Discussion Experiences with people who have BPD/EUPD

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I would like to know of users' experience of people with BPD who do not have it themselves. I believe I have this and I read nothing but negative comments about people with BPD as though they are the worst people in the world and to be honest, I can see why. Just based on how I act and I am probably not the worst example. But my perception will be skewed.
I met someone else with BPD who allegedly "recovered" or now only had symptoms but not full-blown BPD who was one of the worst people I've ever met and split on me although luckily I wasn't fond of her so I didn't mind too much. But seeing how she was and acted, made me feel infinitely worse about myself, it was like a dark mirror. This was someone who professionals claimed was mostly recovered and was a nightmare, she displayed all the negative characteristics very clearly. I think this has been the final push I needed to commit to CTB.
So I would like to see what experiences others have had with people who have this disorder, no matter how bad.

 

[AliceTheGoon]

I worked with a woman who had intense mood swings which ruined our friendship. She mentioned something about BPD once, I don't know if she was diagnosed by a doctor or self-diagnosed. For a while we were pretty close, then she became increasingly disrespectful. I put up with it for a bit until she made an offhand comment about treating me poorly. At that point I was like well if you know you're doing it and you're still doing it then that pretty much wraps things up. I hadn't thought about BPD since then but I just looked it up and I could see that could have been her problem. I know she was on some psych meds, not sure exactly which.

 

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My ex of almost 6 years has BPD, she was the one who broke it off. If it matters she has the "quiet" type. The relationship was good imo and I learned a lot about myself as well as about BPD. I never really knew about the disorder prior to dating her so I made an effort of learning about it from the very beginning. Most of the time everything was great. I don't regret the relationship at all. It was hard to watch some of her self destructive behaviour though. As well as going back to physically and emotionally abusive people in her life. It made sense considering what I know about the disorder but it was hard to watch.

The only thing that really messed with me was near the end of the relationship when she asked me for money to help her out (i'm on disability) but i gave it to her anyway and she did pay me back but it just left a sour taste in my mouth knowing how she no longer felt the same way and ended it a bit after that. A lot of trauma happened to her before the breakup and i believe she was in an episode when she ended things because of the trauma - she seemed completely different.

Knowing what I know now, would i change my past? I don't think so. She accepted me for who i was, she saw me as a person, taught me what love meant, and was there for me basically through everything. She always wanted to help people even if she didn't receive it back. She is a good person.

(this might be all over the place so sorry about that, been struggling a lot today and my head is a mess)

 

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Thank you for the replies so far, it is interesting to get insight on this.