Ctb becauese cant get a girl

[Dr Iron Arc]

I hate seeing couples happy, So there's that

Me too. I'm glad I have an excuse to stay indoors on Valentine's this year because with some of the lockdown restrictions lifted there's probably gonna be tons of couples outside.

 

[Q-Dust]

Me too. I'm glad I have an excuse to stay indoors on Valentine's this year because with some of the lockdown restrictions lifted there's probably gonna be tons of couples outside.

I like playing Ow on valentines and New Years, Is strangely comforting to know a bunch of other sad fucks being with you

 

[StringPuppet]

I met a girl who was perfect for me about a year ago, she was very pretty and seemed to be into me and i fucked it up by panicking and bailing. Still kicking myself over it.

Maybe i'm better off this way, if i had continued to fall for her and it didn't work out it would have destroyed me.

Something like this happened to me very recently

 

[Makko]

It's a bit unfair to label us normie women as if we are not also here for our own reasons. I am also suicidal. I took the time out of my day to support the OP and reinforce their hope of meeting someone despite the fact that somebody else with a lot of hate towards women showed up and derailed their thread a bit. I have also read the OPs older posts detailing their social position and it is currently exactly the same as my own.
Also do not assume that just because I HAD relationships when I was younger that I have a social life now. Not all of us are only 20 years old, some of us had some extra years and in that time we did a few more things. I am now a recluse, agoraphobic and my mental health is a mess. I will Ctb soon. However, if I decide to share a tiny piece of wisdom before I go please don't kick me for it.
There is hope for the OP and I stand by my advice because it's true. Go get em OP <3

It's a noble effort but I don't think there can be much empathy between people who never had a relationship and people who had plenty. The life experiences and the points of departure are too different. The support of the experienced types is like telling someone who is blind from birth about beauty and colors, and if they try hard enough they might just be able to see it as well. Even if it comes from a good place, to the blind person, it sounds like comical ignorance or a taunt.

 

[Spiral]

He's a 35 year old suicidal virgin. What are you smoking?

So what? I'm also in my 30's. If he wants to meet somebody he can. Not sure why you are stomping on people's hopes. Does it make you feel better? Usually I like your posts because you have a good sense of humour but maybe you are in a bad mood today I dunno *shrugs* most of us are going to Ctb it if somebody wants to find love before they go of course I will support them.
Usually the hardest part is finding the confidence to go and try and if you believe there is no woman in the world who will find you attractive then it's impossible to achieve that confidence. I feel like it's important that we women shared some truths and I hope it helps the OP

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Not sure why you are stomping on people's hopes. Does it make you feel better?

No

 

[262653]

I'm creating my imaginary girlfriend out of my own tears and blood.

The next level would be creating a girlfriend your own flesh and bones... Or better, flesh and bones of other creatures.

 

[Aspergirl]

Ive been single for over a year now, not having sex either. I guess I'm just too depressed to make the effort to date, communicate at all basically. Can't imagine never having a relationship. But let me tell you something, I've been in some abusive ass relationships. Most of them were toxic as hell. Due to me or the other person. I'm actually content with being alone right now. A relationship would be nice and might lift me out of my depression but it can also further ruin my life. So there are 2 sides on the coin.

 

[Makko]

The next level would be creating a girlfriend your own flesh and bones.

Eve was made from Adam's rib. I said it before and I'll say it again: alchemy is real.

 

[Spiral]

It's a noble effort but I don't think there can be much empathy between people who never had a relationship and people who had plenty. The life experiences and the points of departure are too different. The support of the experienced types is like telling someone who is blind from birth about beauty and colors, and if they try hard enough they might just be able to see it as well. Even if it comes from a good place, to the blind person, it sounds like comical ignorance or a taunt.

I do get where you are coming from but being blind is a fact and ugliness is usually (not always but in most cases) no more than an opinion. Based on the information the OP has given us he is just a normal tall blonde white guy with a few extra pounds not suffering from any physical health problems (as far as we know from his post) so it's safe to assume he has a chance if he chooses to try and meet someone. Maybe there are some people in different circumstances who my advice is useless for, but this isn't their thread. Anyway, I will keep quiet and offer no more hope to anyone. Next time somebody asks if they should Ctb because they can't get a girl we can all just say "yes you should" and see how that turns out

 

[NothingElseMatters]

I hate seeing couples happy, So there's that

Me too, I fucking hate. It can easily destroy my day.

 

[262653]

I hate seeing couples happy, So there's that

Oh I remember having one of those experiences. So overwhelming it brought me to tears, and then sadness transformed into anger and I started shouldering passersbies. Fun times.

 

[Sockeye Salmon]

I hate seeing couples happy, So there's that

Tomorrow will be a nightmare

 

[Wheredidmysanitygo]

More like because i left a girl and ended up with awful regret that drained me completely. Dunno if i can wait for the SN to arrive. I can't fucking stand another day with the guilt and regret. It's been 5 months since that horrendous mistake and i can't get over it. Looks don't fucking matter when you're hollow and useless within. Stopped even trying to use dating apps. Matches are meaningless if there's nothing i can say or start a conversation because i'm a dumb fuck. Definitely CTB'ing out of solitude and self isolation and have the urge to do it ASAP.

