does anyone else feel worthless?

[wildflowers1996]

firstly I want to say I don't think ANYONE here is worthless, far from it

but I really struggle with these feelings towards myself

 

[supergip]

firstly I want to say I don't think ANYONE here is worthless, far from it

but I really struggle with these feelings towards myself

Yeah, currently a little less, but yes. To think that you are useless to everyone around you, that nobody really needs you and everyone's life would be the same without me.
Now I find it a little less worse, but still it's scary to think about it, knowing that everyone's forgetting in no more than 1 month is sad.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Yes, most of the time I feel worthless.
I think it stems mostly from my abusive childhood.
My parents were narcissistic and never showed me love.
Most other people also make me feel worthless, probably because most people today are selfish and only care about themselves.
I'm also very insecure and have low self - esteem, so often view myself as worthless.

 

[Doz]

Always, but I feel it because I am.

 

[LostInTheWoods]

It's not like i feel worthless, i'm worthless

 

[chinadoll]

It's not like i feel worthless, i'm worthless

You are able to create worth for yourself. I know how difficult these feeling can be to overcome but you and everyone has the ability to give themselves worth. I wish you all the best.

 

[LostInTheWoods]

You are able to create worth for yourself. I know how difficult these feeling can be to overcome but you and everyone has the ability to give themselves worth. I wish you all the best.

thanks, i used to think the same and i was like i can enjoy the things i like to do, but after in a new job i'm treated like an idiot and i cant even use microsoft word i lost all the self esteem

 

[chinadoll]

thanks, i used to think the same and i was like i can enjoy the things i like to do, but after in a new job i'm treated like an idiot and i cant even use microsoft word i lost all the self esteem

Yeah I understand that, dead end jobs can feel like the end of your life if you let them take over. Just try and find other solutions than thinking you are worthless. It's the same issue of agency, learning to not allow assholes who talk down to you because of a power complex rule your self image. (Which is so much easier said, I still struggle with these exact issues in my day to day)

 

[Forever Sleep]

Sometimes but then, I reassure myself that- what does any of it really matter ultimately? I think having so many deaths in my close family early on has rather skewed my view of life. My Mum by all accounts was a beautiful person- outside and in. So many people loved her. So many said how genuinely kind she was. But her life was snuffed out when she was 40. Soon, there won't even be people alive that remember her. I think I formed the opinion early on that life was cheap. Unless you're some genius and invent, discover or create something terribly famous, death will soon come along and erase everything.

That's kind of depressing but also- kind of freeing. We are transient beings. I think it's good if you can make the world better for you having been here but ultimately- we're all just dust in the wind.

I think it can be an aid in living if you decide on a purpose for yourself but- I'm not sure whether it's good to feel pressured to have one. I think that just plays into this capitalist society. As in- we all feel pressure to achieve and be someone. Ultimately- that means slaving away to make rich people richer. That's not something I strive towards. That's something I deeply resent!

 

[wildflowers1996]

thanks, i used to think the same and i was like i can enjoy the things i like to do, but after in a new job i'm treated like an idiot and i cant even use microsoft word i lost all the self esteem

personally I think you are worth something not based on your ability, but because you are a sentient being, who feels emotions
every sentient creature has worth imo
also, I think kindness is more important than how good you are at your job

 

[LetMeBeSad]

Feel? I am worthless. I don't serve a purpose. I don't get along well with my fellow humans. I am a horrible husband, uncle, brother and son.

personally I think you are worth something not based on your ability, but because you are a sentient being, who feels emotions
every sentient creature has worth imo

Why does sentience equate to worthiness for you?

For me sentience is even worse than useless. It just means I am cognizant of the absolute absurdity and stupidity that makes up our reality. I would argue that sentience does not bring value at all. It just brings about the possibility of more suffering.

 

[asian.neet]

Yup

 

[greebo6]

Yes, I am .
Probably never have been actually (worth anything).

 

[ChiseHatori]

Yes, every day. Being disabled in any way amplifies that feeling a lot.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

It's not like i feel worthless, i'm worthless

Same.

 

[wildflowers1996]

Feel? I am worthless. I don't serve a purpose. I don't get along well with my fellow humans. I am a horrible husband, uncle, brother and son.


Why does sentience equate to worthiness for you?

For me sentience is even worse than useless. It just means I am cognizant of the absolute absurdity and stupidity that makes up our reality. I would argue that sentience does not bring value at all. It just brings about the possibility of more suffering.

I don't really know how to explain it
I just have the natural inclination that ALL creatures are worthy of compassion - regardless of what they have to offer others.
(That's not to say I don't think people who do "bad things" shouldn't try to change their behaviour)
I guess I'm (sort of) a rule utilitarian - I want to maximise every being's happiness, and minimise every being's suffering.
I'm a vegan. If something has the ability to feel emotion or pain, I value that creature. I want them to be happy. I don't want them to suffer.

This isn't to say you couldn't serve a purpose to humans/animals though. I don't know you but you might be being hard on yourself.

 

[NumbItAll]

worthless subhuman trash checking in

 

[deadbody]

Yes, most of the time. I think I don't deserve that small amount of really good people in my life.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

It is no wonder that the value of man is diminished when there are 8 billion people on this planet.

 

[BrainShower]

Being worthwhile to others does not fix your problems. I have felt that i was valuable to others, in that they would get me to do things for them and they liked that they didn't have to do those things. But when i quit doing those things I lost my value and was discarded. Doesn't feel great, to say the least.

The only value that matters is one's own value to oneself imho. Sadly i struggle with creating this for myself. Sometimes i manage to feel worthwhile for a bit, but the feeling is easily swept away by any negative event, mistake, ennui, or self-loathing.

Nothing is easy about living.