Do you think this forum is a good place in order to search for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

[pris]

I met my first partner in a mental hospital, so anything is possible!

 

[lofticries]

I mean I'm not here to police anyone's emotions. If it works out for you and the other fine but plz plz plz don't harrass anyone or try to turn this place into tinder.

For me it wouldn't work since I've been emotionally checked out since a young age.

The only exception is D.❤

 

[TLEEA]

Absolute empathy between inner selves in a suicide forum such as this can be quite romantic. Although you should probably invest a lot of emotional energy into this.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

Logically speaking it's a bad idea for reasons others have said. A romance between two broken people, built on the very fact that they're broken? Just screams bad idea to me. But that said, as someone who never managed to find love in 37 years I'll admit to being envious of those who are able to do this lol.

Now that you mention it, I wonder if female members here get hit on in DMs like it happens in the normie social media? Would be real sad and pathetic if that is the case..

 

[chloramine]

A lot of these replies made me laugh so thank you to everyone for that. I'm in agreement that this is not the place for that. If it comes about through happenstance and works out then good for those people. This really isn't the place to seek that out though and I've appreciated that not really being a thing.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I'mma say no. I think it's a bad idea. All the baggage we are going through to bring into a relationship could make it worse.
I know we connect on wanting to die but relationships are tough even without being suicidal.
It may be easy to catch some feels because we are vulnerable but I don't think it will last. (I guess there have been a few exceptions).
As someone mentioned earlier, I hope the women on here are safe.
I personally wouldn't meet anyone outside of S.S.

Just my thoughts.

 

[TheLastK]

Generally no. I don't like the idea of online relationships personally but here especially is the worst place, as much as I would like to meet someone I don't think here is appropriate.

 

[Unworthyoflove]

hhmm...thats not an easy one. generally I tend to also say its probably not the right place here to find love. mainly because many of us wont be here to long anymore. on the other hand I can understand the need for love and healing. honestly I never understud why mentally ill people are not supposed to date. everyone says that one has to get well first, has to have their life in order first, has to love them selves first....basically has to be perfect before getting into a relationship. It makes no sence to me. Love is one of the most important and needed things to get in order to heal. Also I believe that if not having a severe and deadly disease, not being loved and being isolated is one of the main reasons why people ctb . Imagine a mother would tell her sick child : hey, first you have to get well and then I will give you love and care. Its so unlogic. now, you might think thats not the same but it is to me. I believe that humans do not stop needing love just because they became adults. its just what we ve been tought . I am sure that no matter if both partners are mentally ill or only one of them, the love between them can(doesnt have to) change the whole picture. so, why not go for it if you find someone you feel attracted to and connected with. good luck :)

 

[Molded foundation]

Kinda feckin' sketchy, eh? I wouldn't put it behind anybody if they find a significant other on this website, but the possibility of finding someone who is more trouble than it's worth is extremely high.

Yes, I've met some very kind people on here but I'm just seeing text on a screen and don't truly know their full character. There's a reason people come here and it's not good.

Be careful with the ones you come across on here because evil comes in disguise.

 

[Euthanza]

One doesn't go to dating site with bio "I'm suicidal and looking for suicidal partner". No no I don't do that on Tinder lmao

 

[Marine]

I wish...

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I only want a date with death sir

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I only want a date with death sir

I must admit that was awesome reply. Wish I had thought of it.

 

[Aurora Vanderlux]

One doesn't go to dating site with bio "I'm suicidal and looking for suicidal partner". No no I don't do that on Tinder lmao

-Tinder
-suicidal
lousy combination XD

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

-Tinder
-suicidal
lousy combination XD

Tinder...
Suicidal...
Wellness Check

 

[theboy]

I understand the idea of looking for love in this forum. However, in the event that you meet someone, it would turn into a toxic relationship, sooner rather than later.

