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NothingElseMatters

NothingElseMatters

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Mar 30, 2020
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I can say that it's definitely the reason I'm going to CTB. I admire you for even lasting past 30 because I really don't think I could.
It was a long road, lots of regrets, lots of nights crying just begging to die, I dont wish that to my worst enemy.
 
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loopylou

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Jan 11, 2021
884
Frustration for not dating, having a gf/bf, not having sex, etc can be really depressing.

However, I think just ctb for that is not worthy. Trust me, I've had years in which no one paid attention to me and then years in which I was a "casanova" and fed up with dating girls. If you keep looking for her, she will show up.

If you have any other motives to ctb, then it's okay but, don't let something which could be totally possible (getting a girl) make you ctb.
I had years of people not paying attention to me till I was about twenty then I couldn't seem to shake the attention. Now I don't want it . Swings and roundabouts
 
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Ihadagoodlife

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Jan 18, 2021
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Its more the lack of attention and validation that hurting you i think not necessarily getting girls, cause i myself never got into a relationship but i had lot of validation from girls and opportunities with them, some girls even flat out asked me out but i refused and i know i could've kept living alone with no problem.
 
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BluesRunTheGame

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Dec 15, 2020
1,715
I repel women. It makes me feel like I must be some kind of freak/monster.
 
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My_name_is_Luka

Specialist
Apr 28, 2020
321
there's no reason to become suicidal for someone that you do not know, or that you do not know well enough. Strangers should not disrupt your self confidence. If that's the case, try to get stronger and to be less influenced by others.
When you have something precious, you do not even notice that you possess it and you only want more. If you have health, you believe that it's normal and you don't think that it's a reason for being happy, because you believe that you miss something more important. When you lose health, you forget about what you wanted so badly and you cry over your last unfortunate condition.
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
This is maybe going to sound silly but in my experience the easiest way to end up in a relationship is by accident.
I am also kinda ugly but I have had plenty of relationships but all of them happened when I was busy just focusing on myself and my own life. So my advice would be "don't try" :)
Usually if you are out and about and taking care of yourself, obviously make an effort with your appearance but no need to go over the top, just be yourself and somebody will find you attractive.
Usually when we really really want a relationship our neediness shows and people usually don't find that attractive and it can actually lead to us getting used and treated badly :(
It's a weird world. Obviously it may not work this way for everyone but if you haven't tried this method yet then it's worth a shot :)
 
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jakaranda3

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Feb 5, 2021
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This is maybe going to sound silly but in my experience the easiest way to end up in a relationship is by accident.
I am also kinda ugly but I have had plenty of relationships but all of them happened when I was busy just focusing on myself and my own life. So my advice would be "don't try" :)
Usually if you are out and about and taking care of yourself, obviously make an effort with your appearance but no need to go over the top, just be yourself and somebody will find you attractive.
Usually when we really really want a relationship our neediness shows and people usually don't find that attractive and it can actually lead to us getting used and treated badly :(
It's a weird world. Obviously it may not work this way for everyone but if you haven't tried this method yet then it's worth a shot :)
Agree.
And it's not a weird world, it makes perfect sense that "neediness" repels.
 
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jakaranda3

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Feb 5, 2021
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I'm 30 and never had a relationship, never kissed a girl. Not because of lack of opportunity though. I had some girls that were interested in me, which I also liked in return. However when the relationship starts to be intimate, I kind freak out. something I can't control, I will act plain weird and end-up repelling them. Deep in my subconsious, while I desire to be in a relationship, I have too much fear of hurting the other person, or being hurt myself in the long run. So I think my weirdness manifests and rejects the other person early (kind of minimizing the future damage). This happens as well with friend males as well, when they start to be close friends. I can't pass the superficial relationship status with anyone. Fucking sucks because I end-up alone.
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
women only want chad... 6ft+ and white. It's not your fault. What race are you? I could be able to help you solve your problem
This is not accurate lol I am a woman and I have dated the rainbow of men, short, tall, fat, skinny, muscles, ginger, super hot, really goofy, smart, thick as a plank, extroverts, introverts, brown, white, Asian and all of them were awesome in their own special way.
Obviously if you are being picky yourself and are only interested in 36 DD blondes then you will find they are more likely to be picky also but if you have an open mind and an open heart then you can find love
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
21,391
women only want chad... 6ft+ and white. It's not your fault. What race are you? I could be able to help you solve your problem
I'm 6 ft but I'm Asian and also not a chad. :aw:
 
