Does anyone here still believe in love?

[sadsoul]

I don't really know if I believe in love, I don't even know what love really is. I can't remember ever being truly in love which is sad. I've spent my teenage years being miserable, depressed and completely socially inept, so love and relationships were always utopian to me. They were something other people experience, but I can't because of how shy and broken I am. But I have to admit that even though love seems so unattainable for me, I sometimes secretly (and naively) hope that I will find the love of my life and become happy. I know that love wouldn't solve all of my problems but it sure as hell would make life more bearable.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I think love is a wonderful thing. I truly believe it's possible to find a soulmate, and I envy all functional couples. Unfortually I'm not capable of being in a relationship. As I've set my mind to spend rest of my time on earth "alone", I run away if someone gets too close. I freeze until people leave me alone.

Wow, that sounds really sad!

It is sad...heartbreaking for me. I also envy reasonably happy, healthy couples, friendships...all kinds of partnerships too. And I've managed to isolate myself quite effectively over the past decade or so.

We should compare notes on isolation techniques sometime ;) I'm sorry you're feeling this too.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I don't really know if I believe in love, I don't even know what love really is. I can't remember ever being truly in love which is sad. I've spent my teenage years being miserable, depressed and completely socially inept, so love and relationships were always utopian to me. They were something other people experience, but I can't because of how shy and broken I am. But I have to admit that even though love seems so unattainable for me, I sometimes secretly (and naively) hope that I will find the love of my life and become happy. I know that love wouldn't solve all of my problems but it sure as hell would make life more bearable.

Love can be an amazing, transformative experience. I do hope you are able to experience it one day.

You may find it interesting to know, a woman who has been one the all-time most successful love song writers, has never been in romantic love. She's written songs that have been sung by many great singers in several languages. Her name is Diane Warren. Maybe you'd be interested in her story?

 

[Thoughtforms]

Yes, that's why I'm here, because I wish I still had it. I'm lost without love.

 

[BurningLights]

But you can still rediscover it no?

 

[sadsoul]

Love can be an amazing, transformative experience. I do hope you are able to experience it one day.

I hope so too but it seems so impossible. I will probably ctb before experiencing it.

You may find it interesting to know, a woman who has been one the all-time most successful love song writers, has never been in romantic love. She's written songs that have been sung by many great singers in several languages. Her name is Diane Warren. Maybe you'd be interested in her story?

Thanks, I'm gonna look her up.

 

[Threads]

I feel love for the user base of this website and the Sanctioned Suicide community.

As for deep, intimate, passionate love? Sort of for two people. But in reality, I don't have those feelings for anyone, and if I never feel that way about another person, I'm perfectly acceptable with that being a causality of my recovery.

 

[sólstafir]

love is for stable people. <- i could write an essey about that thought if i wanted to, sadly.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

love is for stable people. <- i could write an essey about that thought if i wanted to, sadly.

I understand where you're coming from. At the same time, it got me thinking...how stable is anyone really? I've seen love in and of itself, do wonderful and hideous things, to pretty well adjusted, relatively stable people. Some recover, some adapt, some perish.

If you decide to, I hope you'll write that essay one day.

 

[RainAndSadness]

No. I used to but all it does is blind you to a certain extend. It simply makes you view world through a rose-tinted glasses and it never lasts, at least in my case.

 

[bunny]

i just don't deserve it :(

 

[sadsoul]

i just don't deserve it :(

I know you probably don't want to hear this, but I believe everyone deserves love, including you <3

(ok to be honest I often feel like I don't deserve love, so I can relate to you)

 

[concededarc]

It's just chemicals and neurotransmitters. Like every other emotion. There's nothing to "believe" in.

 

[sólstafir]

It's just chemicals and neurotransmitters. Like every other emotion. There's nothing to "believe" in.

i don't know.. everything you feel, may be pretty real at that current moment, it's like there is almost nothing to do with belief. like when you're getting tortured physically, you could say it's just chemicals in your brain, and the pain is really real, nothing to do about believing anymore, but there is no confidence behind my thoughts as usual, don't know if it even makes sense what I'm saying...

