Discussion Does anyone else feel overlooked by the people in their lives?

[sapphoslastpoem]

I sure do. My whole life, I've felt like my opinion, my existence, wasn't valid. Like I've never really been allowed to take up space and have a damn voice. Family dinners, friendly get togethers, even just talking with my own parents or partner, I feel like what I have to say gets immediately disregarded or I'm told I don't know anything, that I'm too young or too stupid to understand.

I've never felt like my own person, I've always been an extension of something or someone else and it's really disorienting and confusing but it makes me so angry realizing that I've spent my whole life being put down by the very people who are supposed to lift me up. I don't think any of these people will realize how much they really put me down until I ctb, honestly I kinda hope they feel immensely guilty for the way they've treated me. I hate weaponizing my suicidal thoughts but holy shit, I want people to hurt like i've had to hurt.

 

[Zegers]

yes but i dont care, they are not that important either.

 

[justwanasleep]

A few people in my family have extermely unusually high opinions of themselves. I wouldn't like to say they're narcissistic but they have a lot of narcissistic qualities. I am the black sheep of the family.

But they are not people I want to be like. I've never had anyone that I've looked up to or wanted to be like. I try and take the sly digs and bitchyness as inspiration on what not to be like. They're the epitome of everything I don't want to be so even though I hate myself at least I'm not like those family members.

 

[cowmeow]

yes.
i guess i still have time to change that, but i have a very specific feeling, i feel like i died the day my brain first considered suicide.
It's been five years but life it's not the same. So even when i do things that i'm supposed to do, i feel like a ghost, just a body doing these things.
Even when things are good, i will remember the bad. The pain and how nothing really matter. The ugliness. I wish i could erase that.
I like to call a mental scar.
It sounds a little pretentious ig, but fr, i can't explain in any other way.
So i feel like i can't age anymore. It's crazy.

 

[rainydayvibes]

Yes but not the same way you're describing. My whole life I've felt basically invisible or unimportant. It bothers me that no one sees value in me but at the same time it's embarrassing to admit it

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, sometimes. When I was younger, it upset me but I think it hardens you if you can come to terms with it. Not that that's a particularly good thing. You just get to a point where you kind of expect people to talk over you, or not really pay attention to what you've said.

 

[Destiny Calls Me]

Just like ghosting everyone you know and not receiving any kind of calls or texts checking in on you when youve disappeared for months

 

[chicagodollhouse]

Yeah, completely invisible.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

It really wears you down to be consistently ignored, spoken over, or belittled constantly. Others should have treated you better, taken time to hear what you have to say and regarded you as their equal. You're their relative, and your opinion is as valid and worthy of consideration as anyone else's in that room.

I hope that you have at least one person in your life who will listen to you and let you speak your mind. The environment you describe sounds so detrimental to your wellbeing. No one should have to feel so hurt and suicidal because of repeated insults and disregard dished out by their loved ones.

Unfortunately this seems to happen frequently to those of us who are in a vunerable position, or outnumbered. People think they can stomp all over us or ignore us because they perceive us as too weak to fight back, or below their level. I recently had a pretty major surgery, which made me realise how no one actually cares about me.

When I've been laid up in bed couldn't move because my insides were turned to mincemeat, not even one friend called me or asked me to play a game or anything with them. It's like I don't exist unless it's for someone else's brief entertainment.