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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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Currently, I don't really have sexual problems anymore. But I had diverse. I wrote a guide how I fixed my issues as a man.


I think this thread might be gold for some.

I was intimate with a woman at the beginning of this year. It was really an amazing time for me. She was very much into sex. And to that time I had mild issues with erectile dysfunction. I talked about it with her very openly and that it makes me insecure. However, when we became intimate I had non of these issues. We did a lot of foreplay and we sadly had no sex. But I had no issues when we did what we did.

She told me her experience how it is when an old man a gynecologist inspects her and that it is a very strange feeling when he is down there between her legs. She never became wet though under these circumstances.

I had diverse sexual issues. The absolute worst ones with lamotrigine. Just to find out after a long time it basically has no effect at all and only side effects. For women I read it can be the absolute opposite. And increases their sexual pleasure a lot. But me I barely felt anything anymore. Which was a huge burden in my age.

I think I have the tendency to overshare. I do this in my self-help group. But I never said anything about my sexuality there. But behind closed dorse with therapists I lost the shame. And the woman with whom I got intimate was astounded how I can talk this openly about my sexual issues with other women. Most of my therapists were female.

In my experience it is easier to talk about this with women. There was a male therapist who became very awkward.

Maybe I am the awkward person. However, I concluded it is better to talk with them to find a solution for the issues instead of suffering in silence. But I realized none of these people could actually help me. I had to do research on the internet on my own to fix the issue eventually.

And as you can read in the linked thread Busp and trazodone fixed all my issues. And I am quite happy about it, I can also recommend wellbutrin.
 
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Dejected 55

Dejected 55

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I've never had any sexual dysfunction, at least not in terms of performance. Arguably being unable to ever have a partner is a problem of some sort.

I never talked with any partner about anything sexual, because the only partners I ever had were paid escorts. I never had any performance issues and even the first time I saw one, when I was a virgin, the escort had no idea that was my first time. So, I can't say I'm a "stud" or anything like that, it would be for a partner to rate me on that level... but I don't have performance anxiety and I have no nervousness about being with women. I typically didn't initiate anything, the escorts do that... If I ever were with a woman that was not paid to be there, I think I would still have issues initiating contact... but it wouldn't be for anxiety about performance, it would just be the discomfort in initiating potentially unwanted contact. In my experience women don't like me in that way at all, so I can only imagine the scenario of being with a woman I hadn't paid to be there with me and how I wouldn't know at all how to initiate or escalate. I've never been in that situation so no clue what to do for that part.

But... if I had a therapist, and I had some sexual issues... I wouldn't have a problem talking about it. Even if I was embarrassed, the point of being with a therapist would be to talk... so I would talk. I would absolutely talk openly with a partner. I don't know if it would be awkward or not, having never had a partner... but I would want to talk to her for both our sake and enjoyment, and I would be encouraging of her to talk to me as well.
 
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princexhhn

princexhhn

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Sep 26, 2023
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Yeah you couldn't pay me to talk about my sexual problems, even when my psych is a woman. Though, I have no problem saying it here on SaSu. Maybe cause none of you really know me. My problem is that I'm pretty sure I'm hypersexual due to some trauma but I'll never confirm because there's no way on god's gracious earth that you can make me share this with my psychiatrist
 
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noname223

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Aug 18, 2020
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Yeah you couldn't pay me to talk about my sexual problems, even when my psych is a woman. Though, I have no problem saying it here on SaSu. Maybe cause none of you really know me. My problem is that I'm pretty sure I'm hypersexual due to some trauma but I'll never confirm because there's no way on god's gracious earth that you can make me share this with my psychiatrist
I think hiding is not possible. At least if you are taking medication they will think their part of the story. Okay ignorant therapists might never think about it at all.

But having sexual issues is very common for people with sexual traumata or for people who take mental health medication.

I read studies. And in these studies there are high rates of sexual dysfunctions and they assume despite that many people are lying in these studies about their sexual issues. It is a long time I read that though.
 
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Oct 12, 2024
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This doesn't count as sexual but one of the biggest problems I had on meds was that my prostate was hurting at all times and my kidneys were hurting badly aswel and I had to come off two different meds because of that even if I was drinking insane amount of water over 2.5 liters a day. Side effects of meds suck a lot I can empathize with that.
 
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User111885

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Jun 22, 2025
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I don't have such issues because I don't see a psychiatrist.
 
unevencompromise

unevencompromise

Vivo triste e abandonado Sofrendo sem merecer
Oct 20, 2025
14
Yes ! I always had problems on taking about any issues on sex with anybody IRL. Maybe because I got tons of "pushbacks" at this topic (like being a virgin, hypersexuality, porn addiction...)
 
shampoo sniffer

shampoo sniffer

Terminal
Aug 10, 2025
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I'm an intensely private person, so no.
 
Unbearable Mr. Bear

Unbearable Mr. Bear

Sometimes, all a cub needs is a hug...
May 9, 2025
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Honestly, people should talk about it with their therapists. A large part of our psychological is sexual, and that extends into our early childhood. Some sexual issues are also symptoms of other things you may have. It's like going to a doctor and not telling them where you hurt: It could be nothing, but it could be the crux of the problem.

I understand people having issues opening up, and honestly, the therapist is the one who should help you open up, to help you trust them. Maybe people should say something like "I want to tell you about my sexual issues but I'm afraid because X and Y and so forth..." to help their therapists a little, but that's just advice.
 
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FoxSauce

Emotionally unstable like an IKEA table
Aug 23, 2024
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Kinda the first time Ive talked openly openly I always try to be vague on that part. I participated on a test for BPD and sexual behaviors. Got asked a bunch of questions.i participated cu there was a 500 dollar prize.
(Really needed the money)

After that I felt so embarrassed yet disgusted with myself.

Still I feel bad about it, i can joke perverlty from time to time but foe fun not like making the person uncomfortable or anything that crosses boundaries.

But in a way makes me feel gross

I have this fear that everything I say can be used against me.
 
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TooMuch.

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Aug 1, 2025
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Iv never even thought about talking about something like that
 
Grog

Grog

I am a defect.
Jun 3, 2025
499
What is the point in going to therapy if you're not going to open up about your trauma -- sexual or otherwise?

Yeah, I tell my therapists everything. Otherwise, how am I going to expect to feel better and become better if I don't work on my trauma and just let it ruminate and fester instead?
 
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