Family ruined you?

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

My family completely ruined me.. i will never forgive them

 

[skepsis]

My dad ruined the life's of everyone in my family, but we patched ourselves back up. Most did at least, I didn't.

 

[sammiechzxv]

They definitely contributed

 

[Kundalini Guy]

My father is the single handed reason am so messed up. He did some shitty decisions for me while I was still a child.

 

[CW36]

Parents should have to pass a competency test before they can create kids.

 

[AllFoxedOut]

this needs a 3rd option for "kind of"! they definitely played their part.

 

[tora]

they partially did, but not on purpose. I think my parents did the best they could with raising me, but they made a lot of mistakes.

 

[Angel of Spades]

Definitely, completely, 100%. I didn't realize just how much they've kept from me that's completely fucked me up until very recently, maybe within the past 2 years. They've kept lots of personal family business away from me, they have a history of always arguing, being stubborn, victimizing themselves, spreading blame around to everyone, etc etc all the fun stuff.

On top of that, they're also the kind of family that refuses to actually communicate, so everybody just keeps their concerns and disagreements quiet until it all erupts and a fight happens which is always a screaming match. Most of the time it's an annoyance, but lately, they've been pulling me into their disagreements more, and I've had to act as the mediator more and more, just like I used to when I was much younger.

It just grates on me now, thinking about all the things that they've screwed up for me. I know that they also, at the same time, are much better than many other families out there, and they do love me and want the best for me, but it's really difficult to reconcile the two "sides" to them that I've been made aware of; all I can think about is what they've done wrong, and it's difficult to balance that out with what they've done right.

 

[F&Inside]

Hello everyone.
I completely agree with this whole topic
To add something, when I see loving and supportive families, I am sincerely touched just to see them. Good luck everyone.

 

[busybee]

My family is supportive to the point that my bf calls it toxic lol
They request that I talk to them regulary and if I don't they threaten to send the police for a check up. I guess my bad depression and prior hospitalization are to blame though. Been better since my bf movedin though!

 

[Darkover]

from giving me weed from age 12, to never taking me to the dentis, to damaging my left shoulder, my family has done nothing but let me down my whole life

 

[venin]

Of course they did

 

[Death is my goal]

they were a part of it

 

[etrnllxid]

HELL YES, they've permanently destabilized my life!

 

[burglarlydante]

yep, they've ruined my mental health completely, I'm sure they will never assume the pain they caused me
I'll never forgive them for it
It still hurts and it ruined my life as a fuck
I've spoken to them yesterday and my suicidal thoughts rised to 110%
It's insane how can a phone call, with your child abusers can ruin your day
I think suicide is the only answer to my "life"
Every second I an still alive is a second of pain I "live"
I don't live I only survive
My "life" is ruined and I don't know how am I still alive at this point, after 2 failed suicide attempts
I want to die asap I cannot take this anymore!!!!!

 

[girlsboysthems]

yes, but i was also born with problems, so i get it and cannot call them entirely guilty, i just wish they sought help when the time was appropriate.

 

[777cave]

Somewhat, but I'm to blame for not seeking out therapy a lot sooner. In my family it's generational and they carried it on. I'm fighting it.

 

[Werewolf.]

I have been sexually taken advantage of by family members when I was a young boy, before puberty (yes, really). That's a fact I rarely share with people. Having said that, I don't have anyone to blame but myself. I'm not taking the role of the victim and I prefer to not deflect blame. It is what it is. FYI, I'm not saying anyone who blames their family is stuck with a victim mentality, I'm simply talking about myself.

 

[Sweet Tart]

My family is the source of my trauma. Everything destabilizing that's happened or is currently happening in my life is connected to shit from the past. I should have ctb last year before moving in with them but I was too apathetic to care if I lived or died.

 

[Amidaa]

Yeah totally, everything was fine then they brought problem to me i would never forgive them for it. i just find it sad that even now my dad try to bring the broken pieces together but after all he is a naive person.

 

[numbed one]

And m'y environment too didn't give me a chance to exist...