Are you afraid of death, the process of dying, failed suicide attempt or everything to do with death?

[darkenmydoorstep]

Fear keeps life alive. But feelings of fear are unwanted and unpleasant. We can relieve us from fear by run away from it, leave it to somebody else to deal with or face the fear and overcome it.

People may be afraid of present pain and suffering. People may also be afraid of future pain and suffering. Reasons for fear are almost everywhere. Fear is the greatest enemy of man. One cannot accomplish anything without removing fear. One cannot accomplish anything without bravery.

Death is the unknown and people fear unknown things. But death should be the same state as before birth. People are afraid of a painful death process. But you can choose a less painful method or you can trust that your method works. Many people are afraid of dying alone. People are afraid of being disabled by failed suicide attempt. But you can choose a method that has 100 percent mortality. However, we would escape all this fear if we could die with the help of doctors, of course. But not all people have that opportunity.

There are people who claim that it is not possible to overcome the fear of death because fear of death is the strongest emotion. Others claim that you can overcome the fear of death by experiences and training. One thing is certain: suicide and death seem to be more difficult for some people than others.

Are we afraid of death, the process of dying, failed suicide attempt, dying alone or everything to do with death?

Why we fear death and how to overcome it

I fear it going wrong and ending up in a worse state. And pain. That's why for me, whatever I do has to involve great planning and precision. I hear about too many people messing up and I don't want that for several reasons. Ideally I'd have gone for N and would have travelled anywhere to get it but it seems hard to find now. So I just think I need a very old car to go old school before they changed the emissions or whatever. That's the best I can think of. But I don't drive so how can I ever hire a car. My next idea was to attend one of the workshops Exit do (I will be 50 in April so they'll finally have me). I know they discuss the bags and because I'm rubbish at practical stuff, would want someone to show me, make it idiot proof.
I wish they made it easier for people like us. Instead of all this arranging being involved.

 

[SecretDissociation]

My fear is failing a big attempt eg. jumping and not being able to attempt again. The shame accompanying a failed attempt is horrendous it makes me sick.

 

[Kit1]

I am only scared of the living.

 

[Princess_Kitty]

I'm not really scared of death. I had a failed attempt before and experienced what unconscious was like. It was just so peaceful. Probably more scared of attempting and failing and having to be put in the psych ward. Then having to be alive again.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

My biggest fear is failing my attempt and ending up as a veggie in addition to the shame of failing an attempt.

The process of dying itself can be very peaceful, depending on the chosen method. That doesn't frighten me much.

I'm not afraid of death at all, it's nothing bad bc it's a natural thing that happens to all life forms. However there's a kind of FOMO on life I have when I think about death, although there's actually nothing to miss out anymore for me.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

Fear has delayed my suicide for months. I have decided several times but at the last minute chickened out. I am most afraid of dying alone without doctor. We should all have the right to euthanasia and it is horrible and cruel that this is not the case. I am even more afraid of living on with chronic pain and illness and die of age-related disease. People who die after long illness in palliative care are half dead before they die. I can´t wait out a natural death and there is nothing natural about civilization that creates the need for euthanasia. In nature, individuals die of external causes before they reach my age. Fear is paralyzing and causes panic. It is easy to advise others but hard to do it on yourself - at least when it comes to death. There may also be an afterlife. I am an atheist myself but I could be wrong. People who have had near-death-experiences have seen themselves from the outside so there may be a consciousness that is not connected to the physical body and continues to exist after death. That is where I can end up after death - the world of consciousness.

 

[TiredOfAllThis]

I fear the process (SN is somewhat peaceful, but still) and possible consequences of a failed attempt

 

[marudekinoumitai]

I fear the process (SN is somewhat peaceful, but still) and possible consequences of a failed attempt

Exactly this. I'm a big ol wimp and I'm scared of pain/the panic as survival instinct kicks in. Plus I'm worried about possible brain damage or forced institutionalization in case of failure. I'm not really afraid of death as a concept, though

 

[billie]

I'm not afraid

 

[livinginthedreams]

My biggest fear is regret. There is so so much I havent gotten closure for. Hope always kept me alive but once that hope is gone so am I. I still fear regretting that decision, though I know I couldnt have done more. But maybe when Im dead I will regret it. I know I wont be able to but to think you couldve done more is crushing. All the people I wished I wouldve shared little life lessons and just my everyday stuff with. I know Ill miss not having done that. Dying is hard but living is harder. It is fine to go with fear though

 

[TiredOfAllThis]

I still have some faint hope for recovery, but if not for my cats, I would have already been gone.

 

[marudekinoumitai]

I still have some faint hope for recovery, but if not for my cats, I would have already been gone.

Thanks for the reminder to go pet my cat

 

[Zanmato]

Yes, I'm afraid of death.
Also, afraid of the failure.
Ending up in some kind of "clinic" for a while, with people who keeps saying: "Things will get better".
Yeah, fine, I really wonder when.