 

[blue_muse]

When someone's lonely it's easy to romanticise desired company as the solution to underlying problems. You're freer than you realise NEM because you're not having to live by someone else' standards . Don't be fooled by happy couples in real life and on social media because they won't show the arguments etc.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

you're not having to live by someone else' standards

I do appreciate this aspect of being single it's true.

 

[Gerard de Nerval]

No se puede sin vivir amar

 

[Hurt]

Have you tried Tinder or Happn??

 

[Conker]

It's a valid reason, although in my case it doesn't matter what side of the spectrum I'm on. My fate has already been sealed and written.

 

[flyaway]

It is (was) one of the reasons I want to CTB, but not the main one. Right now I wouldn't want to be in a relationship at all, even if given a chance. I see no point getting into one at this stage If I haven't been able to when I was a little bit younger so I'm just focusing on my remaining time and the final trip.

 

[Frauw]

Oh look, another im lonely thread turned into a gender debate...

 

[saltshaker]

It's a noble effort but I don't think there can be much empathy between people who never had a relationship and people who had plenty. The life experiences and the points of departure are too different. The support of the experienced types is like telling someone who is blind from birth about beauty and colors, and if they try hard enough they might just be able to see it as well. Even if it comes from a good place, to the blind person, it sounds like comical ignorance or a taunt.

Basically, if i was a forever alone i would however enjoy stories of how terrible relationships are. Would make me feel like i'm not missing out in anything.

Something like this happened to me very recently

Sorry to hear it bro, it can be a real bummer, 2 minutes of cooming followed by 2 years of dooming.

 

[Grav]

I think it's a valid reason but it's also one that can potentially change (vs permanent health issues or something like that). The sucky part is, part of the steps to make it happen is change you have to make and there's no guaranteed payoff and being in a low state doesn't make it any easier. But I agree with Spiral, you find a relationship when you least expect it. Sounds really stupid but I've lived it as well. I'd hate to be in today's world of tinder and hookup apps where it's about as superficial as it can get. If you have interests explore those. Like books? Go to bookstores/libraries and do your book thing. People who should match up better have some kind of shared interest and I know that those with interests in opposition either don't last or last very badly. Having a shared interest creates another path besides "cute/hot". The reality is (at least in the US) looks carry more value than they should and are used to judge people. With that said, if you think you're getting too out of shape, start trying to get in shape, nothing crazy just simple things like what is being eaten and even just walking. I've met a lot of people (usually in gaming circles) that seem to have forgotten how to bathe, brush their teeth, buy clothes that fit and then cry when someone isn't attracted to them. A relationship doesn't save the world and it takes work and compromise but it is also nice to have someone who wants to be with you. If you want to change that situation there are steps you can take if you want to.

FYI : you know someone is a keeper when you can comfortably fart around them. Should be in a manual.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

FYI : you know someone is a keeper when you can comfortably fart around them. Should be in a manual.

Hmm... maybe not on the first date though, ehh

 

[Grav]

Hmm... maybe not on the first date though, ehh

Maybe if they're into that? I won't judge. But for people who have been together a while, isn't this closer to the truth than we'd admit in polite company.

 

[DeadButDreaming]

What I want more than anything else is a woman to hold, but it's looking increasingly unlikely. If I had that one thing I could endure all the other bad shit in my life.

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Today I saw a couple and it always seems that you need to be a special kind of guy to make a girl genuinely laugh. Felt like crying, to be honest.

 

[wordsonscreen]

I'm creating my imaginary girlfriend out of my own tears and blood.

This is great diy weekend project idea ty <3

 

[fixitinpost]

It has to do with looks. Not personality.

It has to do with personality though. A while ago, I read a study* on infidelity, in which they asked men and women in long-term relationships about their dissatisfactions and reasons for cheating. For men, the #1 reason was that they'd lost physical attraction for their spouse. For women, that their spouse was not meeting their emotional needs. This was reflected in that the women emotionally cheated to a much higher degree than the men. To me, this suggests that women - to a greater degree than men - tend to look beyond the physical aspects of a partner over time.

Thing is, by going in with the wrong attitude you're not giving the woman a reason to look beyond.

(*which I of course can't find now that I finally have a reason to bring it up smh)

Today I saw a couple and it always seems that you need to be a special kind of guy to make a girl genuinely laugh. Felt like crying, to be honest.

All it really takes is a shared sense of humour. So looking at couples who likely bonded over that isn't fair to yourself.

To OP: it's a perfectly valid feeling. We're ultimately social beings. Society, religion, and even family puts pressure on us to find a partner, and it can while single make you feel like a failure for no good reason. I'm not sure if you feel like that, but I do sometimes.

 

[lifesucksxoxo]

It has to do with personality though. A while ago, I read a study* on infidelity, in which they asked men and women in long-term relationships about their dissatisfactions and reasons for cheating. For men, the #1 reason was that they'd lost physical attraction for their spouse. For women, that their spouse was not meeting their emotional needs. This was reflected in that the women emotionally cheated to a much higher degree than the men. To me, this suggests that women - to a greater degree than men - tend to look beyond the physical aspects of a partner over time.

Thing is, by going in with the wrong attitude you're not giving the woman a reason to look beyond.

(*which I of course can't find now that I finally have a reason to bring it up smh)



All it really takes is a shared sense of humour. So looking at couples who likely bonded over that isn't fair to yourself.

Lol you have no idea what ur talking about. Attractive people are more funnier because halo effect. Those studies are all bullshit because it is asking men and women and men and women's opinions do not matter. It is their actions.