Does it ever get better

[whatever101]

I'm in so much pain. Idk what to do. I need a way out from this. I don't think it's ever going to get better.

 

[FuneralCry]

For me it will only get better when I die, as then I will be at peace and free from suffering. It is painful to be in a hopeless situation, I understand how you feel.

 

[whatever101]

For me it will only get better when I die, as then I will be at peace and free from suffering. It is painful to be in a hopeless situation, I understand how you feel.

I feel the same. Like all the suffering will only end if I ctb

 

[Snake of Eden]

It never got better for me and when I thought it was, it was just a mere delusion. It only and can only get worse

 

[whatever101]

It never got better for me and when I thought it was, it was just a mere delusion. It only and can only get worse

Ya. I feel like I should've died back when I started to feel this way. I could've saved myself from so much of pain and suffering

 

[Snake of Eden]

Ya. I feel like I should've died back when I started to feel this way. I could've saved myself from so much of pain and suffering

I too wish that

 

[TheHatedOne]

In my case it's only getting worse. My life has only going been downhill for years. I had a little hope last summer but it was already gone after a month. My final time is approaching.

 

[Huntfish34]

I think for Some people it can get better when in the right mindset and situation. While myself and numerous others here on SS it doesn't....

I wish I could Just pull the Fckn trigger and be Gone already but my sick mind is still holding onto some Hope that Maybe my shit life will get better. Fck idk,. I wish you nothing but the best.

Just my .02

Butch.

 

[forgotten15]

From my experience they don't get better.
There might be temporary moments when you feel a bit better and maybe have some hope, but life proved me those moments really don't last. They're more like an illusion and are quite dangerous because the fall that comes after an episode of "hope" it's so horrible.

 

[chocolatebar]

Considering that the effects from bad experiences last longer than the effects from good ones, life can only, mathematically, get worse, unless there's much more good events than bad ones.

That said, some people claim that their lives improved to the point of wanting to wake up the next day and I have no idea if it's true or just some self delusion.

 

[Smart No More]

I'm in so much pain. Idk what to do. I need a way out from this. I don't think it's ever going to get better.

Is it pain from physical illness or pain from sorrow and despair?

If it's the latter then I promise you it can get better and often does. You can find yourself looking back at this time be amazed and sometimes perplexed by just how much things have changed. In some cases the changing of social scene or addition of just one or two new acquaintances can change perspective in ways you can't or don't foresee. Other times a change in your surroundings or a move can have a massive impact. It can go either way really but if things are rwally bad there's usually a higher chance of it going better than worse. We all have limitations in the way of finance, health and general abilities so we of course must be realistic about these things and this reality is often stark and insurmountable however if you have your health you are richer than many and a little step out of your comfort zone for the sake of potential enrichment is almost always positive. Start with the small things. Do you feel overwhelmed by things you have put off? Are you taking care of your health and hygiene or do they get put off due to the instinct to wallow and curl up in a ball for comfort? It's such a trivial thing but in these circumstances treating yourself to a shower and a home cooked meal can be a really uplifting albeit fleeting uplifting experience and a first foot forward towards improvement as you learn to find the little things in life that keep you afloat. I'm not accusing you of being dirty or unhygienic by the way. I just know how deppression can impact oue priorities so I'm throwing out suggestions that maybe you can adapt to your personal situation which I don't know intimately.

What I'm really driving at is that there is often a reward for stepping out of your comfort zone and it can take a push to make that first move to get the ball rolling.

I would go on but fear making too many assumptions with very little info but if you need to open up with somebody please feel free. :)
One massive improver of life is finding things to look forward to and rationing them out. When you have something to look forward to through the day it helps you get through the grueling parts. It can be simple as food or a phonecall. Interaction with your pets or just getting some decent sleep. If you can do those things and enjoy them you are blessed in comparison to the terminaly ill etc. I mean obviously there is always potential for things to be worse but the lower you go the more potential there is for improvement no matter how minor. It's finding those little things you can enjoy and finding ways to increase them incrementally until the ball get rolling and you're just riding it. It really can and does happen I swear it!

 

[meetapple]

I have come to the realization that my situation won't ever change. Sometimes I feel hope and actually consider my situation to be good. However, I have worked diligently at changing my situation for the last twenty years to no avail. I am quite self aware of my thinking and always try to adapt it to become a more normal person. I am convinced that people are reacting to my thoughts. Like I might think an uncontrollable rude thought about someone and am sure that the person knows it. If I become vigilant about my thoughts I still can't make them "right". If I let them go people will rebuke me for them.

What I'm really driving at is that there is often a reward for stepping out of your comfort zone and it can take a push to make that first move to get the ball rolling.

The problem with getting out of your comfort zone is that any benefits are temporary and you end up back where you started from.

When you have something to look forward to through the day it helps you get through the grueling parts.

The law of diminishing returns assures you that the rewards will lose their effectiveness over time.

 

[alwaysdopesick]

I'm in so much pain. Idk what to do. I need a way out from this. I don't think it's ever going to get better.

I use opiates to ease the pain of being alive, there probably is a way to get better but I'd still be sick of life and living, it's just so exhausting

 

[Smart No More]

I have come to the realization that my situation won't ever change. Sometimes I feel hope and actually consider my situation to be good. However, I have worked diligently at changing my situation for the last twenty years to no avail. I am quite self aware of my thinking and always try to adapt it to become a more normal person. I am convinced that people are reacting to my thoughts. Like I might think an uncontrollable rude thought about someone and am sure that the person knows it. If I become vigilant about my thoughts I still can't make them "right". If I let them go people will rebuke me for them.


The problem with getting out of your comfort zone is that any benefits are temporary and you end up back where you started from.

The law of diminishing returns assures you that the rewards will lose their effectiveness over time.

You can be self aware of your thoughts in a beneficial way. You need to work on what motivates you and that will be relected in the thought that come naturally. It is not possible to otherwise control ones thoughts because they are a natural reaction to multiple stimuli. Obviously there are variables as far as your bio chemistry goes and informs elements of your psyche but again, if you're motivated by good things your thoughts will echo that. Either way, I assure you this.... nobody is reading your mind and reacting to your thoughts unless you vocalise them or give yourself away in overt body language but even then, the abilities to translate that into their understanding of your thoughts is limited. The most intricate of body langiage is out of the vast majorities remit.

As far as diminishing returns we'll have to agree to disagree although I understand where you're coming from.
The temporary nature of benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone is natural and only calls for repetition in which case you continue to experience benefits. It's a kind of see saw you need to keep in motion but it does become second nature pretty quickly and if you add variety the rewards are varied also. It sounds more complicated that it actually is. It's really a means to get the ball rolling in order for it to finally move under its own momentum therefore expelling the law of diminishing returns.