Do you prefer social contacts (friends, partner) with a certain politicial view?

[noname223]

I have a good friend who has borderline. I like her a lot and she is really good at handling social contacts considering her condition. She said it about herself often she mirrors people.

She knows my autistic special interest is politics. And I vote for the SPD. I am a socialdemocrat. The thing is I am quite sure she mirrors me in this instance. This party is very unpopular among young people. I don't think she would support the party otherwise. I think she must assume I liked her more if she also voted for the SPD. The truth is: I prefer friends and partners who vote for Die Linke. All my closest friends vote for Die Linke. I am the only one who doesn't vote for Die Linke. It is also a party very popular among women and young people. In German one would say its a party for Gutmenschen (do-gooders). People who are very idealistic about politics. Personally, I have to say some politicies of Die Linke if they were implemented would totally backfire economically. In the longrun this would strengthen the far-right. And I don't support their takes on Russia and Ukraine.
But often I have the feeling such people are better people in personal contacts. I also experienced the complete opposite but this is a clear minority.

What about you?

 

[isthisit?]

I love disagreeing with my friends. I dont think I care what the beliefs of my friends are but certainly fun to disagree and argue on politics. Social democrats in estonia are pretty braindead in my opinion. They want to loosen the immigration policy even though we already have a 50K job deficit (so 4% of estonians are job-less right now).

 

[Asya]

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[LilGhost]

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Based, comrade

 

[ironrain]

Yes. But I don't mind having friends with different perspectives and political views. I'm not the one to tell people what's right and what's wrong because I'm my opinion the truth is very nuanced and isn't on either sides of political spectrum.

 

[SleeplessAndSad]

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I agree and i couldn't be friends with someone who has completely different values from me.

But i also don't like to talk about politics at all. People get too passionate about it in my opinion, which can easily overwhelm me.

 

[buriedinmyhead]

My only requirement is that they support human rights for everyone, it doesn't necessarily matter which party they are affiliated with, though I may be a little hesitant with republicans (as a lot of them are... difficult)

 

[tasmaka]

Honestly I like and favor the concept of people in my life having the same political beliefs and values I hold, but I dont take it personally if someone doesnt.

At a certain point theres obvious stuff like, human rights… that if they disagree yea no but thats totally given. The line for me on where its not like bad is the preference of certain structures over others and the idea of political vs moral debates, and honestly, theres no such thing as good/moral politics. , theres never anyone you can align with COMPLETELY, everyones different and political subjects just show that clearly.

(On morals vs politics , yes someone with same morals, political, variation exists, morals and values show in stances.)

 

[BradGuy123]

If you asked me this a year or two ago, my answer would have been different. I used to be heavily into politics. I watched the news. I was an activist. The whole nine yards. A couple of years ago I stepped away. I turned off the news. It was upsetting me and stressing me out. My mental health is a lot better now. My partner and I see eye to eye politically. Friends were never as issue. We simply wouldn't talk about it. I judge friends by how nice they are to me. A year or two ago I would have said I could never date anyone with opposite political views from me. Now if I were single I'm not so sure. If he were hard-core MAGA I might have an issue. Maybe it has something to do with my political views moderating somewhat (I still can't stand Trump) and maybe it has something to do with the fact that I really don't pay attention to politics anymore. It's a moot question for me since I've never really considered it an issue for friends if they don't push it on me (I had to end a friendship because he was a big Trumper who wouldn't stop talking about it) and also because I'm not single.

 

[glass-petal]

I really don't mind, i've been friends with all types of people, many with polar opposite opinions to mine. i've actually never ran into a real issue with it personally. though that's likely because i tend to avoid anyone with extreme culty energy when it comes to their political beliefs.

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I don't care which side of the political spectrum you are one, as long as we can agree to disagree with certain topics, I'm good with it.

I was right leaning for the longest time but lately have been moving more toward independent. Because in my opinion, it doesn't matter who becomes president on the left or the right, neither side really looks out for people, they are just looking to fill their pockets.

Government officials have become failures, and excellent at manipulating the people who voted them in.

Basically what I'm saying is..... fuck the government.

 

[morina]

I'd prefer so, but it's not like I have much of an option. My core world view is so far off what's considered normal that I basically have to take every connection I can get no matter their beliefs.

 

[Leichengeist_]

I'd say so, yes. I like to connect with people I get along with, and politics is by far the biggest divider besides maybe religion. My partner is of the same beliefs, and most of my friends either are too or are okay with them.

 

[EarnestlyEatingWeev]

I don't mind people with differing views in regards to like economic systems. I definitely skew more to the left as do most of my friends. Some if them are way more radical than I am tho. Saying that if someone's more right than me in regards to economic issues, I'll still be friends bc there isn't a right or a wrong here.
If they differ in regards to social issues (like womens rights, queer rights etc) I can't be friends with them nor do I think they would want to be friends with me. I'm trans and I will not be friends with someone who dehumanises me or advocates to make my life worse.

 

[Dejected 55]

I don't really like to argue with anyone. It's just too much. If I win the argument, did I really win? If I lose, what does that mean? Arguing serves no purpose.

I am open to debate with people who sincerely believe a thing as long as we can debate in a friendly manner and I know they believe what they say but are also open to listening, as I am, to differing opinions.

But, there are some beliefs that stop that in a hurry. If you believe owning people (i.e. slavery) is okay, if you believe hurting people purposefully is okay, and a few other things along those lines... believing in such things means there's no way for you and I to have a real, rational conversation about anything.

Meanwhile, I am more in the middle politically. I probably lean more progressive than conservative, but it depends on the specific topic. There are a lot of times when being conservative is the best option. Other times we need to explore progressive ideas. Change for the sake of change is not good, but neither is continuing to do a thing that isn't working blindly.

I find that, strangely, Democrats react more harshly to me than Republicans in this regard. If I talk to a Trump supporter, for instance, I can find other topics to get along with them and we can agree not to talk about Trump. My experience with Democrats, however, is usually met with "you're either with us or against us." I've had Democrats be mad at me for not disliking Trump enough. It wasn't enough that I strongly dislike him as a person and most of his actions as President... Democrats want me to believe he is the second coming of Satan and Hitler rolled into one and will burn the world before he is done. IF I don't actively hate and want to "eliminate" Trump and Trump supporters, many Democrats consider me "the same" as their enemy. It's kind of crazy. When I was on social media, before I bailed on that nonsense, I had more Democrats unfriend me for not hating Trump enough than I had Republicans unfriend me for hating Trump. It was kind of eye-opening.

At the end of the day, I find a lot of people don't believe the things they say they believe... and, as such, it's hard for me to get along with them for long. I might as well be talking to AI where I know I'm not talking to a real person who believes anything. In that way, AI is more "honest" than most real people. I like learning new things and being exposed to differing opinions and experiences and constantly reshaping my perspective on the world. But I find I'm sadly alone in that way of thinking more of the time. It's frustrating and more isolating than just being alone. When I'm alone I can hold onto the illusion that someone out there might be more open... but when I try to interact, I find it to not really be the case.

 

[dhk96]

I might be a bit more conservative (mostly socially) than my peers or other chronically online people. And I don't think I could be friends with someone who presents themselves with all the traits of XYZ. For me, it's ideal if we're able to avoid placing ourselves in situations where we have to confirm our stance on certain topics regardless of whether we hold the same view or not. But that's kind of impossible in the modern online space (especially in Discord servers).