Are you also a victim of narcissistic abuse?

[venin]

As I've mentioned in the thread title, I am curious to see how many of us here were victims of narcissists or other cluster B people.

If you would like to share some details about the narc or the abuse or what impact they had on you, your development and your future you're more than welcome.

Thank you and I wish you all easier days

 

[Rational man]

Yes I was. My family abused me physically and emotionally. Only later did I really understand that I was the victim of the bullies. At the time, I was told that I should be content within the family unit but in reality, my Mother was a controlling narc. MY Brother became a narc too and was very close to my Mother. Together, they ruined and scarred me in so many ways. My Mother lived her life through my Brothers life and did everything to cling on to him. I think it was a very unhealthy relationship. My parents divorced when I was a child and my Father was rarely around me . At 18, I disowned them and made a better life. Unfortunately, because I was given no direction or support in life, I felt it difficult to trust anyone. I lacked security and my sexuality was with anyone who would be prepared to love me.

I want to say to anyone who identifies with this, that it is possible to survive this narc parenthood. Its no failure of ours, nor choice in the family that was handed to us. I repeat, it is not our fault, no way, just don't blame You.

 

[venin]

Yes I was. My family abused me physically and emotionally. Only later did I really understand that I was the victim of the bullies. At the time, I was told that I should be content within the family unit but in reality, my Mother was a controlling narc. MY Brother became a narc too and was very close to my Mother. Together, they ruined and scarred me in so many ways. My Mother lived her life through my Brothers life and did everything to cling on to him. I think it was a very unhealthy relationship. My parents divorced when I was a child and my Father was rarely around me . At 18, I disowned them and made a better life. Unfortunately, because I was given no direction or support in life, I felt it difficult to trust anyone. I lacked security and my sexuality was with anyone who would be prepared to love me.

I want to say to anyone who identifies with this, that it is possible to survive this narc parenthood. Its no failure of ours, nor choice in the family that was handed to us. I repeat, it is not our fault, no way, just don't blame You.

Thank you for saying this and sharing!

It's just devilish what happens to children of narcissists…

When I began to realize who they were, their tactics, masks etc. I just couldn't wrap my head around it…

It really was not our fault.

 

[winamp]

yes, being around a narcissist is very damaging to both your mental (a lot of paranoia and tip toeing on eggshells) and physical health (becoming physically ill or not meeting my own basic needs just so I wouldn't have to hear them or deal with them or due to stress caused by them)

 

[venin]

yes, being around a narcissist is very damaging to both your mental (a lot of paranoia and tip toeing on eggshells) and physical health (becoming physically ill or not meeting my own basic needs just so I wouldn't have to hear them or deal with them or due to stress caused by them)

It def is

 

[inviável]

by a narcissitic and a borderline. My grandma was a narcissitic and manage to fuck my mother lifes and mine aswell. My mother is bordeline wich feels the same as a narcissitic tbh and just in general she was a lot to deal with, with her breakdown sometimes I would suffer physchal abuses and emotional most emotional (both from mom and grandma) wich reflects on the person I am till this day, and today I feel like i'm just like her, like I'm my mom's clone.

I've been thiking for a while that maybe I can be a bordeline too but I just don't have money to treatment. So I just hope for the best

 

[venin]

by a narcissitic and a borderline. My grandma was a narcissitic and manage to fuck my mother lifes and mine aswell. My mother is bordeline wich feels the same as a narcissitic tbh and just in general she was a lot to deal with, with her breakdown sometimes I would suffer physchal abuses and emotional most emotional (both from mom and grandma) wich reflects on the person I am till this day, and today I feel like i'm just like her, like I'm my mom's clone.

I've been thiking for a while that maybe I can be a bordeline too but I just don't have money to treatment. So I just hope for the best

I've had a girlfriend that was borderline according to my therapist but Idk much about borderline. Can you maybe point out some differences from your experience?

