Autism/ADHD

[AnimeSlayersFan]

Okay, I got diagnosed with autism/adhd, and then when I went to an appointment with someone supposedly specialized in autism for therapy, he just bullshitted me all the way, said that I had a big ego, and suggest stupid shit as "doing lists" for things.
I got really upset and left without paying (he said I didn't have to) I will pocket the money my mom gave me for it for later.
I'm 25 years old and living at home, this interaction made me exhausted af. And made me doubt myself, a lot of people make me feel like dogshit.
I think I don't know how to live my life, how to find my allies, my friends, my place, my hiding spots.
It's fun that I'm struggling with this and not accepting that I'm autistic? Is it just anxiety that other people tell me, or "other things" this guy said "how many years did you go to study psychology, huh? Why are you talking about the concept of ego?" Like a "what do you know bitch? shut up" kinda feeling.

I realize that hey, I'm not "suicidal" but an interaction as small as that one made me feel THAT bad? How will I handle working then? And the rest of life? It feels like too much.
I'm sad dude.

How do I "do life"?

Man this fucking sucks, this guy made me doubt I'm even autistic or not, then I go online and talk to people and everyone says I have it, then I came back here to my uncle's place, im alone for a bit and I'm just calming myself with music because it was "too much"

 

[a-fond-farewell]

soz that happened. it can always be worthwhile to get a second opinion. i've had a really shitty therapist before. i've also had some really great ones. unfortunately, it can be a bit of trial and error until you find the one right for you, but just cause one guy said or thought something doesn't make it true.

ik how horrible doubt can feel. for autism specifically, there are so many online communities. if you're into anything nerdy, just go to the communities for those because the correlation between nerdiness and neurodivergency is HIGH. not saying everything there is autistic, but you'll definitely find a lot more autistic people in a server about math or anime than you will on some random Facebook group about golfing. besides that, there are many, many autistic / neurodivergent communities specifically. Reddit, Discord, etc. but then again, for some people, online support can only go so far and i know how that feels. i wish i had an IRL community to lean on. some IRL friends, etc. etc.

i wish you luck regardless. i hope you're able to find your people one way or another. but yeah, i've gone through how you feel before.

 

[Docc]

the more you do that shit the more thicker your skin gets.

Not saying its fun but you learn to bullshit your way through

also this is one guy? get help for it if needed. You will find something fitting. And like the user above says, there are a lot of communties you can join

 

[fedup1982]

That's really out of order that he said you had a big ego. That would rub me up the wrong way too. It's no wonder you turned your nose up at the rest of his advice, even though it may have been good advice. Making lists is a good suggestion for people with ASD/ADHD for example. Use the money your mum gave you for finding a different therapist unless you want to struggle with ADHD ASD for the rest of your life!

 

[me_when_:D]

struggle with ADHD ASD for the rest of your life!

haha if only looking for a right therapist wasn't so bothersome

 

[Eriktf]

therapists are hit or miss

 

[anomalou]

therapists are hit or miss

agreed. I have had one good therapist out of 5, and even that one was gate-keeping me in terms of transition.
Im sorry op had to go through this. psychiological and psychiatric care just don't seem to work anywhere.
what country are you from OP?

 

[tooBadTooLate]

Same here, although I'm diagnosed with only autism myself. My psychiatrist also said that I should keep track of lists with a notepad—I never bothered to do so, considering how little I look back on my written notes in the first place. Hell, most of what you wrote felt relatable, especially regarding how you don't know live your life. I don't know what else to say about it, with that in mind, but sorry to hear that.

for autism specifically, there are so many online communities. if you're into anything nerdy, just go to the communities for those because the correlation between nerdiness and neurodivergency is HIGH. not saying everything there is autistic, but you'll definitely find a lot more autistic people in a server about math or anime than you will on some random Facebook group about golfing. besides that, there are many, many autistic / neurodivergent communities specifically. Reddit, Discord, etc. but then again, for some people, online support can only go so far and i know how that feels. i wish i had an IRL community to lean on. some IRL friends, etc. etc.

This is good advice too. I've found plenty of Discord communities that I've managed to fit myself in, especially about nerd stuff.

 

[iamnotadinosaur:(]

That sucks. I really hope you can find someone good (if you want to) and I hope you can figure everything out