Discussion Are you afraid of being forgotten?

[Ryscatto]

Honestly, if I could push a button that would mean I was forgotten prior to CTB, I would. One thing that makes me hesitate from doing it is that it will hurt those I leave behind. If they could forget me it would be so much easier.

 

[Cheza_mus]

Lord there are over 7 billion people in the world and more are being reproduced day by day ..who do you think will keep on remembering u

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Not really. I'm more afraid of people remembering me fondly instead of for being the piece of shit that I am. I'd rather they not remember me at all than get the facts wrong and remember me as a decent person.

 

[VoidDesirer22]

A little. That's why I'm leaving some shoeboxes with my final writings and sentimental objects.

This is cute. (I don't mean that in a condescending way; I genuinely felt that this has some cuteness to it.)

Also:
The Jim Carrey golden globes speech basically covers the topic of things only being significant for a very short period of time before they are all forgotten. It's hilarious, too. I recommend it.

 

[RedPanda]

Everyone will eventually be forgotten. You will be forgotten and nobody will care. This is the reality for all of us.

Life is meaningless.

 

[WearyHSP]

Like others here, I've already been forgotten.

I admit though that I'm bothered by the prospect that my extended family will discuss what a shame it was that I was so troubled, but they won't ever know my true circumstances. I wish I could let that go but I've not been able to.

Had I been born into a healthy household and not been abused I'd have lovely things to leave behind, my art, my okay-decent writing, the inspired way I used to teach, my sense of humor, my willingness to love, my intuitional insight. But there's no one in my life who either knows of or values those things.

I'm fine with being forgotten I just wish in future after ctb that people would understand rather than be snarky.

 

[summers]

@Itsallover123 let's say you could have it any way you want - how exactly would you want to be remembered? Something like a frequently-visited wikipedia page?

By definition, only people who actually knew you could remember you - everyone else would only remember/know what was written/recorded/said about you from primary sources. So at best, you would be remembered by people who knew you until you died, and when they die, no one is capable of remembering you.

 

[WearyHSP]

I actually very much wish to be forgotten; if it was possible to wipe my existence off everyone's mind's before I CTB, I would.

Reminds me when Hermione cast a spell on her parents to make them forget her in the last Harry Potter book - "obliviate!"
Done from pure love.

 

[wanttogetonthebus]

I don't think so. I think I'm afraid of forgetting. As much as I want to forget, I'm afraid to forget. I'd rather be able to remember all the 'good' things and the things that made me happy and feel that same way again, but that's unfortunately not how it works. We can't pick and choose what we remember. People make the argument that before one is born we had nothing to fear. But now that I'm alive, I have everything to fear. And one of those things is forgetting. I'm afraid to live with my health condition. I'm afraid to die. Death will eventually force my hand anyway in an eternal vow if I don't speed up the process myself, and I pray that the 'peace' or 'happiness' we all talk about in regards to death is real.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Like so many other things I should care about and would have very much once upon a time… I don't. There's not all that much to remember anyway. I made poor use of my time here on planet earth.

 

[wCvML2]

The sad part is that the dead should be forgotten in order to give new space to the living. That's the natural cycle of life. It's our egos that can have a hard time dealing with how temporary and small we are.

But yeah, it's kinda scary to think about that.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

If anyone does want to be remembered and you have friends is to invite the 6 'friends' who have wronged you in life the worst to be pall bearers at your funeral so they have to lower your coffin into your grave and thus get to 'Let you down' one last time!!!

 

[ncmxm]

My answer will be opposite to most of the other people's answers here.

Yes it bothers me a lot. I don't want to be forgotten, I want someone to think of me long after I die. I want to have some kind of legacy. Obviously I know I won't know if someone thinks about me or not when I'm dead but I still want it. It's selfish, bordering on narcissistic, but I want it.

 

[Sky66]

No I want people to forget me asap.

 

[redd1993]

No I don't worry too much about being forgotten. My worries regarding CTB are mostly about the act itself and the pain it will cause to my family. I don't think I've achieved much but I think I'm fairly liked by my collegues and acquaintances so they might remember me fondly for a little bit and then move on. That's alright by me.

 

[noname223]

A part of me wants that my friends remember me. But the the good side of me not the bitter and resentful one (however this side grows.)
But there is also another part of me which is stronger. This part is so ashamed about my existence that it really wants to be forgotten. And hopes that all the things I have done will not remember by anyone. I despise myself however I have ot made something severly bad. I am a person who is often embarrassed about oneself. I am even ashamed that I am ashamed. I have made some cringey things during mania.
But other people make WAY worse things during mania or psychosis.