Or, even worst, ending in a vegetative state.
Where I live, even those people can't have euthanasia

 

[jujujr]

I'm afraid of what happens next. However I'm more afraid of failing a proper attempt and becoming worse. Like what can I do to make sure the first attempt goes smoothly? Like practice and stuff? I guess I'll only know it goes well if I just do it idk

 

[LifeTransit_1]

I'm afraid of the unknown in general... what's does death feel like? Is death full of darkness and nothing? What would happen If I was found? Those types of things I'm not really afraid of failure cause I can successfully CTB with my method.

 

[justlikeus]

My greatest fear in live to end up in a situation where I can't CTB anymore. This includes a failed attempt that leaves me handicapped. Being paralyzed is a big fear.

 

[etherealspring]

definitely scared of the process. if only death was quick, painless, easy... and the thought of failing is terrifying. so im too scared to even try and think of a method, even though im desperate to be gone. why is dying so inaccessible?

 

[gokpg]

Not really used too when i was younger (18-19ish) but the older i got the more i welcome it (27 rn)

 

[J&L383]

Not afraid of dying, I just don't want to be there when it happens. (Not my quote, but it suits me)

 

[WaitingAllMyLife]

I was confused about which part was bothering me the most until I realized that if I was given a pill that was guaranteed to work and simply put me to sleep I'd take it in a heartbeat. My biggest fear is failing, especially in a way that would cause permanent damage.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

Yes I'm afraid of death and letting go of myself and my awareness and "ego" I guess. Even though I've wanted to be gone for years I started thinking about the concept of me not being here anymore and it just really freaked me out. Even though it'll happen one day anyway, I just have this inexplicable fear of letting go of life, but then I guess that's SI for you!

 

[jacobryan]

I'm a fraud of the process of dying. I want to. But I'm also afraid I'd fail the attempt. It's part of what's holding me back from doing it.

 

[cranberrys]

My biggest fear is/was eternity. I've tried to conceptualize an eternity of nothingness and each time I do, I end up freaking out.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

About fear of failed suicide attempt. One can become disabled in different ways if the method fails. However, one can be just as handicapped by continuing to live as well by accidents, violence and health problems. There are people who lie in coma for years after natural health problems before death occurs. Because most countries don´t allow euthanasia, the health care system prolongs life so that the death process will be as long as possible. There are patients who have been in coma for 12 years. There are no guarantees in life. Life is chaotic where almost anything can happen. One never know what to expect.

 

[SomewhatLoved]

My biggest fear is definitely failing and ending up brain damaged or disabled. Inert gas asphyxiation, hanging, OD can all cause brain damage if you survive and hanging especially could paralyze you if you broke your neck and survived.

I think the shame and guilt that comes with surviving would be huge as well. And at that point you would probably be committed in a psychiatric unit and would be put on watch and have to go through treatment.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

I have been afraid of dying alone. Right now I am most afraid of future pain and suffering and the unknown death. My earlier aborted attempt has probably made me even more afraid of death. It is not easy to do it alone. I am aware that there may be a world of consciousness of eternal life after death.

Are near-death-experiences as powerful shine, tunnel vision, life passing revue, meeting dead relatives and out-of-body-experiences proof of an afterlife? Near-death-experience is only temporary death - cardiac arrest - not permanent death. The brain can be active for several hours after death.

Science claim to be able to explain near-death-experiences: the brain secretes neurotransmitters when we are between life and death, lack of oxygen causes tunnel vision and overdose of oxygen creates powerful shine. The human brain is complicated: we think when we are awake and we dream when we sleep. The brain can confuse states of consciousness. However, it is possible that scientific explanations are not always enough. How can blind people have seen themselves from the outside when they were pronounced dead? It is also possible that near-death-experiences are false - a big scam. That development has been going on throughout the history of man in civilization.

People who claim to be able to communicate with the spirit world - are they lying or do they only think that they can communicate with spirits? Afterlife has its origins in religion, but it may be a mistake to rely only on science. However, no matter how much humans ponder, we will never know the truth before we are permanently dead.

 

[SnackNinja]

I only fear reincarnation. All I want to do in my life is escape reincarnation.

 

[tunnelV]

There are definitely a few worries in my mind. Paean mostly. What could possibly be painful after leaving this earth..although the unknown is what is really scary.

 

[Drago369]

i do not fear death. i'm at a stage where living is much worse than dying

 

[DesperateOne]

I'm not afraid of death because I won't be able to experience it. I am however afraid of dying. I tested it out with partial hanging and its a horrifying experience, can't imagine what it would be like doing full hanging. I don't want to feel the soul leaving my body and realizing this truly is the end. I just want to snap my fingers and be done with it. The only way to do that is to either take a shit ton of benzos + alcohol and then rope or get myself a gun which is impossible in my country, especially since I'm diagnosed with depression.