 

[DunnoWhyButYeah]

Mmm ofc no, but if that happens it happens.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Search, no. You shouldn't 'search' for a partner here. If you end up clicking with someone I think that's something different. There's the recovery section which makes a little more sense for this question. Finding a partner might cure loneliness for some, but its better to find someone off-site for that.

I don't agree that people here would necessarily all make bad partners, some of the nicest people that I relate to the most, could be people that could find their way to this forum as much as any other. Also everyone here is not necessarily fully or non-impulsively suicidal or has different degrees of suicidality. I think it's only a bad idea to look for them here, you would need to take precautions, and I'm not just talking about falling for a possibly suicidal person.

 

[want2dienow]

I only want a date with death sir

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[Niko66]

As good as any place that makes for long distance relationships, that is to say, really bad.

 

[noname223]

There's a 25 year old predator from Netherlands whose name starts with R and ends with N lurking this thread and looking for a partner, women (especially younger and mentally ill ones which are his target) beware

How do you know that? If you have proof you might should report him.

 

[Catloaf]

Sure. Can't see what could possibly go wrong.

 

[Sun n showers]

Obivoulsy it would not be the main purpose for being a member on here. I even know a case where someone found a longterm partner in this forum. And I expect that more people have found a loved one in this forum. But I am not sure how high the rate is. I don't think this happens to many people.

I recently read a thread where someone described his or her intention to find someone. The person was a new member. And I could relate to it. When I was new on this website I also hoped to find a partner here. But I have lost this interest. Or at least I cannot really imagine it anymore. I think it was healthy for me to lose this interest and that I stopped to think about it. WIthout this ulterior motive I can talk more openly about my anxieties and sorrows. I don't have to care what others think about me.

I think maybe it is something which one should not try to force. Especially not in a suicide forum. The most people on here have pretty big problems and some are really vulnerable. It is normal wanting to find someone. But I personally also fear to experience the suicide of someone who is close to me. This is why I try to maintain a certain distance to members of this forum. If you have many friends on here it is not unlikely that one day some of them will kill themselves. And I am quite scared about the pain of experiencing like that. I am scared to become traumatized because I met people who could not cope with the loss.

Moreover I am paranoid as fuck about journalists. I honestly cannot trust any of one of you fully. I have some paranoid theories about this forum. Some are kind of unrealistic but for example the bugs seem suspicious for me. But it is likely I am just a really anxious mentally ill loner.

I have seen too many people in extreme agony and torture in this forum. Getting to close to someone on here could break my heart. it is kind of selfish of me. But I need this protection. Personally I hope the society will stop looking away when people collapse and reach their individual limits. The society is full of hypocrites. In my country most citizens are in favor of assisted suicide but the stupid politicians resist this wish.

To conclude on the inital topic. I think it is not a bad thing to find a loved one in such a forum. But one should not expect to find someone. Many people are too busy to handle their own problems.

There are different philosophies on the following point: some say people who experiece hell need to find someone with similar problems. Because only these people can understand and feel compassion for each other.

Other people say. 2 people with similar problems cannot work. There needs to be someone who is stable enough to handle the problems of the vulnerable partner.

Personally I am not dogmatic on any cerain approach. I think both has advatages and disadvantges. One time a crush of me said two people who are mentally ill don't fit to each other. I think this was lie of her. I was really socially awkward to that time. I wish I could meet her again and show her that I have made progess. Though she would likely be not interested in me. Despite the fact she laughed a lot about my jokes.

What is your philosphy on that? And what do you think about the dating aspect of this forum?

No , but you never know until you actually meet them face to face . Here on a screen could be anyone ......

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Probably not, no for a multitude of reasons.

1. It's a very bad idea for 2 mentally damaged people to be together. You're suppose to be with someone who can help better you and bring out the best in you. If you are both here because you are severely depressed, you cannot bring out the best in each other.
2. One or both of you may eventually end up CTBing. This will inevitably lead to heartbreak for one or both of you.
3. There's a lot of mentally unwell people here, and you cannot trust anyone that much, especially since there's a track record of predators on this site.