture into relationships.

I think you should at least wait more before deciding to CTB. I'll give a couple of reasons for that.
(1), if what you fear is just being alone, then your fear is irrational, because you really will meet other girls. it's just a matter of time.
and (2), making big decisions in the heat of the moment, while you're heavily influenced by emotions, can make you do things you can regret deeply, things that you wouldn't do if you were more "sober", cold, rational and free from these almost drug-like emotions that naturally happen after a break-up.

whats the point in trying to love again if it will only end up the same way with you being miserable with nothing but your own thoughts to keep you company

that's what I thought for a long time. until I realized that having a glimmer of hope to love again can make us more energized, happy and motivated to do good things for us outside romances, like going to the gym, eating healthy, talking to people etc...
hope can be medicine.
even flirting and talking to people can make you feel more alive.
even if you're never gonna find "the one".

 

[NorseHel]

As the others have said, this doesn't have to be the end. I understand that you're hurting, and I can't pretend to know how badly. Loneliness is a poison, but it doesn't have to be forever. Give it some more thought, a little bit of time, and maybe you'll find it doesn't quite hurt as much. As for what happens after that... you may feel you have no hope of forming new bonds, but all I can say to that is this: you've done it before. who says you can't do it again?

Wherever the road takes you, I wish you the best.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry that you are suffering, I can imagine that it must be painful and devastating what you are going through. People really can be so disappointing. I wish you the best in whatever happens.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

life is pointless you fall in love with someone just for them to dump you, whats the point in trying to love again if it will only end up the same way with you being miserable with nothing but your own thoughts to keep you company, we've had enough of these so called human relationships once the trust has been borken there's no going back you get one chance at life and this is how it treates us despicable absolutely pointless there's no such thing has love when its just one sided everything going to hurt you the thing is to choose the things that are worth hurting for, i want a end to this so call universe to be nothing for all time. there was never any point to life in this place just to suffer and die.

I can relate, I became increasingly more suicidal after my gf broke up with me, three years ago. I've been alone since then and yes, being alone sucks.

human beings were made for affection, touch and physical contact, intimacy, sex and orgasms.

being alone makes our lives gray and colorless.

but I agree with people above who say you'll have other opportunities to meet new people. it's just a matter of time.

I had many opportunities. I rejected them because I wanted to learn how to be alone and I was still heartbroken.
now if I could go back in time, I would have taken one of these opportunities because being with someone you like can be quite amazing and teach you a lot. it's okay to get a rebound relationship. rebounds can help. I regret that I didn't rebound when I had the chance.

I'll still have other opportunities, but in my case I have to fix my self-esteem and insecurity issues before I venture into relationships.

I think you should at least wait more before deciding to CTB. I'll give a couple of reasons for that.
(1), if what you fear is just being alone, then your fear is irrational, because you really will meet other girls. it's just a matter of time.
and (2), making big decisions in the heat of the moment, while you're heavily influenced by emotions, can make you do things you can regret deeply, things that you wouldn't do if you were more "sober", cold, rational and free from these almost drug-like emotions that naturally happen after a break-up.


that's what I thought for a long time. until I realized that having a glimmer of hope to love again can make us more energized, happy and motivated to do good things for us outside romances, like going to the gym, eating healthy, talking to people etc...
hope can be medicine.
even flirting and talking to people can make you feel more alive.
even if you're never gonna find "the one".

I can quite relate to these two comments. I have tried so many times, some of them recently, that after the last time I can't try anymore. Too hurt and damaged. It's very exhausting to invest in someone, to make yourself known, to be the best person you can be only to then be abandoned as usual. Enough is enough. People just sucks.

 

[Pain In The Ass]

Hi all. First of all I have to say that my english is the worst but I will try to express myself since I didnt tell this to anyone.
I only have my family there. No friends, no girlfriend, no one. My gf broke up with me, this is so cliché but feels horrible, she was my first love and I gave everything to her she says that im different to her. I told her if we broke up I will stay alone forever, she didnt give a f as obvious. I dont wanna live the rest of my life alone and I can't stop thinking on her. I know that my thoughts are stupid, it is just my life. All was going nice, i got a job and I kept studying on what I love, but she had to talk to me again just to know how i was going... and we started chatting and finally she said that she was looking for another man that suits her. She broke my heart again and I blocked her instantly then she tried to use her another accounts so I delete mines. Hope you get what i said. This friday at midnight I will pass away first of all I have to get my salary to give to my mom. And then she could get the life insurance too. I'm hating myself for leaving my family alone but i dont wanna live empty the rest of my life thinking on her. Thank you for read and sorry for my bad english.

Time heals these kinds of things. Wait a few months at least and see how you feel then. Everyone feels awful right after a big change has happened. Your brain has to be given time to get used to it, and make sense of it. Block her, remove her from your life, and see how you feel in a few months, once your brain has had chance to process it all.

 

[TheWood]

Never entrust your happiness to others. Never get back with an ex, if you broke up the first time there was a reason. Never give everything to a person, there must be a balance between giving and receiving. I'm sorry for your suffering, but don't act rashly. Now you are suffering a lot and it's normal to think that it will last forever. But let some time pass to make sure you make the best decision for yourself. Don't throw yourself away like that for someone who doesn't deserve you after all. Give yourself some time and in the meantime think about improving yourself even if it's difficult. If time has passed, with a cold mind, you won't find benefit then this is another matter