You are right Firefox, workplace bullying is the worst (although I think school bullying can be severe too for some unfortunate kids).
If I had gone to the trouble of sending everyone in my department a heartfelt Christmas eCard and nobody had said thank you, I would have been devastated. It would have really impacted my Christmas. I love Christmas so much and it's supposed to be a time where people a little bit nicer to each other and nobody was nice to you at all. I'm sure it must have really put a dampener on your Christmas that year.
You say that there was an older woman who you felt was your friend but then it turned out she wasn't - it must have been awful. Its horrible when you think someone is your friend and then you find out the hard way that they aren't. It is a complete betrayal. And you couldn't even go to your boss for help because he was making fun of you. Horrible, horrible situation to be in.
You say that all this happened in your last job. Can I ask are things ok in your current job? I am aware that everything in your life can't be going well, otherwise you wouldnt be spending time in this forum, but I'm just hoping that you aren't having as bad a time in your current job as you were in your last job?
@fatladysings I was upset my boss and work colleagues didn't say thank you for the Christmas but money from my job made me enjoy Christmas. I brought loads of christmas gifts for my family with my work salary. It was so wonderful seeing my family love all the gifts I brought them.
You say that all this happened in your last job. Can I ask are things ok in your current job?
After getting fired I lost all my confidence. All I ever wanted was to be independent and have a stable job. Growing up I was always excited about starting work. All I ever wanted was to be a great employee and I was so disappointed that my first ever full time job since graduating university ended up so badly.
One of my biggest regrets getting fired was I never got to show what I was really good at because I kept messing up all the time. At work I became known as the newbie who upset the arsehole customer. After coming back from my Christmas break my line manager was still away on holiday and other employees were still away on holiday . The Department had a small team of employees and just a team leader supervising.
Whrn I started my job I was given this difficult and ongoing repair case. A disabled and vunlerable housing resident needed multiple repair works to be done to his house. The housing resident had a support worker who demanded ALL repair appointments be booked through her and was in charge with talking to the repair men on behalf the resident.
The support worker was difficult to work with. I found an appointment date for the resident that the contractors had available and Whenever I emailed her to discuss the appointment date she never picked up any her emails or my phone calls I had to phone her employer to get the message passed.
When she did reply to my email she was so f---cking rude and read none of the information I gave her. She was even complaining about her busy schedule as a support worker.
She demanded I go phone the resident to talk about appointments. I phoned the resident to ask if he was OK with the appointment time available. I told The resident the support worker wanted me to talk to him and asked if he was OK with the appointment date. The resident was stubborn and kept saying " go talk to my support worker"
The appointment date got booked and the day the repairmen was supposed to be coming they did not turn up. The support worker was complaining again about her busy schedule and gave a full list of the times she is available.
I just lost patience and wrote a vicious email reply to her. I said in an email to her
" you keep complaining about your busy schedule, we are all bust, you are not the only person in the world to have casework and projects"
" check your emails and stop it with your unfair demands you made me phone a vunlerable resident who cant even look after himself that is why you are his support worker acting on his behalf on this case."
My comments caused the department to have a meltdown. I took my full responsibility for my actions but the management hounded me over my mistakes, and colleagues gossiped about me. I had to find out from someone else who told me how everyone at work was talking about what I did and person was shocked i was capable of doing such behaviour. This incident was one of the reasons why I got fired for having poor customer service skills.
After getting fired I was scared to work again and I geniuenely believed I was not good enough to work in anything. I had to go on special courses to regain my confidence again.
Currently I am still unemployed and I have not worked in a year.
