Venting Finding a boyfriend could actually save my life

[redkitsune98]

I've talked many times about how my relationship with my ex was amazing and losing him broke me, and how the trauma made me afraid of even meeting someone new
As a gay man, it is even harder to find people to love with hookup NSA culture
But instead I've come to the realization I could try someone new, and maybe if it felt good I could work on my mental health and live
But the thing is no one ever feels interested in me. Not a single boy ever comes talk to me
I'm at a point even a long distance relationship with a guy from another country could provide me with the comfort and joy of someone caring about me in that manner
But my chances are null and love flees from me no matter what I do

 

[blessforus]

You could pm me

 

[AbsentMindedHuman]

Sadly I feel the same way. I have been without someone to love for far to long and I don't have the appeal for people to want to connect with me in any way. I feel as though im doomed to live alone. Im sorry you are hurting friend. You deserve someone to love and care for you. we all do. I sincerely hope you can find that someone again.

 

[redkitsune98]

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Sadly I feel the same way. I have been without someone to love for far to long and I don't have the appeal for people to want to connect with me in any way. I feel as though im doomed to live alone. Im sorry you are hurting friend. You deserve someone to love and care for you. we all do. I sincerely hope you can find that someone again.

Loneliness hurts

 

[OldandOut]

I am a 60 year old gay man...I hear what you are saying. You are right about hookup and NSA culture

Humans are a social creature. We need each other to not just survive, but to grow and to be what we can be. And no amount of psychiatric pills or therapy and it's "grounding" techniques or "mindfulness" is going to change that. Loneliness is a form of solitary confinement, the cruelest punishment that can be inflicted on another human.

I too, hope that you can find someone to share lifes times with. It really can be wonderfu and I hope you find that.

 

[RoadToGehenna]

Well, the hookup culture is everywhere. Women have it easier in order to get romantic partners. Gays mighg struggle a bit more but I think you can find success with dating apps. I wish I were gay lol

 

[redkitsune98]

Well, the hookup culture is everywhere. Women have it easier in order to get romantic partners. Gays mighg struggle a bit more but I think you can find success with dating apps. I wish I were gay lol

Yeah i think it is so hard nowadays to actually find love. It hurts

 

[MissYouBoobaloo]

:( It's real, I got extremely lucky that a friend I made through work slowly grew to be my best friend and eventually boyfriend. Then I lost him to cancer. This world can be so incredibly cruel. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 29 and it was him. Obviously what happened to me was super rare, but try to hold out some hope that if a dope like me can find it, so can anyone.

 

[redkitsune98]

:( It's real, I got extremely lucky that a friend I made through work slowly grew to be my best friend and eventually boyfriend. Then I lost him to cancer. This world can be so incredibly cruel. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 29 and it was him. Obviously what happened to me was super rare, but try to hold out some hope that if a dope like me can find it, so can anyone.

I'm so sorry you lost him in such a tragic way

 

[lament.]

As a gay man, it is even harder to find people to love with hookup NSA culture

This is so real, everyone just wants sex, and if there is love and romance involved then sex is very quickly expected. I hope you can find someone who loves you back.

 

[redkitsune98]

This is so real, everyone just wants sex, and if there is love and romance involved then sex is very quickly expected. I hope you can find someone who loves you back.

I hope so

 

[redkitsune98]

I am a 60 year old gay man...I hear what you are saying. You are right about hookup and NSA culture

Humans are a social creature. We need each other to not just survive, but to grow and to be what we can be. And no amount of psychiatric pills or therapy and it's "grounding" techniques or "mindfulness" is going to change that. Loneliness is a form of solitary confinement, the cruelest punishment that can be inflicted on another human.

I too, hope that you can find someone to share lifes times with. It really can be wonderfu and I hope you find that.

Therapy just teaches you to be happy with a life you don't want. It teaches you to be happy single. It doesn't help you, like, find a partner. It doesn't help you get the life you want. It sugarcoats your life so you swallow it easier

 

[Coringa]

Sinceramente eu adorei este seu post, pois muito bom saber q vc dará uma nova oportunidade para o amor.

Não tenha pressa, isso vai acontecer naturalmente e sem forçar. Apenas te digo para ir com cautela, não caia numa relação de cabeça, se resguarde um pouco, até para não sofrer caso não dê certo. Sabe aquele meme de subir a escala né? Então, vá degrau por degrau, curtindo cada fase.

Eu sempre falei q vc é muito novo e tem muito tempo pela frente. Muito feliz por vc dar mais uma chance. Aquele idiota nunca te mereceu. Acredita q vai dar tudo certo. Estou na torcida.

 

[redkitsune98]

Sinceramente eu adorei este seu post, pois muito bom saber q vc dará uma nova oportunidade para o amor.

Não tenha pressa, isso vai acontecer naturalmente e sem forçar. Apenas te digo para ir com cautela, não caia numa relação de cabeça, se resguarde um pouco, até para não sofrer caso não dê certo. Sabe aquele meme de subir a escala né? Então, vá degrau por degrau, curtindo cada fase.

Eu sempre falei q vc é muito novo e tem muito tempo pela frente. Muito feliz por vc dar mais uma chance. Aquele idiota nunca te mereceu. Acredita q vai dar tudo certo. Estou na torcida.

Muito obrigado, Coringa. Estou tentando me dar a chance de conhecer novas pessoas. Todos os meus transtornos e problemas não vão se curar com um namoro mas ter apoio para sair da solidão e poder confiar em alguém e contar com alguém faria toda a diferença. Vamos ver até quando eu consigo esperar, mas acho que mereço essa chance