It's fukt up that therapy is so expensive and unaffordable for the vast majority. Tbh Idk how much longer will I be able to afford it, so…

I'm sorry you went through these things

 

[captive]

yeah, my family is just a bunch of narcissistic assholes, nothing more. it's the main reason i ended up here

 

[venin]

yeah, my family is just a bunch of narcissistic assholes, nothing more. it's the main reason i ended up here

Me too

 

[exiled]

Grew up with an extremely narcissistic father who trained my older brother to become one as well. He numbed my mom out to the point of no return, and collectively, my family made my life a living hell. I was always proud of myself that their programming didn't make me like them, but at the same time, being different from them has made my life so much more unbelievably challenging. I think that if I did not grow up this way, I may have actually enjoyed life. I am able to find beauty in everything else, despite my severe physical illnesses. It's crazy how much mental health can impact us, and how abuse from others can make us literally choose to die instead of live. Nothing I have ever struggled with physically has brought me down this much.

 

[inviável]

I've had a girlfriend that was borderline according to my therapist but Idk much about borderline. Can you maybe point out some differences from your experience?

It's fukt up that therapy is so expensive and unaffordable for the vast majority. Tbh Idk how much longer will I be able to afford it, so…

I'm sorry you went through these things

idk how to explain bordeline, but it's complety confusion, sometimes she was fine and she was the best mom, and all of the suddenly she was so destructive. like sometimes she would snap for so little and don't care for big problems. She would put both mine and hers life in risk. and she would always suffer because of her boyfriend and I would have to be able to support her everytime. It's was just crazy.

I appreciate your empathy thanks :)

 

[Per Ardua Ad Astra]

yes -
my post in below thread-
was very vague to avoid ID - because forever trapped now

Dr. Ramani and the Painful yet Isolating Reality of Narcissistic Abuse

Earlier today I watched Dr. Ramani's video about narcissism. I find her content to be a breath of fresh air. Calling out narcissistic abuse for how cruel and damaging it is. One doesn't even have to lift a finger to enact life long trauma that can last across generations. And yet, as she points...

sanctioned-suicide.net

 

[Chancerator]

Yup. Npd father. Npd husband. (Huh. Pretty cliche, right?)

 

[icantSleep]

As I've mentioned in the thread title, I am curious to see how many of us here were victims of narcissists or other cluster B people.

If you would like to share some details about the narc or the abuse or what impact they had on you, your development and your future you're more than welcome.

Thank you and I wish you all easier days

you can say psychopath father abuse and even others

 

[sammiechzxv]

Yeah, both of my parents + my step dad

 

[venin]

Grew up with an extremely narcissistic father who trained my older brother to become one as well. He numbed my mom out to the point of no return, and collectively, my family made my life a living hell. I was always proud of myself that their programming didn't make me like them, but at the same time, being different from them has made my life so much more unbelievably challenging. I think that if I did not grow up this way, I may have actually enjoyed life. I am able to find beauty in everything else, despite my severe physical illnesses. It's crazy how much mental health can impact us, and how abuse from others can make us literally choose to die instead of live. Nothing I have ever struggled with physically has brought me down this much.

I'm sorry you also experienced this hell.

I would always say that I was born in a nest of snakes, me being a baby chicken. So I can relate totally.

And like you, I always thoght it was this hard because I'm not like them. It would've been a whole different story if they had a child similar to them.

Even though I've had it this rough, I still find so much beauty in everything… and joy. Though the last months have been horrific for me and these moments started to become fewer day by day.

It kills when I think how capable I am deep inside to live life to the fullest, to enjoy it and its beauty and love and be loved…

As I said it before: so many nice, kind, beautiful people here, that could've lived so happy, beautiful and in peace.

And we're out here researching for methods for a peaceful end… it's a fucking horror.

yes -
my post in below thread-
was very vague to avoid ID - because forever trapped now

Dr. Ramani and the Painful yet Isolating Reality of Narcissistic Abuse

Earlier today I watched Dr. Ramani's video about narcissism. I find her content to be a breath of fresh air. Calling out narcissistic abuse for how cruel and damaging it is. One doesn't even have to lift a finger to enact life long trauma that can last across generations. And yet, as she points...

sanctioned-suicide.net

Thank you

Yup. Npd father. Npd husband. (Huh. Pretty cliche, right?)

That's how it usually goes…

 

[𖣂𖣂𖣂.]

Yes my dad and I plan to be nothing like him.

