Venting Dad slipping away from reality

[Breadbfra]

I'm so sorry to be constantly venting on this site and I feel a burden sometimes, I've basically told everyone my life at this point.
My depressed father stopped hugging me, stopped replying, eating properly (eats like...800 calories per day, messes with his food), he sleeps too much, has nervous tics.
He stares at me sometimes, stares at the void, says strange things. I get it, he's 69 and I'm 21.
I'm an absoloute mess and I can't stop crying. He's the kindest soul on this planet and sometimes I would be angry over his happiness.
I can't do this. I live in the middle of the woods, only child, mother who works 14 hours per 6 days, always tired, and now I have to watch my father slipping away from reality everyday. He doesn't deserve this.

 

[WornOutLife]

I'm so sorry for you and your parents. At least you're taking care of your dad. Your mom is truly a warrior.
In my case my dad is the warrior but my mom has mental issues and is verbally agressive all the time. I can't cope with her anymore and don't know what to do because I can't CTB and just leave my dad alone.

 

[Ghost2211]

I'm so sorry. Please vent as much and as often as you need. I'll always read. My heart goes out to you and your mom. Give your dad lots of hugs.

 

[Breadbfra]

I'm so sorry for you and your parents. At least you're taking care of your dad. Your mom is truly a warrior.
In my case my dad is the warrior but my mom has mental issues and is verbally agressive all the time. I can't cope with her anymore and don't know what to do because I can't CTB and just leave my dad alone.

I hope you'll find peace someday. Sending hugs. ❤

I'm so sorry. Please vent as much and as often as you need. I'll always read. My heart goes out to you and your mom. Give your dad lots of hugs.

Thanks, you're one of the kindest people I've ever met. For real. Thanks a lot.

 

[Mm80]

I'm so sorry to be constantly venting on this site and I feel a burden sometimes, I've basically told everyone my life at this point.
My depressed father stopped hugging me, stopped replying, eating properly (eats like...800 calories per day, messes with his food), he sleeps too much, has nervous tics.
He stares at me sometimes, stares at the void, says strange things. I get it, he's 69 and I'm 21.
I'm an absoloute mess and I can't stop crying. He's the kindest soul on this planet and sometimes I would be angry over his happiness.
I can't do this. I live in the middle of the woods, only child, mother who works 14 hours per 6 days, always tired, and now I have to watch my father slipping away from reality everyday. He doesn't deserve this.

Im So sorry, this sounds horrible for you. Please dont apologise or feel like a burden because you are not. You have genuine need to vent and ask for support x

 

[Breadbfra]

The thing that destroys me the most is that before covid arrived he was the happiest person I've ever met, but now...I can't recognize him. They diagnosed him today with depression and just started antidepressants. Oh god it's 1am almost and I can't stop crying and stress eating. I just want him back.

 

[Mm80]

The thing that destroys me the most is that before covid arrived he was the kindest soul I've ever met, but now...I can't recognize him. They diagnosed him today with depression and just started antidepressants. Oh god it's 1am almost and I can't stop crying and stress eating. I just want him back.

Hopefully you will get him back and soon. A single bout of depression later on in life can be recovered from. The antidepressants should help with his appatite and motivation. Just take it a day at a time if you can x

 

[Ghost2211]

The thing that destroys me the most is that before covid arrived he was the happiest person I've ever met, but now...I can't recognize him. They diagnosed him today with depression and just started antidepressants. Oh god it's 1am almost and I can't stop crying and stress eating. I just want him back.

Sit with him, and tell him stories. Talk to him about your day, and keep telling him each day how loved he is. It will help him a lot to stay connected.

 

[Breadbfra]

Sit with him, and tell him stories. Talk to him about your day, and keep telling him each day how loved he is. It will help him a lot to stay connected.

Believe me when I say I try to make convo everyday but he just goes away or basically just...nods. I baked him cornetti (croissants) and focaccia, I saw him eating them but he didn't say a word. Usually he would give me advice, he would tell me always something. I had to ask and he replied just "good" and then went away

 

[Ghost2211]

Believe me when I say I try to make convo everyday but he just goes away or basically just...nods

I can imagine how heartbreaking that is. As long as it doesn't bother him just keep at it.

 

[Breadbfra]

I can imagine how heartbreaking that is. As long as it doesn't bother him just keep at it.

