Venting Every conversation gets turned into something about my mom

[chaotic_crow]

I live with my grandma right now and I was just having a break down about how everyone treats me like shit since I became disabled. They act like I didn't have plans and I'm just lazy. She sympathized a little cause she had a stroke last year that's disabled her a little bit and I completely understand her frustration about not being able to do what she used to but she at least got to live a little first and nobody treats her like shit because she got sick. I said something along the lines of "but I didn't even get to live first, everything is gone and everyone left me because of it" and she immediately jumped to talking about my mom and how she should've been taking me to doctors but she didn't wanna get caught. I'm already having a break down I don't wanna talk about my childhood trauma and how much it fucked me over. I'm so frustrated, every single time I talk about myself and my life she always brings it back to talking about her daughter. I mean its nice she acknowledges her daughter did wrong but I don't wanna talk about it every time we have a discussion

 

[LostZombie]

The pain should always be about how it has affected you, because it's you time to vent and process what you want; I'm glad that you can see that .I would say that you should explain your boundaries to your grandmother since if she is able to that her own daughter did wrong, I believe that if she could see that much she would understand if you don't want her to talk about your mom. That is my 10 cents if its worth anything.