Help Can someone in a similar situation talk to me? I have literally nothing

[katara]

I have no degree, never went to college, didn't even finish high school, guess that means I'll never get anywhere in life. I don't have friends, I don't travel or go anywhere because I have no money. Only family member I have is my mom who doesn't care about my situation at all and seems to think I'm totally fine. I don't have friends bc any online friends I make all stop talking to me eventually, even people I have met on here. I'm just tired of it all but I have no money, no car (never learned to drive either). I can't really do anything and I need to talk to someone bc I have no idea what to do. I've tried talking with people on here but they all have such normal lives like family stuff, college, events, normal ppl things going on. I have nothing and even on here it seems impossible to find someone. I'm hoping this post might reach the person I'm looking for bc I'm really sad and I need help but idk how to do anything. Is there anyone on here who gets this? Btw don't message me if you only talk on some weird "encrypted" email shit. I know u are just trolling and it's really fucking rude.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I have no degree, never went to college, didn't even finish high school, guess that means I'll never get anywhere in life. I don't have friends, I don't travel or go anywhere because I have no money. Only family member I have is my mom who doesn't care about my situation at all and seems to think I'm totally fine. I don't have friends bc any online friends I make all stop talking to me eventually, even people I have met on here. I'm just tired of it all but I have no money, no car (never learned to drive either). I can't really do anything and I need to talk to someone bc I have no idea what to do. I've tried talking with people on here but they all have such normal lives like family stuff, college, events, normal ppl things going on. I have nothing and even on here it seems impossible to find someone. I'm hoping this post might reach the person I'm looking for bc I'm really sad and I need help but idk how to do anything. Is there anyone on here who gets this? Btw don't message me if you only talk on some weird "encrypted" email shit. I know u are just trolling and it's really fucking rude.

Well, you're in luck. I have 0 friends IRL, have no future, and mostly spend my days being a slob! I'm like a perfect match!

 

[Hollowman]

I'm in a similar situation. You can dm if you want but we'd probably just bore each other.

 

[LastNite]

Very much me, I quit school due to bullying and it making my life hell. I have no irl friends or online friends. Very awkward as well. Basically 0% chance at succeeding at anything. It's a hell.

 

[TheVanishingPoint]

I don't have much to offer either. I don't have a better story than yours, or advice to give. Just a body that gets up every day without knowing why.
If someone "similar" exists, they're not on the surface — they're in the same void we share. I'm reading you. I'm staying.

 

[Crematoryy]

You are in a NEET situation. Urgently look for any underemployment so that you don't stagnate at home; improve your hygiene (something that usually falls apart when you are not participating in society); walk outside even if you have no one to go with/nowhere to go. Explore all the possibilities around you and find out what you can change. There are no easy solutions, but I believe that you are not willing to accept this life until you get older.

 

[katara]

Well, you're in luck. I have 0 friends IRL, have no future, and mostly spend my days being a slob! I'm like a perfect match!

The not having a future part scares me, bc that's exactly what makes me worry. I guess I didn't really have much of a start tho. I have no trophies or anything to show for my life. I would make a good secret society member sense I have like no trail or trace of existence besides the very basics lol. I'll message you if that's alright and we can chat a lot of times I've posted on here I get little to no replies and I end up wondering if I'm the biggest loser on this site

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

The not having a future part scares me, bc that's exactly what makes me worry. I guess I didn't really have much of a start tho. I have no trophies or anything to show for my life. I would make a good secret society member sense I have like no trail or trace of existence besides the very basics lol. I'll message you if that's alright and we can chat a lot of times I've posted on here I get little to no replies and I end up wondering if I'm the biggest loser on this site

Oh you can call me anytime! I always reply as soon as possible, but I'm terrible at starting conversations. It can be almost anything even the letter E.

And you're no loser! Mama bear thinks you're brave and strong for doing such self-criticism even when in pain. You deserve love and hugs, honey pot!

