Failure 26, male.

[Coffeandamug]

One more year is gone and I have nothing to show for it. My younger sisters have degrees now and jobs. My friends have jobs and degrees and I am still stuck in this room. I don't know how I have maneged to fuck up this bad at life. I am 26 and I don't think I can stand seeing this anymore. I love life... but the wheight of being a failure is so enourmous I hardly can get out of bed... I have amounted to nothing... I can't see myself getting older without having these basic things. Maybe It was never meant to be...

 

[asterisk3]

2 years younger but similar situation. I know how it feels. I'm trying to hold onto hope that I'll achieve something to be happy about but I'm not so sure, the mental degradation has been too strong. Wish you the best.

 

[FrozenMango]

if you don't mind me asking, what did you study and what kind of job you can do?

at 26 years old, career struggles are normal. Don't be hard on yourself

 

[Versailles]

My Birthady #25 is near, and i feel the same of you, I don't have nothing for feel proud or something, my life stills withouth changes and I`m just waiting for the best opportunity to escape

 

[whatevs]

Good age to learn a profession, IMO. I picked programming when I was 29 and I got a job very quickly. Choose wisely.

 

[stermc]

I feel the same way sometimes. I try to do things to keep myself "intelligent" or at least informed, but when it comes to my career, I am completely stuck.

There are two things that sometimes help me:
1- I try as hard as I can to not compare myself to other people. Everyone goes through difficulties, but we all deal with them differently. To be depressed and mentally ill or just ill in general and accomplish everything people are accomplishing without any of these things is just asking for too much. I just try to look at myself with compassion, because I know (and only I know) what I have been through;

2- also, I try to stop thinking the way society wants me to think. Society says everyone must be successful at 30 and marry and have kids and own a house and travel and… holy shit! Sorry, but no. No way I am going to let this shitty stupid made up thing rule my life and my goals.

I am not saying I don't want to be successful and travel the whole world, believe me, I do! But it's my life and it's my process. My progress.

If you look at me from outside, I am just a lonely girl reading books and listening to music and writing poems but I am actually making progress. Is it the progress people expect me to do? Hell no. But it's still progress.

You take care of your mental health first. You learn to look at yourself with love and compassion first. You train your mind so you can overcome, little by little, all the obstacles first.
Then, you think about your career.

If you love life, if you want to get better, try again. In other ways, slowly, one day at a time. Step by step.

Well, that's what I think.
(I am here in case you feel like talking)

 

[myownpetvirus]

26 is still very very young. If you really do love life I would hard about your decision. You have a lot of options

 

[Rational man]

Stop judging yourself by other people's standard's. They have their pathway and you find yours!. And then your life may turn around for better days.

 

[Hurt]

29 here and I feel like a failure too. I haven't finished college yet. It's so hard to wake up and face the day. I'm so sorry that you're feeling like this too. Anyway I hope things get better for you.

 

[hungry_ghost]

If you weren't stuck in the room, what would you want to be doing right now?

You could even look into trade school.

Guys like electricians and sheet metal workers make a lot of money and they are really important to society.

 

[Freebird4567]

Im 31 and feel the same, everyone around me has kids a family, successful jobs etc and then there's me struggling with life and always fucking up

 

[Coffeandamug]

if you don't mind me asking, what did you study and what kind of job you can do?

at 26 years old, career struggles are normal. Don't be hard on yourself

Studied nothing, can do nothing

 

[Superdeterminist]

Success is purely luck-based. Lots of people hate this conclusion and they deny deny deny it. But it's a fact. So I wouldn't feel guilt about not being successful. Feeling bad though, yeah that's hard to avoid, because we all want success, and not getting it hurts bad.

 

[time2fly]

mid 20s here. same story. dont know where or when i fucked up but i sure did. dont know where to go from here its like all the doors are locked and the lights are off. like im lost in a maze but i dont know how i got here. do i keep walking and trying to find the exit or do i just say fuck it and die right here. ah the 20s are a interesting decade. i cant see myself continuing like this until my 30s. my biggest fear is to turn 30 and still be in the same situation as right now. that sounds like hell on top of hell. maybe we will all find our purpose. best wishes to you as i understand the feeling.

 

[Rocinante]

I'm going to school this year at 24. You have to start somewhere. As the proverb goes, "The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now."

 

[NothingElseMatters]

same situation, except i'm past 30. if you have an advice to not lose my mind, let me know