 

[Misanthrope]

i don't know.. everything you feel, may be pretty real at that current moment, it's like there is almost nothing to do with belief. like when you're getting tortured physically, you could say it's just chemicals in your brain, and the pain is really real, nothing to do about believing anymore, but there is no confidence behind my thoughts as usual, don't know if it even makes sense what I'm saying...

It makes perfect sense what you are saying. It is a good example, thanks for sharing your insight.

 

[To match the colors]

i believe in love as a merit based thing only.....like, i love my family because they have demostrated trough actions over many years how much they care about me and love me(if they didnt i would have been gone ages ago).
Romantic love can go fuck itself, its a fuckin joke: Shallow, superficial, lacking in merit . i have never felt it towards anyone nbor do i desire to(with how shitty people are in general)

 

[concededarc]

i don't know.. everything you feel, may be pretty real at that current moment, it's like there is almost nothing to do with belief. like when you're getting tortured physically, you could say it's just chemicals in your brain, and the pain is really real, nothing to do about believing anymore, but there is no confidence behind my thoughts as usual, don't know if it even makes sense what I'm saying...

You're simply filling in the gaps of understanding in your mind caused by doubt with faith and passing it off as rational thought.

 

[Fucking loving it]

I believe in it. Ideally it would be someone who understands all of this.

 

[Midnight]

Sure i believe in it. I just don't yearn for it (not anymore at least) it's simply not capable of providing me a happy life.

 

[The Blackangel]

No. It's purely an illusion.

 

[sólstafir]

You're simply filling in the gaps of understanding in your mind caused by doubt with faith and passing it off as rational thought.

hehe. trust is the absence of doubt.

 

[concededarc]

hehe. trust is the absence of doubt.

No. Trust is ignorance to doubt.

 

[sólstafir]

No. Trust is ignorance to doubt.

true because Jack ignored the doubt of his hands strength in this epic moment shown on the picture. If he had been doubtful, Rose may have been gone before the ship sank.. it's not ship that is dangereous or ocean. it's human.

 

[concededarc]

Um okay bud. Lol

 

[funnyvalentine]

Yeah, of course, but it always comes with an expiry date...
You gotta believe me.

 

[lululoo]

It's really all I want and the only thing that could keep me here. That, or if all my physical health problems went away. But I think I am too damaged to ever have it.

 

[Final Escape]

I think love does exist. Somewhere :)

 

[Saga]

i used to.. not anymore now

 

[sunny.sativa]

Your heart flutters around them, the dates are fun, the sex is exciting. For a bit.

You're now comfortable around each other.

Your first argument. It can be salvaged, though. Miscommunication will happen and you both acknowledge this.
Eventually, his hygiene becomes subpar and she gets a little.. shouty. Cheating.
Anger. Betrayal.
You overlook it. You've already been together "this long", why waste it? You argue with that statement for the next 14 goddamn years and soon you're just existing in the same space.
There's no love anymore. She makes you a meal out of habit and you bring the paycheck to feed the young mistake that binds you to her for the next 11 remaining years of its dependence.
You finally divorce out of pure desperation and numbness.. and probably blueballs for the hot milf next door.
You finally pull yourself together after the three-year, post- divorce beer-binge and depression. You connect with your friends again. You remember that you actually love Stevie Wonder and NASCAR, both of which she disapproved at the beginning.
You decide that you're free. You've found yourself. You're composed enough to talk to the hot milf next door.

You get butterflies.
The dates are fun and the sex is exciting.

And so it goes.


TLDR. No.

 

[Mr2005]

I want people to love one another. That's all I want for this world. I need someway to prove it or I too would be thinking "yeah yeah" . It's easy to become jaded and it's easy for it to turn to hate. Recognise it's just frustrated love. People disappoint me because I know they're better than that.