Discussion do you care if people know your death was a suicide or would you prefer it appear to be an accident/natural causes

[Al Cappella]

In my case, no one would believe it was really an accident—unless a tree fell on me while snowshoeing or something. So no, I don't care if they know. In fact, I would want folks to know, as a means of shining a light on mental health and pathology, etc. It's an outcome of disease, no different from any other.

 

[FractalTears]

I don't really care tbh, i just want this to be over..

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I really don't care although with the method I have in mind it will be fairly easy to tell. Once I'm gone, I'm gone and anyone who cares about my death is a loser anyway for caring about an even worse loser (me).

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I don't care anymore

 

[Starryeyes]

Surely family can find out cause of death at the inquest

 

[Brokensaddle]

I would be dead so I don't care. I just hope noone makes rumors about my suicide.

I know people are going to talk shit about me. Just in death no way cares about me in real life. I get told I'm the abusers and everything is my fault and I deserve pain

 

[BRuss]

I don't even want my body found.

 

[elfin]

i don't really have a preference. part of me wants people to know because they'll finally see how much pain i'm in, but then part of me wants them to think it was natural causes so that they don't end up blaming me for being "selfish" or themselves for "missing the signs" or whatever.

 

[ixkitty]

I voted not caring either way. I'm relatively open about my suicidal intentions and most of my immediate family is fully aware about my needs. So if I died, they wouldn't question it regardless.

 

[12345678]

i have been thinking about what my preference would be. i have a unique situation where i have a history of strange health issues with unknown causes and i think that if i plan properly, my death might seem like another health issue

while it wouldn't make much difference to me, it might help my parents to not know i was dealing with such serious issues. there would be no blame or judgement, just sadness that i passed away in my sleep.

my basic plan is to drink N at night in my room at my regular sleep time and quickly hide the bottle in my trash before it starts to take affect. then i can simply fall asleep in my bed and my parents won't know anything until 12-16 hours later (on the weekends i sleep a lot lol). if i fall asleep face down on my pillow, they might assume i had a heart attack or seizure and died in my sleep.

this is all only useful if they don't try to investigate and i don't know if N would show up on a post-mortum tox screen (or if they would use tox screen in this situation) and i don't know what to do about my bank account bc my parents know about it and might ask for access to the account after my death and see the withdrawls, but it's a nice thought.

hbu?

What is N?

 

[Octogenarian]

I have no problem with people knowing it's a suicide. I've even been doing some journaling, and writing notes to my friends and family explaining my reasons why.
Of course I'll have no control over what my family decides to tell people. I don't doubt they'll feel inclined to hide the truth, or at least not talk about it.

 

[sleeps]

i suppose i'd rather they know it was a suicide. it shouldn't be a secret that i was in terrible pain and so badly wanted peace. i'd hope that some would eventually come to accept that.

truly doesn't matter either way tho, i just wanna be gone.

 

[On Replay]

Don't care either way. Figure it out or don't , I'm tired of caring. Though by how vocal I've been, I hope my family know I killer myself. Though I have fears of being murdered and it seeming like it was a suicide because of how I've been so vocal about it to the one I know would love to have me dead . Either way , I'm dead and I'm glad I'm dead.
Just wouldn't want it to be too painful

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think I would want people to know. I guess part of it is because I know I must have come across as moany and glum to a lot of people- who probably thought/ think I simply don't make enough effort to be happy. They could still think that of course but I guess I'd want them to know the thoughts and emotions I was really dealing with that I largely concealed.

 

[NeverEndingPain]

I live in a very small town. Word would get out fast and a lot of rumours.

 

[SamTam33]

I literally want to shout it from the mountain tops. I COMMITTED SUICIDE BITCHES!

But if my parents lied (they won't), I wouldn't care.

I can hear my mom in that whispery voice of hers, telling all of her friends, "Our girl has passed."

Passed. I hate that term.

I'm dead, yo. Deadity, dead, dead. It's okay to say it.

In my wildest fantasies, I get to watch them for a few weeks after they find out. I want to see how soon they'd laugh and smile again. I bet it would be within 48 hours.

No. In my wildest fantasy, I'd haunt their asses. Turn on faucets for no reason. Blast the TV in the middle of the night. Slap my dad upside the head while he sleeps.

I promise - if the ability to haunt was an option, I'd jump off a bridge tonight