Discussion Do Suicide Notes Help?

[10000DaysTooMany]

Do you all think leaving notes behind is a good thing for those close to you? I'm waiting on my SN and Zofran to arrive before starting on any. But I'm just not positive it will really help those who care about me. I plan on explaining to each of them exactly why I decided to do this and try to help them cope with personal messages. I'm just not sure if it would help or add onto the grief. Those expecting to CTB what do you plan to do?

 

[BringMeToLife]

I've never wanted to leave a note, but I gave it some thought and I changed my mind. I want to help my family understand my decision. I want to let them know what I want them to do with my body (I want to be cremated and don't want them to spend too much money). They probably won't be able to think straight for some time so I will leave some tips and reminders like "go talk to a therapist if you think this ks too much for you".

I think notes are helpful for the close ones. They won't have to wonder why, what happened. They will get the answers right away.

 

[10000DaysTooMany]

I've never wanted to live a note, but I gave it some thought and I changed my mind. I want to help my family understand my decision. I want to let them know what I want them to do with my body (I want to be cremated and don't want them to spend too much money). They probably won't be able to think straight for some time so I will leave some tips and reminders like "go talk to a therapist if you think this ks too much for you".

I think notes are helpful for the close ones. They won't have to wonder why, what happened. They will get the answers right away.

Fair point. I should probably mention what to do with my bode and belongings when I type them up.

 

[charlotte_]

Personally I think it would. Make sure that you explain the reason for your decision clearly, and remind them that it is not their fault and they should not feel burdened down by your death. Also tell them that you would be in a better place and you don't regret your decision. They would still feel sad but at least it sounds a little bit lighter and more optimistic, at least will help them cope better than if you die without a single word.

 

[10000DaysTooMany]

Personally I think it would. Make sure that you explain the reason for your decision clearly, and remind them that it is not their fault and they should not feel burdened down by your death. Also tell them that you would be in a better place and you don't regret your decision. They would still feel sad but at least it sounds a little bit lighter and more optimistic, at least will help them cope better than if you die without a single word.

Absolutely. I personally don't believe in an after life but I know some of my people do. I've been very open about my beliefs' through my life; but for my Christian friends I know it will be hard thinking I'm in hell. I suppose it would be interesting to find out I'm wrong when I CTB.

 

[charlotte_]

I don't really mean an afterlife when I say "a better place", just means a position that is better than where you are right now. Regardless if it's really is an afterlife or just eternal darkness, it would reassure them better knowing that you aren't in pain anymore

 

[heavyeyes]

Notes are definitely helpful. With something as traumatic as a loved one passing suddenly and unexpectedly I think it's especially important for those closest to you to have answers. If not they'll spend the rest of their lives questioning why and they'll maybe even blame themselves. At least with a note they'll have an explanation.

Personally I'll be leaving a short letter. It's important to me that my family and friends know why I did it, remind them it's not their fault, what to do with my body, what to do with all of my belongings, etc. In the end I know I can't spare them from the pain but it's the least I can do. My hope is it'll help even just a little in their grief to know I'm not suffering anymore.

 

[leloyon]

I would, even if it's just clarifying that it is a suicide. Even if it may be a foolish worry, who knows if some grieving family member chooses to believe that someone killed you rather than you ending it yourself.

 

[Das Nichts]

I suspect leaving with nothing would even cause more pain. While i'm not particularly satisfied with mine
they do the job and explain the reasoning behind my decision.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, I've appreciated notes people have left me- even after natural deaths. I expect with suicide- there are a whole lot more questions- which you can try to cover. I suppose the main thing I want to say is- there's nothing they could have done to help me or stop me- I don't want them to feel guilty. Plus, I want to apologise and hope that they will forgive me for causing them grief.

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Do you all think leaving notes behind is a good thing for those close to you? I'm waiting on my SN and Zofran to arrive before starting on any. But I'm just not positive it will really help those who care about me. I plan on explaining to each of them exactly why I decided to do this and try to help them cope with personal messages. I'm just not sure if it would help or add onto the grief. Those expecting to CTB what do you plan to do?

A farewell letter, bittersweet and sad,
Written with tears, by a heart that's mad.
A goodbye to those, who've touched our soul,
A painful goodbye, that takes its toll.

Words left unsaid, now put to pen,
An apology, a confession, again and again.
For in this letter, we pour our heart,
And hope that those we leave, won't fall apart.

But the ache remains, a burden to bear,
For the goodbye, is a heavy affair.
The memories of laughter, now stained with tears,
A reminder of love, now tinged with fears.

The letter is a final goodbye,
A last embrace, a final sigh.
For we know not what the future holds,
And our journey, forever unfolds.

So let the letter be a reminder,
Of love that's felt, and memories that bind us.
For in our goodbye, we leave a part of us,
A legacy of love, that will forever be cherished.

-ShinigamiApples

 

[Pidgeons_Sparrows]

my note is just gonna be "so long suckers"

 

[Mäximum]

I have the same opinion as the others above. I think that a last letter will help family and friends to cope and i will write one as well when it's time to leave.

 

[10000DaysTooMany]

-ShinigamiApples

Thank you for writing this. It's utterly beautiful.

 

[SpiderLink]

Do you all think leaving notes behind is a good thing for those close to you? I'm waiting on my SN and Zofran to arrive before starting on any. But I'm just not positive it will really help those who care about me. I plan on explaining to each of them exactly why I decided to do this and try to help them cope with personal messages. I'm just not sure if it would help or add onto the grief. Those expecting to CTB what do you plan to do?

Personally for me, I would hope so. I find the fear of the unknown is worse than knowing. I want to ease my death as soon as possible

A farewell letter, bittersweet and sad,
Written with tears, by a heart that's mad.
A goodbye to those, who've touched our soul,
A painful goodbye, that takes its toll.

Words left unsaid, now put to pen,
An apology, a confession, again and again.
For in this letter, we pour our heart,
And hope that those we leave, won't fall apart.

But the ache remains, a burden to bear,
For the goodbye, is a heavy affair.
The memories of laughter, now stained with tears,
A reminder of love, now tinged with fears.

The letter is a final goodbye,
A last embrace, a final sigh.
For we know not what the future holds,
And our journey, forever unfolds.

So let the letter be a reminder,
Of love that's felt, and memories that bind us.
For in our goodbye, we leave a part of us,
A legacy of love, that will forever be cherished.

-ShinigamiApples

I love your name, death note fan?

 

[FuneralCry]

I would personally see it as being beneficial to leave a suicide note as it could mean that those who are left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions, if they have some kind of explanation.

 

[SilentSadness]

I wouldn't leave a note, it would only make it harder to talk my way out of psychiatric abuse if I failed and it would just be empty anyway. There isn't anything I could write in a note which would explain anything, and I'm certain that the people reading it wouldn't be interested in understanding that my reasons are valid. If you do leave a note, make sure that it doesn't try to be witty or clever as it will just come across as bitter.

 

[ShinigamiApples]

Personally for me, I would hope so. I find the fear of the unknown is worse than knowing. I want to ease my death as soon as possible

I love your name, death note fan?

yes

 

[SpiderLink]

yes

Aye!! My fav anime :D

 

[MrBrownUpsideD]

I think writing a note gives the suicidal person more closure than the family. That's the horrible thing about suicide: there will always be pain, unanswered questions and feelings of guilt for those left behind. And personally, writing a single note wouldn't do my feelings and experiences justice anyways. I'm banking really hard on the believe that consciousness ceases after death. Though at this point, I've rationalized it to be fact.