Venting Friend...

[Skelix]

I am unable to do my homework because of the feeling of loneliness I have carried since I was seven, due to my inability to socialize. I envy people who have friends; I don't care about having a girlfriend, but for God's sake, I would kill to have a friend who understands me.

I would rather have this than be mistreated by my family.

 

[LunarEc]

I feel you lol I never had a single friend my entire life Idk if its cuz im just kept to myself or because Im socially awkward.

 

[Crow_88]

I hear it. I had friends somehow and then they slowly just all drifted away. I know that they were friends with me due to proximity. And as soon as they could get away from me - they did. DMs are always open!

 

[lost_one]

I think a lot of people here shere that feeling and honestly to me having a friend here will never be the same as an IRL friend, but at least you can practice here. Socializing is hard, but it is a skill that can be learned, it won't be easy, but it can be learned, my therapist has been trying for two months to get me to just talk to people, just ask their name... before that conversation I had never realized how much I avoided even asking people their names. Well I did it once, asked the doorwoman her name...it's something.

I guess the idea is to talk almost randomly to random people, people you are probably never going to see again, so there is no pressure to "say the right thing" if you end up as ackward well, chances are you will never see them again.

I don't think I am in a good poosition to give advice here, but that is waht my therapist told me. Just get used to the feeling of being noticed, of talking, saying something, anything...what you doesn't matter that much chances are people will have most likely forgotten it in a week. Still finding conection isn't and easy feat, and I can't promise you will succeed, idk.

Good Luck

 

[SickNSad2024]

How do you know what to say to random people? I think that is the challenge I have.

And at work, even though I say good morning, my coworkers told me they hated me up front because I don't say anything else or ask how they are doing. Usually the reason I don't say anything else is because they are already rambling on to each other. How the heck do you get a word in? Anyway I always thought that was a wierd reason to hate someone. And even when I do say something, they don't even listen and continue to say I "never talk," so what is even the point when I am invisible and they only talk about me to say my silence makes them insecure.

 

[Skelix]

I feel you lol I never had a single friend my entire life Idk if its cuz im just kept to myself or because Im socially awkward.

I am both

I hear it. I had friends somehow and then they slowly just all drifted away. I know that they were friends with me due to proximity. And as soon as they could get away from me - they did. DMs are always open!

That must really hurt, as if life wasn't already hard enough and now it's to go on alone, that must be a shit. I'd like to talk privately with you but being asocial all my life turned me into an ignorant zombie who is bored with online conversations and IRL.

I think a lot of people here shere that feeling and honestly to me having a friend here will never be the same as an IRL friend, but at least you can practice here. Socializing is hard, but it is a skill that can be learned, it won't be easy, but it can be learned, my therapist has been trying for two months to get me to just talk to people, just ask their name... before that conversation I had never realized how much I avoided even asking people their names. Well I did it once, asked the doorwoman her name...it's something.

I guess the idea is to talk almost randomly to random people, people you are probably never going to see again, so there is no pressure to "say the right thing" if you end up as ackward well, chances are you will never see them again.

I don't think I am in a good poosition to give advice here, but that is waht my therapist told me. Just get used to the feeling of being noticed, of talking, saying something, anything...what you doesn't matter that much chances are people will have most likely forgotten it in a week. Still finding conection isn't and easy feat, and I can't promise you will succeed, idk.

Good Luck

Thanks for the advices, I will try

How do you know what to say to random people? I think that is the challenge I have.

And at work, even though I say good morning, my coworkers told me they hated me up front because I don't say anything else or ask how they are doing. Usually the reason I don't say anything else is because they are already rambling on to each other. How the heck do you get a word in? Anyway I always thought that was a wierd reason to hate someone. And even when I do say something, they don't even listen and continue to say I "never talk," so what is even the point when I am invisible and they only talk about me to say my silence makes them insecure.

This is how I feel at school (the biggest trauma generator).

 

[Crow_88]

I had to laugh. So very bored, indeed. Zombification

 

[Skelix]

I had to laugh. So very bored, indeed. Zombification

Well, at least I made you laugh