Does anyone else feel the more they allow people to get to know them, the more people leave you?

[JJMaynard97]

I feel the more people get to know me, the more chance they leave and forget me. Just wondering does anyone else relate?

 

[Lost Magic]

That's one of the reasons I don't engage much with people anymore. It is really difficult to find people who are on your wavelength. The older I get, the more I want away from people. I just want peace now.

 

[JJMaynard97]

That's one of the reasons I don't engage much with people anymore. It is really difficult to find people who are on your wavelength. The older I get, the more I want away from people. I just want peace now.

Me too. With me I'm the nicest guy you'll meet always wanna be good to everyone. But people just leave me. I'm with you I'm not gonna engage with people anymore. I'll go silent. Now One cares. Sad that you feel that way, I hope you improve. But glad we can relate And I'm not the only one. Nice to get a reply from you Lost Magic! Respects.

 

[Alli0602]

Same for me. Can't keep any sort of relationship past "known person" for more then a few months, they always start finding me boring or start hating me :(. Then, people wonder why I keep isolating myself

 

[dwindlingfirst]

I feel the more people get to know me, the more chance they leave and forget me. Just wondering does anyone else relate?

I've gotten ghosted multiple times by people after starting to open up about my depression and shit. Some of them probably thought I was seeking attention/pity or were uncomfortable that a guy was sharing their feelings. I just wanted a friend I can talk to, or even a gf, but now im just gonna end it all. I just want peace now.

 

[JJMaynard97]

Same for me. Can't keep any sort of relationship past "known person" for more then a few months, they always start finding me boring or start hating me :(. Then, people wonder why I keep isolating myself

I'm soo sorry to hear that, me too. People always say they will be there and then they leave. I'm gonna start isolating myself too. For sure. I hope things improve fro you. You can always PM if need be.

I've gotten ghosted multiple times by people after starting to open up about my depression and shit. Some of them probably thought I was seeking attention/pity or were uncomfortable that a guy was sharing their feelings. I just wanted a friend I can talk to, or even a gf, but now im just gonna end it all. I just want peace now.

That's the same here. When they do that the damage that they cause is beyond any sort of recovery. I hate that people think we're seeking attention. We're not. We are I need of someone to listen. We're crying out for help and no one cares. Reason why I've become isolated from people, even ones who say they are so called friends. Me too. Peace is something that's in my mind everyday now. I hope you find some set of comfort or peace.

 

[DeadPool360]

look same here
but i got lucky i found a person who really cares about me
and thanks to that I am still alive
that doesn't mean everything is fixed i still grieve for the friends that forgot me but i am getting better
I really hope from the deepest part in my heart that you find a person like that

 

[Pengu]

I feel the more people get to know me, the more chance they leave and forget me. Just wondering does anyone else relate?

All the time

 

[JJMaynard97]

look same here
but i got lucky i found a person who really cares about me
and thanks to that I am still alive
that doesn't mean everything is fixed i still grieve for the friends that forgot me but i am getting better
I really hope from the deepest part in my heart that you find a person like that

I'm very happy to hear that, shows there's hope l. Hopefully I will find someone who cares a bit. Thankyou for your message.

 

[cherrysquick]

same :( i have a few close friends but i stopped venting and talking about my feelings because i'm scared they'll leave too. we've been friends for almost 6 years now but besides them i don't seek out new friendships and relationships anymore because people always leave once i open up and get vulnerable. it's funny, i'm pretty open about being mentally unwell but once i start showing actual symptoms of my mental illnesses people get sick and leave lmao

 

[leavingsoon99]

I feel you. That's why I just stay to myself. Humans aren't worth the inevitable heartbreak they cause. Save for work or a necessary transaction, I don't like to deal with humans.

 

[DepressedSloth]

Im incredibly mentally unstable so....

 

[kunikuzushi]

Yeah that's why I keep myself at a perfect emotional distance from people. Just to have them stay. But it feels lonely

 

[LostinCyberspace]

I cut contact whenever anyone tries to get to know me personally as a friend and I feel I have to commit to a relationship. I wonder if it's just bad socialization that did this or past trauma? Maybe I just enjoy alone time.

 

[Unhumanly.]

In my personal view, the more people I welcome the more chance I will face many loss, it doesn't confuse me, really, I know I've seen it coming

It's something I already somewhat numb to, I don't even know why must I wonder why, I can't have a long lasting friendships bond because I don't think I'm really good enough for that, and one thing is, I stopped becoming people pleaser

 

[FrostedHoax]

I try not to let people get to know me on too deep of a level because I'm deathly afraid of how they would perceive me if they really got to know just how screwed up and abnormal I am. I'd be lying if I said the loneliness isn't painful and doesn't greatly contribute to my wanting to CTB.

 

[endofafoxtwo]

Hey, if all you need to do to live is to vent, you can always PM me.
I'm just a fox, so you can't expect too much harm from me :p

 

[charlotte_]

I totally can relate to that. I tend to just speak what people would like to hear, and talk about things that makes me look more valuable to them in any ways. I don't even know if I even have a "real" me at this point, because I've spent my whole life being a doormat for others and gaslighting myself into believing I'm something I'm not.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

Yeah, I think it is so hard especially in this day and age to expression genuine vulnerability or sincerity to people without judgement. Many are not interested in anything more than convenience or a quick way to pass the time, uncomfortable and raw conversations are off putting to a great deal of people and so it becomes harder and harder to find real connection and camaraderie. I understand your loneliness completely and how much it hurts to be rejected or ostracised by others. Being autistic, it has been par for the course my whole life too.