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loopylou

Learn to fly
Jan 11, 2021
884
This is not accurate lol I am a woman and I have dated the rainbow of men, short, tall, fat, skinny, muscles, ginger, super hot, really goofy, smart, thick as a plank, extroverts, introverts, brown, white, Asian and all of them were awesome in their own special way.
Obviously if you are being picky yourself and are only interested in 36 DD blondes then you will find they are more likely to be picky also but if you have an open mind and an open heart then you can find love
This is not accurate lol I am a woman and I have dated the rainbow of men, short, tall, fat, skinny, muscles, ginger, super hot, really goofy, smart, thick as a plank, extroverts, introverts, brown, white, Asian and all of them were awesome in their own special way.
Obviously if you are being picky yourself and are only interested in 36 DD blondes then you will find they are more likely to be picky also but if you have an open mind and an open heart then you can find love
I know a man who's 36 and is a virgin. He's ok looking & quite short. when the conversation of his virginity came up at a house party once the reason he gave was he likes really attractive with big boobs and he won't even contemplate someone of his own league. He's super shy, but I don't think that's what's holding him back. It is just his list of what he wants from a woman.
never known another man like it!
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
I know a man who's 36 and is a virgin. He's ok looking & quite short. when the conversation of his virginity came up at a house party once the reason he gave was he likes really attractive with big boobs and he won't even contemplate someone of his own league. He's super shy, but I don't think that's what's holding him back. It is just his list of what he wants from a woman.
never known another man like it!
It's quite sad really, I have heard men talking like that about "only interested in a specific type of woman" too and I can't help thinking that they don't actually like women. They want a sex doll not an actual person with thoughts and feelings. Otherwise they would have more interest in personality and not only covet the porn star look which is unrealistic tbh. I'm sure there are women who have a similar attitude too so I won't point the finger and say it's just guys who are picky xD
 
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nooo2

Member
Jan 22, 2019
93
This is not accurate lol I am a woman and I have dated the rainbow of men, short, tall, fat, skinny, muscles, ginger, super hot, really goofy, smart, thick as a plank, extroverts, introverts, brown, white, Asian and all of them were awesome in their own special way.
Obviously if you are being picky yourself and are only interested in 36 DD blondes then you will find they are more likely to be picky also but if you have an open mind and an open heart then you can find love
Majority of incels or men that always say women only like 6'5 buff Chads are usually the men who prefer blonde white women with, like you said double D'S.
 
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NothingElseMatters

NothingElseMatters

Warlock
Mar 30, 2020
745
women only want chad... 6ft+ and white. It's not your fault. What race are you? I could be able to help you solve your problem
I dont think so, I'm 192cm and white with blonde hair and women hate me.
 
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Spiral

Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
That's not true, men do not want a sex doll as a girlfriend. You're projecting your experiences with Chads onto the rest of men. Most men just want a girl to love them for who they are but it isn't possible. Women are the most pickest ever and it's literally statistically proven.
I didn't say ALL men :p I was talking with loopylou about a specific man she knows and a few men I have overheard talking about "their type" and I'm not projecting my experience because nobody ever treated me like that and I don't even know what a "chad" is lol.

It is men who refuse to even look at any woman unless she looks like a porn star when they themselves are not in that league that just want a sex doll.
Women also want to be loved for who they are.

If I ask a guy what his dream gf would be like and he only describes goddess- like looks and doesn't care much for personality of course I will assume he is shallow
 
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Cherry Crumpet

Cherry Crumpet

Hiraeth
May 7, 2018
280
That's not true, men do not want a sex doll as a girlfriend. You're projecting your experiences with Chads onto the rest of men. Most men just want a girl to love them for who they are but it isn't possible. Women are the most pickest ever and it's literally statistically proven.

Oh please. As if men aren't picky when it comes to women as well.
 
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NothingElseMatters

Warlock
Mar 30, 2020
745
Oh please. As if men aren't picky when it comes to women as well.
Women have a lot of options while men have wayy less options, even a handsome one.
 
