Do you think some people are destined to be alone forever?

[Signal]

I have been thinking this for a while now, and even though i don't really believe in destiny, i do think I'm destined to be alone forever, if that makes sense.

I have had "friends" in the past, but in reality all of them were nothing more than just superficial relationships, when i became aware of that i realized i haven't had a single real friend in all my life, someone who would accept you as you are and be there for you, I've never had someone like that, to the point that i think not a single person in my whole life have known the real me.

i think there's something broken inside of me that has made me unable to connect with other human beings, but i still crave something like that, a genuine connection, even if that's impossible for me. So even though i am already used to this, it still sometimes hurts, specially when i think about how other people are able to get that which i desire so much.

And thus, i have reached the conclusion that, through a convoluted set of specific circumstances that you may as well call destiny, i am destined to be alone forever.

 

[Danny Phantom]

I think so.

I grew up having no friends. Any.

God or whatever you believe in has picked a select few of people to be friendless, kissless, hugless, virginless (etc.)

It's the game of life unfortunately, and we're playing it.

 

[Dejected 55]

I'm sure of it.

 

[Notlikeforte]

I definitely think so. I never feel like I can connect with anyone, I always feel like there is some kind of metaphorical invisible wall between me and others.

 

[Michelstaedter]

I'm like you, except I'm no longer looking for friends, or a girlfriend, or anything.
I searched for years, at school, in the few jobs I've had, on the internet, and nothing. Currently, I'm lonely. My contacts on my cell phone are only my close relatives (less than 10), and I no longer have any friends from school or the neighborhood, and that's how it's been for the past few years. The closest thing I had to friends was my pets, and they all died recently... I will die alone, and although deep down I would like to commit double suicide, I think it will be impossible because it would have to be someone with whom I have a strong, temporary bond, and I know that I must be determined to die.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

I'm generally a loner, but I have my small little wolfpack of friends. I have a boyfriend who is just as much of a loner as me, so we naturally hit it off. In my experience, I've only been as lonely as I wanted to be and I've burned many bridges for being wastes of my time. Honestly, it's sometimes better to be alone than surrounded by morons. No lonelier feeling than being alone in a crowd.

I don't believe in destiny, what I believe in is social compatability and understanding where I am or am not compataible with society. I'm compatible enough to mingle in a social setting, but not enough to give two shits about any of their mundane lives.

 

[hippiedeath]

I had a heated debate yesterday about this. I was asked to prove I'm fated to be alone. This person said that fate was nonexistent. We wen't at it with no winner or resolution. I just feel it....always knew it. Life experiences showed me.

 

[jadeturtle]

yes i think so. i want to have a gun so i can die humanely. it is not good to die from old age or natural causes if you have no advocate or family. i will need a dignified way to end my life so i am not lost in the system.

 

[fallendevil]

Unfortunately, many neurodivergent people are likely to live a lonely life, even if they do make friends there is always this dark air that acts as a barrier between you and everyone else. If you unmask, you're mocked and made into a lolcow and they live lonely lives (Tophia has been a virgin her entire life and she's 31.) There is no amount of acceptance or awareness that will change this fact, unmasked neurodivergent people are on a cognitive level that is separate from the majority.

 

[............]

I am late, my apologies.

But a 100% yes, when not looking at it with pink positivity glasses. And that's normal. Some people will simply not have a lot of connections their entire lifetime.

We'll be at 9 billion people living on this planet in a few years, the chances that a few of them will simply live life lonely that aren't unlikely at all. It matters what you do with that information after realizing that.