NSFW Do you get bored/disgusted with sex?

[Redt2go]

The penis is evil. The penis shoots seeds, and makes new life, and poisons the earth with a plague of men, as once it was.

Quite poetic

 

[Dead_Inside]

I still enjoy sex.... but I don't want any mental intimacy involved. That makes me feel gross for whatever reason... I just want to have sex and feel good. It becomes a problem if it has to be about love- I wouldn't really want to do that to a person I loved. So I just get drunk. It's easier that way.

 

[Zaynaldeen]

Can't comment on that, never tried to get into a relationship, I never kissed a girl, held hands or had sex. I'm probably asexual, but I'm not sure since I never tried. I would want to know what it feels like, but there is no benefit to it so why bother.

 

[vaulthunter]

More of just feeling like I'm not good enough /attractive enough for it. Gives me a guilty feeling when I ask my partner for it, so I'm trying to steer clear it of it

 

[Taylor]

I used to be like a sex addict before I came down with my mental illnesses that completely destroyed me, like absolutely obsessed with everything about it, and the female body in general, and nothing ever got in my way with it. It was fantastic, just so pure and pristine of a sex life.

Then, however, I started developing my strange social fears which began to compile on top of each other one after the other, one of them being like the sudden realization/obsessive OCD fear that I might fart during any sexual act lol, when before I paid absolutely no attention to my bowel function whatsoever, like I never even thought about it. It's actually how I fucked up my bowels so bad, like now that I had this conscious awareness and fear about it, that actually affected my bowels physically. It's insane how powerful the mind is. Another weird OCD obsession I developed is like this constant fear that I might suddenly lose my erection or something. Again, never even thought about it before, and when that intrusive thought pops into my head, it actually fucks with my sexual performance, literally manifesting my fear into reality. I hate that these things have even entered my mind, enlightening me that it's even possible to have these certain thoughts or "awarenesses" in the first place, and sadly because of it, I haven't had sex since. I miss it so much

 

[ithappens]

Yes. Sex itself can seem very appealing thanks to hormones, but people turn me off even in my imagination. :/

 

[21Neberg]

Hmm okay so noone finds the intricacies disgusting. My issues with sweat and orphices must be OCD related

Definitely not lol, I hated the sweat/smell too
I bury my romantic feelings nowadays because I feel that I'm a quite ugly/unlikeable person. Besides, my torso is covered in scars. Isn't exactly a turn on

 

[Fucking loving it]

Most often, i dont have sex for myself, rather just do it to please the guy.
But it depends on my high or low "cycles", im very sexually active during my highs and from my lows i dont even wanna get touched.
Its common but its what happens to me

I'm totally the same.

 

[Wolfjob_dayjob]

I NEVER enjoy sex. Only once has satisfied me. The rest of all my sexual experiences was disappointing.
First I met most of the sexist and homophobic guys on my small town (40.000 population), and only one was tender with me. The another ones yell at me since I can 't bear the anal sex. Another one was an premature ejaculator.
I never found a partner to achieve a good sexual experience. I wasn't raped, but when I felt so ashamed, disgust and puzzled after every sex I was wondering if I'm asexual or not. I'm still have desires for sex, yeah, but I still fear it.
On another opportunity I tried to have vaginal sex and was more confusing. So after being with that female friend I concluded that I'm not into girls (At least as a cis man)
Well, let's see if after living full time as trans woman something happens with my sex life.

Eugh, throw the whole town away... Please be safe, sorry people haven't been gentle with your body or heart...

 

[Jean Améry]

Since I'm not getting any atm (haven't in a long, long time) it's hard to get bored of it. I don't know if I'd enjoy it now although I'd probably welcome the attention. Perhaps this is strange for a man but what I crave most now is emotional and physical closeness. Perhaps being depressed killed my sex-drive.

I do get disgusted with pornography I sometimes watch: sure it's a turn-on but after I wonder why the heck I was watching such crap in the first place.

 

[TAW122]

I never did since I am a virgin and never had sexual intercourse in my life. I do wish to experience it at least once in my life before ctb'ing as I'm very curious to know what it feels like physically speaking. Given my social situation, the current societal climate, and my circumstances, I'm afraid that escorts and prostitutes would have to be my only hope. I also simply am not interested in a relationship or marriage itself, which is another thing altogether.

 

[sadsoul]

I haven't had sex myself (far too shy and socially incompetent, I don't even have irl friends (also being depressed and absolutely hating yourself doesn't help much either)) but I do recall being involved in the action when I was still in my sperm form

 

[Jean Améry]

I haven't had sex myself (far too shy and socially incompetent, I don't even have irl friends (also being depressed and absolutely hating yourself doesn't help much either)) but I do recall being involved in the action when I was still in my sperm form

Lol. Good one.

 

[Walilamdzi]

Yeah I can relate. I have no interest in it currently because it feels like my whole last relationship was ruined by it.

 

[salvation]

never had it never will

 

[Carma]

I never liked intercourse, I find it animalistic, repetitive, robotic.
I remember being in bed with my first gf after sex and she wanted to get a selfie of both of us, I dispised it, I hate having hair, and being in a human body, I never feel right inside, it's humiliating.
I do like cuddling in a sofa, being together.
Sex also is the cause of our slavery to this world/bodies, I asked for vasectomy but of course the socialist health systems of europe don't cover it, can't stop the breeding of slaves.
I was socially presused to have sex the first time, so I lied to my friends so they would leave me in peace. It wasn't that great, you haven't loose a thing.

 

[LivingToLong]

Sex is important, but not that important. More important is that whatever you're into, or not into, that you're cool with it. I think sex is ludicrous, it's a ridiculous thing to do and looks comical. It makes me laugh, and not many things do that.