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loopylou

Learn to fly
Jan 11, 2021
884
It's quite sad really, I have heard men talking like that about "only interested in a specific type of woman" too and I can't help thinking that they don't actually like women. They want a sex doll not an actual person with thoughts and feelings. Otherwise they would have more interest in personality and not only covet the porn star look which is unrealistic tbh. I'm sure there are women who have a similar attitude too so I won't point the finger and say it's just guys who are picky xD
Yea sounded like he was describing a porn star , where he lives is very rural too and he barely leaves the area. Can't imagine he will ever lose it. I have said I think he's gay but who knows.
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
Women have a lot of options while men have wayy less options, even a handsome one.
What options?
More men are able to get women who are way out of their league than women getting men who are out of their league also older men find it much easier to get younger women.
Once we pass 30 most of us ladies are no longer interesting to men (unless we are very pretty)
Women have been property, bought and sold by men for hundreds of years, the porn industry is HUGE and it is all women pleasing men and the women have to be super hot and the men in porn are usually much older and have spent less effort on their appearance than the women.
If women had more options than men they wouldn't all be stealing each other's husbands if there was enough men to go around lol
Yea sounded like he was describing a porn star , where he lives is very rural too and he barely leaves the area. Can't imagine he will ever lose it. I have said I think he's gay but who knows.
Yea it's possible that he is using unrealistic goals as a cover story if he isn't ready to come out the closet yet. If that's so I hope he finds a nice man to lose his virginity to :)
 
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Cherry Crumpet

Hiraeth
May 7, 2018
280
Women have a lot of options while men have wayy less options, even a handsome one.
It can be super hard for BOTH. Stop trying to pin it on one Gender as if they coast through the dating scene.
 
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ZardozOmega

ZardozOmega

Narcissist Gay NEET-cel
Mar 4, 2020
718
Incel gang!

here's how I cope:

lay down in bed and pretend i'm cuddling with tom holland cuz he's really cute. doesn't matter who it is, you can pick any girl you want. i know it's cringe as fuck, but it's the only thing that makes me feel better



Tom holland 1013
 
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lifesucksxoxo

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Nov 3, 2020
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Oh please. As if men aren't picky when it comes to women as well.
They aren't. It's statistically proven. Women have the highest standards ever. Asian women don't even date their own race.
It can be super hard for BOTH. Stop trying to pin it on one Gender as if they coast through the dating scene.
Why are u lying? "It can be super hard for BOTH" No it can't. Deformed females have it easier than the average male. Women are the problem in the dating scene
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
They aren't. It's statistically proven. Women have the highest standards ever. Asian women don't even date their own race.

Why are u lying? "It can be super hard for BOTH" No it can't. Deformed females have it easier than the average male. Women are the problem in the dating scene
I'm starting to think that the reason you have a hard time getting a gf is because you are a bit rude. Maybe try focusing on yourself and don't demonise women for their right to choose who they like. I'm sure you want to have a choice also
 
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lifesucksxoxo

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Nov 3, 2020
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I'm starting to think that the reason you have a hard time getting a gf is because you are a bit rude. Maybe try focusing on yourself and don't demonise women for their right to choose who they like. I'm sure you want to have a choice also
It has to do with looks. Not personality.
 
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x~Sophia~x

Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
Sep 10, 2020
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It has to do with looks. Not personality.
How old are you?
If you think it's about looks, not personality, I'd hazard a guess that you're in your early 20s or younger.
When we reach maturity, we realise looks aren't everything so we look a bit deeper.
 
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Spiral

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Jan 22, 2021
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It has to do with looks. Not personality.
If you believe that looks are all that matters when choosing a partner then there is something wrong with your personality.
It has everything to do with personality and hardly anything to do with looks. When you look at somebody you truly love they are beautiful, even if you didn't find them attractive before you fell in love with them, once you love them you see them clearly and they are perfect, you even love their imperfections. It doesn't matter if they look like brad Pitt or the back of a donkey. Looks are not important
 
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NothingElseMatters

NothingElseMatters

Warlock
Mar 30, 2020
745
To make things worse, I'm becoming a phatass. 130kg.
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
21,391
Personally I think both genders care a lot about looks which is why dating apps are hell because it just pushes people on them to make snap judgments based on pictures and vague descriptions. I do it too, as much of an incel as I am. I wouldn't fault anyone for it either because that's just how the human race has always been.

Looks are critical for first impressions, male or female. A relationship cannot last based on personality alone if the members are physically repulsed by each other or if they find their mailman or waitress more hot. At the same time it probably still would last longer than a relationship founded on looks alone for some people.
 
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Spiral

Experienced
Jan 22, 2021
269
To make things worse, I'm becoming a phatass. 130kg.
Nothing wrong with a few extra pounds as long as it's not affecting your health and you feel comfy. Plenty of women like a big cuddly bear to snuggle up with ;)
 
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