Venting ‘Ask for help’ is the funniest thing people can say.

[someonewhoshouldgo]

One thing that always gets me is this notion that if you're feeling suicidal, you HAVE TO ask for help from 'loved ones' cause they'll care.

I don't have any family, but I do have a long-term partner. I recently confided in the type of thoughts I've been having and he was caring for a few days, but then seemed to switch back to being pissed off at my existence (like usual, but he's actually alright and I can't blame him). I'm writing this post after he got mad at me for 'huffing' while he was trying to sleep which was really me trying to choke back sobs. I apologised and gave him my noise cancelling headphones so he could sleep. Just made me think, some of us actually don't have any support system at all. The closest people to us have no interest in our burden, why should they? At least I'm genuinely pretty sure he'll feel a huge sense of relief when I'm gone and who could blame him?

 

[stupid trans guy]

One thing that always gets me is this notion that if you're feeling suicidal, you HAVE TO ask for help from 'loved ones' cause they'll care.

I don't have any family, but I do have a long-term partner. I recently confided in the type of thoughts I've been having and he was caring for a few days, but then seemed to switch back to being pissed off at my existence (like usual, but he's actually alright and I can't blame him). I'm writing this post after he got mad at me for 'huffing' while he was trying to sleep which was really me trying to choke back sobs. I apologised and gave him my noise cancelling headphones so he could sleep. Just made me think, some of us actually don't have any support system at all. The closest people to us have no interest in our burden, why should they? At least I'm genuinely pretty sure he'll feel a huge sense of relief when I'm gone and who could blame him?

I think maybe you should leave him if you can.. this doesn't seem to be a healthy relationship

 

[someonewhoshouldgo]

I think maybe you should leave him if you can.. this doesn't seem to be a healthy relationship

He's honestly overall a good guy… I'm extremely difficult I think

 

[stupid trans guy]

He's honestly overall a good guy… I'm extremely difficult I think

Thats good! Dont say that about urself, im sure if hes good overall you and if you think you two are a good match, hes probably just not understanding the severity of everything, or forgets occasionally

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I will tell you that I can blame him! Your partner just sounds like a douchebag to me. If I was in a relationship with someone and was in his place, I would be concerned about your health if you were struggling and feeling bad, not get pissed off at you. He is the difficult one, not you. If you ever do end your life, do it to end your own personal suffering if that is your choice, but don't do it just because you think he might be relieved by you being gone.

In his place, the only relief I would feel if you did exit life is in knowing you were at peace, not because I thought you were making noises I didn't like and I was annoyed. Seriously, he sounds like a dick.

 

[RazzleDazzle]

In my experience, asking for help when I'm actually struggling just damages the relationship. People like the idea of it more than the reality.

And most people don't understand what it's like to be genuinely alone in the world. There's sort of this assumption that the really serious help needs to come from family and similarly close relationships.

 

[soributton]

True. Ive noticed that people just see it as an annoying hassle when I ask for help more than once. Do they think people can be healed after one conversation?