Are you a virgin?

[Grav]

Shouldn't there be more value placed on whether or not one was able to establish a meaningful and deep connection with someone?

I don't think that sex is bad or anything but society is definitely putting too much emphasis on it and it can be dangerous to believe it's this magical thing that makes all your dreams come true and all problems disappear once you had/have it.

Whoa! That's some dangerous thinking right there.
To clarify my previous response: Sex is really fun and it's a great ego boost being with someone who has some interest in being with you (even if it's thin) but it's not going to magically make your life better or suddenly give you a kick-ass job, nor does it make you a better person. Given today's society I would think being a virgin would actually have more value.

 

[aneurysm]

Yes but it's a choice.

 

[HenryHobkins]

Yes, i wouldnt say im an involuntary celibate as i never have had the confidence to actively seek out a sexual partner, but even if i actually tried to find relationships im 100% sure i would get rejected and therefore fit the more traditional term of incel. This is something i used to think about alot, but not so much anymore. Once your social circles deteriorate and you become a shut-in you start to be less depressed about not having a partner, and more depressed about not having any friends

 

[stygal]

Whoa! That's some dangerous thinking right there.
To clarify my previous response: Sex is really fun and it's a great ego boost being with someone who has some interest in being with you (even if it's thin) but it's not going to magically make your life better or suddenly give you a kick-ass job, nor does it make you a better person. Given today's society I would think being a virgin would actually have more value.

That's exactly what I meant to say though...
I totally agree with what you said except for the last part. Establishing someone's value based on whether they're having sex is somewhat backward in my mind meaning being a virgin shouldn't be "praised" either.

 

[Grav]

That's exactly what I meant to say though...
I totally agree with what you said except for the last part. Establishing someone's value based on whether they're having sex is somewhat backward in my mind.

I'm thinking just strictly on std's and whether getting or giving them.

 

[stygal]

I'm thinking just strictly on std's and whether getting or giving them.

Thats fair, I've always been scared of those as well and of course the most awful and terrifying disease of them all: pregnancy, haha.

 

[muffin222]

No. I've definitely been around the block, especially back in my more wild days

 

[kovkay]

No, but I never had good sex.

 

[FriendofDeath]

No, but a late bloomer.

 

[Wayfaerer]

At the start of 27 I became certifiably suicidal and had nothing to lose so I payed for an overnight stay with a nice escort lady exactly twice my age. A few months later, I did the same again. I guess I'm not technically a virgin but I still feel like one from not being able to feel what sex is supposed to feel like. I was completely numb from major depression, condom use, and being circumcised (thanks mom & dad!)

I was saving myself for a serious relationship but things had fallen apart before I could establish one. My upbringing had a lot to do with me reviling casual "romance" (divorce at the start of my life, dealing with mom's shithead boyfriends growing up, homeschooled during teens etc.) If I could go back, I'd do the same all over again but I would've gotten my shit in order a lot faster. Sometimes I do feel like a sucker many times for trying so hard in this insane, ridiculous clown show of a world though. Kind of wish I had just said "fuck it all" and engaged in rampant hedonism i.e. one night stands.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Yes, but it's not a problem for me. My problem is related to it. I will, at this point, not function without a romantic partner. I've never had one, but it's the only thing capable of generating any meaningful emotions in me. Why endure this life if I don't have a loving gf? For me there is no answer to that question. The only reason I'm still breathing is that I hope to somehow find someone that will love me unconditionally. It's imperative that she loves me at my worst: NEET, suicidal, unkempt appearance, bad personality, needy, weak. This will not happen, which is why as reality and I embrace each other I will eventually hang myself.