 

[YukiFox]

Sex is important, but not that important. More important is that whatever you're into, or not into, that you're cool with it. I think sex is ludicrous, it's a ridiculous thing to do and looks comical. It makes me laugh, and not many things do that.

The problem is the modern society, since the so-called "Sexual revolution" sells to us as the ultimate pleasure, the couple panacea, the most desirable state to try and try again. And that generates on some persons like me and tremendous anxiety for have sex, and feel ashamed, lonely or disgust for not afford it. Particularly I can't find my sexual orientation yet, even if I'm 30 years old, and I want to be in a healthy relationship with a healthy sex life, if death doesn't come first.

 

[Jean Améry]

Sex is important, but not that important. More important is that whatever you're into, or not into, that you're cool with it. I think sex is ludicrous, it's a ridiculous thing to do and looks comical. It makes me laugh, and not many things do that.

I agree it looks ridiculous yet when you're actually doing it it's quite pleasurable. At least from what I remember. Surely you don't burst out into laughter when you're having sex? Lol. I'm sure your partner wouldn't really appreciate that.

 

[Carma]

I went recently to a 'massage', nice girl, studying university, I've visited her 4 times or so, this was the best experience, not the naked massage, but afterwards, I lay my head on her lap and asked her to massage my head, she said she didn't have much knowledge for head massage but it didn't matter, I was so happy there, looking at her eyes, relaxed, no sex, no goals, no competition, no time.

I could go just for that, and some petting, laying together, caressing her feet, being relaxed, candles, relaxing music, without any sexual activity, but I allmost hear a voice in my head criticizing it, social programming, 'male' programming, nature, etc.

In fact, I'm thinking of cbt with her, excusing myself a moment, going to the bathroom to prepare/drink my N or SN and then go to sleep in her lap, telling her to leave a few minutes after I fall sleep. She doesn't have to know.
I could do it alone, but the eternal debate of what do you want your 'mental state' to be when you leave, what if it's important or influencial for the 'next step'?

 

[TAW122]

@Carma I don't want to discount what you said, and while I've heard a lot of people say that it isn't as appealing as it is made out to be, or overrated, unfortunately, there is simply no way for me to know (the physical aspect) until I have experienced it first hand. This is why I've been studying and researching the best way to go about this since I am not interested in a relationship or emotionally attachment, but rather just to experience the physical aspect of sexual intercourse.

I live in the US so the only state that allows for prostitution or escorts is Nevada, and even then, only in certain places. While I don't have the time nor the capital to pursue such an endeavor at this point in my life, it is still something I want to do before I die, at least experience and know what intercourse feels like physically. I also don't want to get sick (STDs and other diseases), ripped off, scammed, endangered (beaten up/mugged/roughed up), or run into legal troubles (hence I'm sticking with the legal side of things - one less problem to deal with and less risk).

 

[Redt2go]

@Carma I don't want to discount what you said, and while I've heard a lot of people say that it isn't as appealing as it is made out to be, or overrated, unfortunately, there is simply no way for me to know (the physical aspect) until I have experienced it first hand. This is why I've been studying and researching the best way to go about this since I am not interested in a relationship or emotionally attachment, but rather just to experience the physical aspect of sexual intercourse.

I live in the US so the only state that allows for prostitution or escorts is Nevada, and even then, only in certain places. While I don't have the time nor the capital to pursue such an endeavor at this point in my life, it is still something I want to do before I die, at least experience and know what intercourse feels like physically. I also don't want to get sick (STDs and other diseases), ripped off, scammed, endangered (beaten up/mugged/roughed up), or run into legal troubles (hence I'm sticking with the legal side of things - one less problem to deal with and less risk).

Give dating apps a try?

 

[TAW122]

Give dating apps a try?

I would but in addition to the fear and shame of rejection, wasted time and effort, there is an even greater fear. Given how today's social climate is about false accusations of rape, sexual harassment, and sexual assault, I'm just too scared to do so. Life is already tough enough with it's current problems, and legal problems would just be too much for me to handle. Plus, I don't really have an interest in an relationship, dating, or even a family (sorry I hope this doesn't come off offensive, it's just my preference to lead a 'mostly' solitary lifestyle).

 

[Zamolxes]

Ooh look there's a meme about it so it must be a thing ! View attachment 8869

Same I think is some mind block or energy block in the body but who cares

 

[Quinlor]

I don't know what you are discussing here, I know nothing about sex...

 

[Redt2go]

I would but in addition to the fear and shame of rejection, wasted time and effort, there is an even greater fear. Given how today's social climate is about false accusations of rape, sexual harassment, and sexual assault, I'm just too scared to do so. Life is already tough enough with it's current problems, and legal problems would just be too much for me to handle. Plus, I don't really have an interest in an relationship, dating, or even a family (sorry I hope this doesn't come off offensive, it's just my preference to lead a 'mostly' solitary lifestyle).

Not offensive :) I gotchu I have no interest in a relationship or a family either. I'm not an antinatalist but there's no way I'm having kids.

 

[staphaureus]

It is good with someone you like. I have gotten disgusted before when I was not in the mood but did it anyway.

 

[ScorpiusDragon]

I enjoy it a lot. Back when I used to be on meds, the meds killed my sex drive, but after I stopped my meds, my sex drive has shot up again. My boyfriend is rarely in a mood these days though, so I usually just get off on my own.

 

[Saga]

i love sex...at the same time i hate it...i dunno maybe because ive got dual personality..

 

[sunny.sativa]

I don't get disgusted with sex, just the people that act like they can't live without it.
It's not a vital fucking activity that we have to perform to keep our lungs functioning. Calm down. Hire an escort or stop being a fool.

It's fun, but only when it's.. right, y'know? Not sensual and romantic, fuck that, but the events leading up to it should fall right for me to enjoy it.