Help Can I run something by everyone here, please?

[locked*n*loaded]

Like the title says. I'd just like to know some others' opinions on a personal matter in order to see if my thinking is way, way off.

Say, someone (#1) met someone else (#2) on a forum. #1 is the person who initiated contact regarding a subject in common with #2. #1 and #2 started conversing daily within the forum and the conversation evolved into discussing all kinds of other topics. This went on for weeks. Eventually, #1 gave #2 personal contact information, and #2 reciprocated. They started conversing daily outside the forum for the next several months. Here's the thing. #1 told #2 that they didn't want #2 calling them, that they'd rather contact #2 themselves. #2 obliged and did not call #1. So, #1 contacted #2 over the next several months, but the contact was always late at night, like at 11:30 PM, midnight, sometimes even later. #1 and #2 both had life circumstances (supposedly) whereby they were both home and really had no other obligations (supposedly). #2 did leave the house once in a while, but that was to run normal errands and such and it was always during the day. #1 supposedly never left the house.

Does this entire situation seem strange to anyone? What would you make of a situation where one party told the other that they shouldn't call them and wanted to make all the contact? Doesn't it just seem weird? Suspicious? Does it seem strange that #1, who supposedly never left the house, and didn't work, only called at a certain time every day? Now I will say that #1 did call #2 at a different time on a couple occasions, but it was literally like 2 occasions. All the other times were within the same time frame. This all went on for about 3 months, give or take.

Then, out of nowhere, #1 completely stopped calling #2. I mean completely. Boom. Just like that. Doesn't this just all seem suspicious to anyone? Or is it just me?

I guess I'd just like to know if my "Spidy-sense" is still working or not.

I'd appreciate anyone's opinion. I don't have anyone else to ask. Thanks

 

[leaf23]

Could person#1 be suffering from some sort of anxiety? I do and as I'm more comfortable with anything familiar and expected I'm usually more comfortable with scheduled social interactions. That includes usually checking my messages at an approximate time each day. I'm not comfortable with live messaging or audio/video calls either; I feel too pressured and anxious because I take too much time framing my responses, thinking if what I said was correct or not offensive or not stepping over boundaries..But that's just me, ok? Each person has different reasons for acting the way they do, of course. I do hope everything will be resolved. Person #2 will prolly be a better judge as they've had more interactions with person#1.

 

[delusionalgirl]

Could person #1 live with others and that's why it's specific late night calls?

 

[The anhedonic one]

The same kind of thing happened to me a couple of months ago.
I met a woman online who was a member of another suicide forum apart from this one.
We used to chat for ages and had a lot in common, and became somewhat close.
She told me that she worked at a certain company from 6 in the morning until 2 in the afternoon.
Therefore she would only message me before 5 in the morning and after 3 in the afternoon due to work and travel. No messages were ever sent to me during this time, not even a small text which I thought was weird in itself because it takes seconds to send a text during breaks etc.

I later found out that she had posted another thread saying that she stayed at home all day and had to take sleeping tablets to get her through the day, this post was made during the time she was supposedly working.

She would also never communicate after 6.30 in the evening . Despite saying that she was living alone and needed my support, and hated the evenings more than anything.

There are lots of other things that went on with her that were just a bit odd.
But maybe it's me being a bit paranoid at times, I don't know.
We gradually drifted apart and have not spoke for a while.

 

[winamp]

does #1 live in a different time zone ?