Maybe you should not wait until you are 40 in search of a good provider and get down to business sooner:). No matter, no lack of people yet. And to the point. We do not value useless women, we have standards. FYI men do not get to impregnate all the females in the area, as some mammals do. Hence, we need to be selective too, to ensure the children we will be raising are of good stock. I am sure you will appreciate the sentiment.
Oh trust me I'm not waiting. My last partner was a provider as was the one before him. I know what those men are like and in my area they're everywhere, so it's easy for me to get another because I don't have to settle, and I won't be procreating with the poor because I don't have to :) and Trust me, I know to stay away from men who support feminists and 50/50 relationships lol. I always giggle at the girlies who go for those types of men; they'll regret it when they're working while nine months pregnant.
Men are selective all the time, so women should be too. Men want a hot woman and women want a well off man. I see nothing wrong with either, because I know how to obtain a man who provides so someone's standards don't really impact or bother me. The issue is, poor men want a hot woman yet cannot provide the lifestyle she already lives, so have your standards, but don't be surprised when they aren't met.
Now in terms of older age, I will say this as ive said before on this forum. Older women can pull well off men, but that depends on how she looks. I have women in my city much older than me (I'm in 20s) and they're dating men with twice as much money, but they invested heavily in self care. Bezos is dating a woman currently who's around his age and she is pretty. Not all well off men go for young women, and there's actually very valid reasons as to why all of them do not. That is a stereotype that is perpetuated over and over, but it isn't true.
Just because a podcast bro tells all of the peasants watching that that is what all rich men like, does not mean it's true, so being 40 doesn't really prevent someone from obtaining that unless they are just not attractive which in that case yes that's going to be a very big problem lol. From dating well off men, I can say age isn't as huge of a focus. It's going to be how does she take care of herself because well off men don't mind spending money on a woman who already spends on herself. I know what they expect which is why i invested In my looks and still do.
So to conclude, perhaps when men decide they will date, old, fat and ugly women, then women can compromise and decide they want to have a family with a guy who makes 10 dollars an hour and have to explain to their kids why the light bill isn't paid.
Until then, I welcome superficial standards.