I'll keep helping him. Depression took away my grandmother, my cousin, my father too now, my "mother in law" killed herself.
I swear it's so absurd it looks like I made it up myself

 

[Futile]

If it's for covid then things will probably get better in a few months. They won't keep everything closed and let the economy die. Or at least so I hope

 

[almost_dead]

I'm so sorry to be constantly venting on this site and I feel a burden sometimes, I've basically told everyone my life at this point.
My depressed father stopped hugging me, stopped replying, eating properly (eats like...800 calories per day, messes with his food), he sleeps too much, has nervous tics.
He stares at me sometimes, stares at the void, says strange things. I get it, he's 69 and I'm 21.
I'm an absoloute mess and I can't stop crying. He's the kindest soul on this planet and sometimes I would be angry over his happiness.
I can't do this. I live in the middle of the woods, only child, mother who works 14 hours per 6 days, always tired, and now I have to watch my father slipping away from reality everyday. He doesn't deserve this.

he's 69 , he has finally attained enlightenment .

 

[Breadbfra]

If it's for covid then things will probably get better in a few months. They won't keep everything closed and let the economy die. Or at least so I hope

I don't think he will get better to be honest, Italy is in a full panic mode, I turn on the TV and programs talk about covid 24/7

he's 69 , he has finally attained enlightenment .

Very funny dude!

 

[Futile]

I don't think he will get better to be honest, Italy is in a full panic mode, I turn on the TV and programs talk about covid 24/7

I giornalisti fanno catastrofismo per lavoro, per come la vedo io praticamente nessuna regiona sembra voler chiudere tutto di nuovo

 

[Breadbfra]

I giornalisti fanno catastrofismo per lavoro, per come la vedo io praticamente nessuna regiona sembra voler chiudere tutto di nuovo

Non ti avevo riconosciuto! Scusami. Comunque abbiamo dovuto spegnergli la tv quando c'è il covid...è allucinante, se lo va a leggere sul giornale, sul pc...non so più che cazzo fare, se ci dovessero essere nuove chiusure probabilmente ci dovrebbero entrambi morti

 

[Rubyandthemoon]

I understand. My dad got sober and that revealed his mental illness. He refuses medication so I've been watching him go from a perfectly capable man running his own business to being homeless and still refusing to get help. I don't really know who he is anymore and it's not fair to anyone. Sending big hugs.

 

[Sinkinshyp]

I'm so sorry for you and your mom. Like Rosey said hug him, let him know how much he's loved and you are there for him. I hope things get better for you and your family.

 

[Futile]

Non ti avevo riconosciuto! Scusami. Comunque abbiamo dovuto spegnergli la tv quando c'è il covid...è allucinante, se lo va a leggere sul giornale, sul pc...non so più che cazzo fare, se ci dovessero essere nuove chiusure probabilmente ci dovrebbero entrambi morti

Come ho già detto, per la tv e per i giornali è semre la fine del mondo, lo era anche prima del covid, per loro ogni scusa è buona. Poi, di certo una seconda chiusura farebbe danni irreparabili

 

[Breadbfra]

Come ho già detto, per la tv e per i giornali è semre la fine del mondo, lo era anche prima del covid, per loro ogni scusa è buona. Poi, di certo una seconda chiusura farebbe danni irreparabili

Sì non ne parliamo...piuttosto mi ammazzo per davvero cristo santo. Tu come stai?

 

[Silvermorning]

If it's for covid then things will probably get better in a few months. They won't keep everything closed and let the economy die. Or at least so I hope

I think will be years, not months, until working vaccines ease the fear of the vulnerable populations, for the rest , things will go back to the usual shitty normal way, way, before that, just poorer.

 

[Futile]

Sì non ne parliamo...piuttosto mi ammazzo per davvero cristo santo. Tu come stai?

Grazie per l'interessamento, ma non c'è tanto da dire in realtà. Ormai le giornate sono tutte identiche

 

[Despondent]

I first wanted to say that you are not a burden to any of us and you don't need to apologize at all. This is a safe space for everyone and the beauty of this forum is that you can vent when needed. We all need a good vent anyway.

I'm really sorry to hear about you and your parents. You speak very kindly about your father and in your post alone, I can tell that you love him a lot. We're all here for you regardless and I'm sending you so many hugs

 

[whywere]

Reading this breaks my heart into trillions of pieces. I wish I was there to help you, I really mean it. You are such a loving and caring person with empathy that know no limits. I love you, care for you , will be here for you, and PLEASE know that all of us are here for you. All the love in the world to you my sanctioned suicide golbal family member.

 

[Breadbfra]

Thanks guys, you're really special.
He seems to be getting 0,5% better, but I don't know if it's due to him understanding his condition, or he's faking it for me... but he showered and changed so that's huge thing.
Still some fights with my mother due to him not eating properly but we'll eventually get over it.
Thanks y'all again. ❤

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

Everyone here already gave great advice. Continue being there for your dad

 

[peacechoice]

Yes, depression is a bitch. I am so sorry that your father is going through this and I am especially sorry that you have to take care of many things. I know you have to stay here for your loved ones. You are so courageous. In this case.