 

[venin]

you can say psychopath father abuse and even others

Sorry to hear that…

Yeah, both of my parents + my step dad

I'm sorry you went through that

 

[Unattainable666]

I didn't know what a narc was until about a year ago. But after a great deal of research I have come to the realization that the bitch who had me was a narc (not ever going to call her my mother), and two significant others were narcs. They destroy your life, tear out your heart and your soul. They have no conscience, no soul, no heart. It's the worse kind of emotional pain Most times it takes years to recover from a relationship with a narc.

 

[venin]

Yes my dad and I plan to be nothing like him.

Somebody once told me: when you're a kid you'd do anything to be like your father; when you grow you'd do everything to avoid being like him.

 

[𖣂𖣂𖣂.]

I didn't know what a narc was until about a year ago. But after a great deal of research I have come to the realization that the bitch who had me was a narc (not ever going to call her my mother), and two significant others were narcs. They destroy your life, tear out your heart and your soul. They have no conscience, no soul, no heart. It's the worse kind of emotional pain Most times it takes years to recover from a relationship with a narc.

Can relate especially when you realize they are only using you for their own benefit and they care more about themselves not even their own kids.

Somebody once told me: when you're a kid you'd do anything to be like your father; when you grow you'd do everything to avoid being like him.

That is correct.

 

[venin]

I didn't know what a narc was until about a year ago. But after a great deal of research I have come to the realization that the bitch who had me was a narc (not ever going to call her my mother), and two significant others were narcs. They destroy your life, tear out your heart and your soul. They have no conscience, no soul, no heart. It's the worse kind of emotional pain Most times it takes years to recover from a relationship with a narc.

I feel the same way about the bitch who had me

Yeah, it's diabolical. I don't know how these people even exist to begin with. I mean how is this possible?

 

[Unattainable666]

Can relate especially when you realize they are only using you for their own benefit and they care more about themselves not even their own kids.

That is correct.

It sounds as if you've had experience with a narc - I am so sorry.

I feel the same way about the bitch who had me

Yeah, it's diabolical. I don't know how these people even exist to begin with. I mean how is this possible?

They are not human. They are like snakes - they slither around until they strike and emotionally kill you with their venom.

 

[𖣂𖣂𖣂.]

It sounds as if you've had experience with a narc - I am so sorry.

They are not human. They are like snakes - they slither around until they strike and emotionally kill you with their venom.

Grew up and had to adapt to the environment I was put in. That's life I guess.

 

[Unattainable666]

Grew up and had to adapt to the environment I was put in. That's life I guess.

Being raised by a narc changes your life. Ive often wondered who I could have been, who I was truly meant to be, if I had been raised by a loving mother. Do I hate her - every day I breathe.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, I'm pretty sure I grew up with a narcissist. Bullying, some physical violence but mostly- they liked to play the victim. They accused me of doing all sorts to friends, teachers, my parents. I first developed ideation because of them. It was actually such a relief to me when I found out about narcissism. Suddenly, all their crazy behaviours had a name. For anyone suffering, I recommend checking out two YouTube channels: 'Live Abuse Free' and 'The Crappy Childhood Fairy.'

 

[𖣂𖣂𖣂.]

Yes, I'm pretty sure I grew up with a narcissist. Bullying, some physical violence but mostly- they liked to play the victim. They accused me of doing all sorts to friends, teachers, my parents. I first developed ideation because of them. It was actually such a relief to me when I found out about narcissism. Suddenly, all their crazy behaviours had a name. For anyone suffering, I recommend checking out two YouTube channels: 'Live Abuse Free' and 'The Crappy Childhood Fairy.'

Hah can relate to that too. It's funny when you see their mind games thinking they got you but they really didn't. Narcissist will always win a argument no matter what because of their victim mentality.

 

[venin]

It sounds as if you've had experience with a narc - I am so sorry.

They are not human. They are like snakes - they slither around until they strike and emotionally kill you with their venom.

Exactly. Snakes. Venomous snakes. Lurking. Planning.

 

[𖣂𖣂𖣂.]

Exactly. Snakes. Venomous snakes. Lurking. Planning.

Energy drainers too.

 

[venin]

Grew up and had to adapt to the environment I was put in. That's life I guess.

Yeah. But it's sad we got here… we just survived. We did not manage to thrive

Being raised by a narc changes your life. Ive often wondered who I could have been, who I was truly meant to be, if I had been raised by a loving mother. Do I hate her - every day I breathe.

For sure. There was a saying: "narcissists don't have children, they have slaves".