 

[StupidCat]

There's plenty of normies in here and I encourage to talk to them rather than people similar to us.
We may share the no future, no friends, no money, no prospects lifestyle but if it's something you dread then engaging with the same people might not improve your situation at all.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

There's plenty of normies in here and I encourage to talk to them rather than people similar to us.
We may share the no future, no friends, no money, no prospects lifestyle but if it's something you dread then engaging with the same people might not improve your situation at all.

I thought people liked SaSu because you could interact with others that had similar hardships than you? This is a place where one's friends, money or future don't matter, only what you do and say here. We are here to support each other, and "normies" just couldn't help us, it seems.

 

[StupidCat]

I thought people liked SaSu because you could interact with others that had similar hardships than you? This is a place where one's friends, money or future don't matter, only what you do and say here. We are here to support each other, and "normies" just couldn't help us, it seems.

Well he stated he needed help. Not sure if someone like me/him could help him in anyway other than deepening his personal dark abyss by confirming our biases over and over.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Well he stated he needed help. Not sure if someone like me/him could help him in anyway other than deepening his personal dark abyss by confirming our biases over and over.

If I can't help, at least I can bring comfort and reassurement via mama bear. It helps indirectly, but it still helps, and I try to be as soothing as possible. I think that's the best way to deescalate someone that is having a reeeeeal bad time. Instructions and advice will only bring them to doubt if they can do it.

At least that's my approach. @katara can say if I'm not being helpful at any time, though.

 

[StupidCat]

If I can't help, at least I can bring comfort and reassurement via mama bear. It helps indirectly, but it still helps, and I try to be as soothing as possible. I think that's the best way to deescalate someone that is having a reeeeeal bad time. Instructions and advice will only bring them to doubt if they can do it.

I suppose some people prefer the unbearable method of help which involves feelings and stuff like that.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I suppose some people prefer the unbearable method of help which involves feelings and stuff like that.

Don't worry, I know there are other ways, but I won't try something I'm not used to. What I'm used to do is making people feel more comfortable and less anxious via reassurement. It may not always work, but it's what I'm good at!

 

[wham311]

Jesus this whole fucking neet thing is new to me, just went on Reddit and see every single post relates to me.

Don't get along with people at work, not good at stuff, humiliated , fired, self esteem crashes, no resume, stop taking care of self, now trapped.

There's no fucking way out of this. I'm 38 and it just happened. I had friends hobbies relationships my whole life, I failed them all. I've got nothing to my name anymore except a bunch of ridiculous fucking health problems and theres nothing I can do about it


A Year ago I had a great girlfriend, my body worked, hobbies, making good money in a city I loved, lost everything and now everything I say is just negative and repulsive and people just leave you in read, society doesn't want to deal with you. I live at home and have ten shirts, every interaction is people avoiding eye contact or being polite. Sister won't even look at me.

And just trapped here now. No way out

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Jesus this whole fucking neet thing is new to me, just went on Reddit and see every single post relates to me.

Don't get along with people at work, not good at stuff, humiliated , fired, self esteem crashes, no resume, stop taking care of self, now trapped.

There's no fucking way out of this. I'm 38 and it just happened. I had friends hobbies relationships my whole life, I failed them all. I've got nothing to my name anymore except a bunch of ridiculous fucking health problems and theres nothing I can do about it


A Year ago I had a great girlfriend, my body worked, hobbies, making good money in a city I loved, lost everything and now everything I say is just negative and repulsive and people just leave you in read, society doesn't want to deal with you. I live at home and have ten shirts, every interaction is people avoiding eye contact or being polite. Sister won't even look at me.

And just trapped here now. No way out

Dearie me, you're in such a terrible position, are you not? Honey, mama is moved by your words. You've had everything, and now you lost so much you don't know what to do, how to react. Pumpkin...here, come into me. bury your face in my soft belly. *hugs*

You're such a precious thing, in a world of hurt, are you not? Oh, mama bear wishes she could do more, but she's here with you now, don't worry. *kiss on head* Mama's going to protect you and make you feel safe from those bad things, little cubbie. Just relax now, mama's here for you for as long as you want, pumpkin. *smile*

 

[katara]

I'm in a similar situation. You can dm if you want but we'd probably just bore each other.

