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OhWellDerp321
Student
- Jun 1, 2023
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Curious to know what everyone's view on having children is.
I am divided on it. I don't completely agree with the antinatalism viewpoint where having kids is immoral.
However, I also don't believe that everyone should have kids just because it makes you happy.
In fact, the way I see it, a lot of parents that have kids for the reason that "it brings them joy", those are the parents that are the worse.
Having kids should be about making the kid happy. Not you.
Some parents also think they can raise their kids to have a better life than them, and hope the kids don't make the same mistakes they did. This rarely works out because if you as the parent couldn't navigate through life, how will you teach your kid to be successful? It's extremely selfish to put pressure on your kids to succeed because you didn't.
Needless to say, there are also moms who truly know they don't want kids, but along the way friends, family members, their partner convinced them that having kids would be happy. But that's selfish also. Raising children takes effort and children can be brats. If deep inside you never wanted children in the first place, you won't have the patience to raise them.
In my experience, the good parents are the ones that were successful in achieving their own goals (career goals, spiritual goals, etc...). Those parents want to have kids not just to make themselves happy, but to make the kid happy and show them the way to be successful.
So in my opinion, I think you should only have kids if you want kids because you want to make them happy, not to make you happy.
But still curious to see what you guys think.
I am divided on it. I don't completely agree with the antinatalism viewpoint where having kids is immoral.
However, I also don't believe that everyone should have kids just because it makes you happy.
In fact, the way I see it, a lot of parents that have kids for the reason that "it brings them joy", those are the parents that are the worse.
Having kids should be about making the kid happy. Not you.
Some parents also think they can raise their kids to have a better life than them, and hope the kids don't make the same mistakes they did. This rarely works out because if you as the parent couldn't navigate through life, how will you teach your kid to be successful? It's extremely selfish to put pressure on your kids to succeed because you didn't.
Needless to say, there are also moms who truly know they don't want kids, but along the way friends, family members, their partner convinced them that having kids would be happy. But that's selfish also. Raising children takes effort and children can be brats. If deep inside you never wanted children in the first place, you won't have the patience to raise them.
In my experience, the good parents are the ones that were successful in achieving their own goals (career goals, spiritual goals, etc...). Those parents want to have kids not just to make themselves happy, but to make the kid happy and show them the way to be successful.
So in my opinion, I think you should only have kids if you want kids because you want to make them happy, not to make you happy.
But still curious to see what you guys think.