cant do it without help

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[systemic_livestock]

Being lovable is sorta tricky because it depends really on your interests or personality so its different for everyone as well "be yourself" is sometimes truthfully horrible advice as people tend to be put off if your too authentic so its important to give off a good image to people apon meeting them as well as find somthing in common to strike up a conversation. On this note try finding soical events or clubs or whatever that you might find like minded people to strike up conversation.

Likewise with the girlfriend part try ether meeting a girl and ask her out on a date in a casual non-threatening way after a nice conversation (this usally only works if your attractive) or a different method requires starting out as friends and then progressing into a relationship (this runs the risk of you getting attached to the girl but she might not see you in the same way leading to after confessing you're love to cause the relationship drift apart or become really weird)

I'm on the same boat as you with the education and money part though lol as well with personality its literally all just learning to give off a good frist impression without oversharing then slowly shifting to your interests (what interests you are soically allowed to have is dependent on how attractive you are, good looking people can get away with more cringe or weird personality traits then less attractive people) You're appearance past taking care of your hygiene and dressing well is literally all genetics. As well i cant help you surviving past making shit worth living or getting away from people its all dependent on your circumstances.

I know my advice is pretty basic and I lack some soical skills I manage to atlest make some friends and date dispight my shortcomings in truth though as most things in life youre literally just taking a leap of fath try not to be afraid and good luck stranger. <3

 

[timf]

Some of your goals are contradictory. For example, making money (I assume you mean a lot of money) requires you to do things that hurt others and that doesn't make you many "friends".

If you were to get cosmetic surgery to make you look more attractive, you would find you attract more superficial people. If you want to attract people with better character, you need to have that yourself. If you are kind, have a good sense of humor, honest, and dependable, you will be attractive to others similarly inclined. However, there are fewer of these sort, so you may not encounter them often.

 

[SnaileyBailey]

All of these start with improving your personality. Its a very harsh truth (and a very corny movie line) but its hard to be loved when you don't love yourself. Pessimism and self-doubt can drive people away.

Find a support group or someone to talk to. Personality is a very difficult thing to change on your own.

 

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a different method requires starting out as friends and then progressing into a relationship

i thought this was creepy/weird

making money (I assume you mean a lot of money) requires you to do things that hurt others and that doesn't make you many "friends".

i dont need to be a millionaire i just want to be able to stop worrying about money

its hard to be loved when you don't love yourself. Pessimism and self-doubt can drive people away.

Find a support group or someone to talk to. Personality is a very difficult thing to change on your own.

i cant force myself to love anyone including myself, there's no one i can ask for help so i dont have an options but to do it alone

 

[systemic_livestock]

i thought this was creepy/weird

i dont need to be a millionaire i just want to be able to stop worrying about money

i cant force myself to love anyone including myself, there's no one i can ask for help so i dont have an options but to do it alone

"I thought this was creepy/weird"
not really its easier for alot of people to get to know people under the context of being friends frist and then testing the waters. I can see how it can be weird if using her but by nature the act in itself of being attracted to somone can be creepy you just need to learn boundaries if she isn't into it just back off.