Sure I'll message you right now sorry for not replying immediately I forgot to come back on here and check the replies. I won't judge you at all because ya my life is very boring and I have nothing going on but I think I have some interesting ideas if it's ok I share them with you.

 

[katara]

@LastNite hey sorry to hear that. I didn't really experience the same thing in high school I only had the bullying experience for a short time when I was younger. I did had 1 friend, when I mentioned to her being in a hopeless situation the last thing I did was tell her I couldn't keep going through the constant stress and everything else and asked if she had a friend who could supply me a gun basically. She said no bc her friends would think it's for her. I was like oh ok. Then that was when I dropped out of high school, never even finished my grade and I think what pushed me to asking her was I got a report card that basically said I had failed my grade so I wasn't even going to pass. So I'm just getting up and going to this shitty place every day and I'm not even going to pass. I couldn't do it. I also had moved and I had to wake up like 40 minutes earlier. My mom didn't care she saw how miserable I was. I just get tired of complaining yknow? My mom is the only family member I'm in contact with and she doesn't care. I have to be the biggest loser on this site. But hey maybe by some crazy coincidence we live close but I doubt it. Feel free to message me if you ever want to

 

[suacide]

I have no degree, never went to college, didn't even finish high school, guess that means I'll never get anywhere in life. I don't have friends, I don't travel or go anywhere because I have no money. Only family member I have is my mom who doesn't care about my situation at all and seems to think I'm totally fine. I don't have friends bc any online friends I make all stop talking to me eventually, even people I have met on here. I'm just tired of it all but I have no money, no car (never learned to drive either). I can't really do anything and I need to talk to someone bc I have no idea what to do. I've tried talking with people on here but they all have such normal lives like family stuff, college, events, normal ppl things going on. I have nothing and even on here it seems impossible to find someone. I'm hoping this post might reach the person I'm looking for bc I'm really sad and I need help but idk how to do anything. Is there anyone on here who gets this? Btw don't message me if you only talk on some weird "encrypted" email shit. I know u are just trolling and it's really fucking rude.

I didn't finish high school or get any degrees either. I have maybe 3 shallow friendships online, but I hardly count them because again we don't exactly talk much. I go nowhere for the same reasons and being scared of people. I lost the only person I was holding onto life for, my mother, about under a month ago, so I have nothing left. I want to connect, but it's hard, and I just want to see someone and be seen the same. I'm frightened and amazed how people on here can live life's that are so fruitful, yet I crumble at opening the door for the delivery guy that gets me my groceries, hoping he doesn't think I'm lazy and inconveniencing him.
I understand for better or worse, here if you need to talk.

 

[katara]

I don't have much to offer either. I don't have a better story than yours, or advice to give. Just a body that gets up every day without knowing why.
If someone "similar" exists, they're not on the surface — they're in the same void we share. I'm reading you. I'm staying.

Hey sorry I don't exactly understand that last sentence "if someone similar exists they're not on the surface". Do you mean people who have no education or friends like me? Bc sadly some men in these communities where they claim to be like me are not. They don't even want a woman to post in their community and completely blacklist women from speaking about our experiences. Not everyone who's friendless is in my void as u put it. A lot of them are just as bad as high school bullies, or worse, because they feel entitled and narcissistic and are super violent. That's why I'm on this site. I can't even post in those shitty ass "NEET" communities. It's all a bunch of stoner anime dudes who think women expire once they turn 25 and we only exist to them if we are pretty.

 

[TheVanishingPoint]

Hey sorry I don't exactly understand that last sentence "if someone similar exists they're not on the surface". Do you mean people who have no education or friends like me? Bc sadly some men in these communities where they claim to be like me are not. They don't even want a woman to post in their community and completely blacklist women from speaking about our experiences. Not everyone who's friendless is in my void as u put it. A lot of them are just as bad as high school bullies, or worse, because they feel entitled and narcissistic and are super violent. That's why I'm on this site. I can't even post in those shitty ass "NEET" communities. It's all a bunch of stoner anime dudes who think women expire once they turn 25 and we only exist to them if we are pretty.

