Discussion Do SH Scars Affect Romantic Attraction?

[sleazyyyy]

I'm not sure where to post this, but I'm curious about other people's perspectives. I've only had one boyfriend (now my ex), so I don't have much experience with dating.

Do you think differently of someone if they have self-harm scars? More specifically, do men generally view women as less attractive or less desirable in a romantic sense because of self-harm scars?

I'm interested in honest opinions and personal experiences.

 

[AnxiousLife]

I generally feel empathy when I see someone with self harm scars, thinking about what they might be going through or went through in the past. So I wouldn't generally see a woman as less desirable, solely because of her self harm scars.

I also have sh scars and I personaly think, that for some (or many) people it might be a turn off, but why would I want to date them anyway? It might be even some sort of a filter, if I look at it from different perspective

 

[franos666]

I am a man and I also self harm so I have understanding for people who do it also. If I saw a girl with self-harm scars I could even start thinking better about her because it would show that we have similar experiences so there is a chance to build better connection

 

[junctionbox]

i have pretty noticeable scars and in my experience, people i've dated (men and others) tend to not say nothing. i can tell they notice and sometimes i bring it up just to ease my mind around it. it can feel pretty embarrassing to have your scars showing, especially bc mine are red, but sometimes it's also nice to have them out in the open and see that nothing comes from it (i might be lucky bc i haven't had any comments irl) usually people will feel empathy or worry, or they might not know what to say. for me, if someone i was interested in had scars, i might feel a sense of mutual understanding and simultaneously worry that we could end up in an unhealthy dynamic bc i am not clean from self harm

 

[westerly_merlin]

I am a man and only one person noticed my scars, she asked about them because she also had scars.

oddly she was also the person that gave me hell and got really angry with me when I got two new ones!

I don't think people notice, or if they do they tend to ignore them.

 

[Bishop]

Any and everything affects attraction. It's purely subjective. What turns off someone might not bother another.