I wasn't speaking about men, nor women.
I wasn't talking about incels, or about who "expires" or not.
I was speaking only of those who wake up each day without knowing why, surviving as an empty body.
That "if someone similar exists" was a hand reaching out in the dark — not a way to exclude.
I read your words. And I remain. No judgment, no explanations.
Just because I know what it means to fall — and find no one left.

 

[DoomCry]

It's true, it's hard to have lasting friendships these days. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

 

[Edge_of_the_Grave]

I'm not friends in real life either

 

[Scythe]

Hey, similar suituation but I do have ppl that I can message if I want to well talk in truth due to mental abnormality I talk to people when I want "people entertainment" to pass time. Everyone leaves, so eventually, humans became entertainment to me since I don't want to get attached.
I have no degree, nor do I want one. I had and have no job, nor do I want one. I've just got my big project I'm working on that I'll either finish before my family loses their patience with me or I have to die before then. Basically my solution to my suituation is death, and well, this probably isn't the answer you're looking for. But it's the only way I can see myself being happy.
Either way, find a passion, anything to pass time, that'll help. I understand it's easier said than done, but that's how I'm living somewhat happily right now. I have things I want to do before shit hits the fan and I gotta scram.

 

[katara]

@Crematoryy I don't really know about how underemployment works but I have no degree and didn't finish high school like I said, so I don't think I can be hired anywhere even if I tried. I can't even drive. But I do shower and stuff like that, not that it matters bc I'm alone but ya I do that. There's nobody even my age near where I live but I appreciate ur comment in trying to help it's really nice of you. You are correct about there being no easy solutions, if there's any solution at all.
I have tried posting before in a self described NEET community but it was basically like the incel forum, it was all men who hate women and don't want us there. I was really confused bc I don't know where I can even post. That's why I'm here yknow. But even on here most ppl have jobs, multiple family members and friends, pets, then there's me

 

[katara]

There's plenty of normies in here and I encourage to talk to them rather than people similar to us.
We may share the no future, no friends, no money, no prospects lifestyle but if it's something you dread then engaging with the same people might not improve your situation at all.

Oh I have talked to them and that's why I'm pissed off…they were terrible I don't think I can do it anymore. They lied to me, wasted my time, and therefore made me stop using this site for months.

 

[StupidCat]

Oh I have talked to them and that's why I'm pissed off…they were terrible I don't think I can do it anymore. They lied to me, wasted my time, and therefore made me stop using this site for months.

I see, sorry.
I don't really talk to anyone in here but feel free to reach out.

 

[katara]

@StupidCat
It's alright but its that I just get comments a lot by ppl who don't seem to understand my situation and they exaggerate their stuff, meanwhile I don't. I'm just saying what I have gone through, so many ppl on here, I would actually say most ppl are pretty normal. Like recently I messaged with someone i met on here on discord, and she asked me my career and field of study because she wants to try something new. Like how do I reply to that? Why the fuck is everyone on here so active? I wish I had a chance at normal life

 

[frayed]

Why the fuck is everyone on here so active?

why indeed

 

[StupidCat]

@StupidCat
It's alright but its that I just get comments a lot by ppl who don't seem to understand my situation and they exaggerate their stuff, meanwhile I don't. I'm just saying what I have gone through, so many ppl on here, I would actually say most ppl are pretty normal. Like recently I messaged with someone i met on here on discord, and she asked me my career and field of study because she wants to try something new. Like how do I reply to that? Why the fuck is everyone on here so active? I wish I had a chance at normal life

What I've seen is people come here when depressed and usually leave shortly after, they are mostly not hopeless and just going through some rough times.
Also this place 'relatively' known because media coverage so it attracts mostly 'normal' people.
I don't judge them of course, anyone can suffer being 'normal' or not, but it's hard to relate to them.