Are you a Virgin ?

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Blue Elephant

Blue Elephant

Mage
Sep 22, 2023
519
I'm surprised because the general population doesn't have such a rate of virgins. No need to be so aggressive.
I'm not aggressive, I don't know how you got that idea.

Did you realize that people with low intelligence and less empathy hook up a lot more often then people with high intelligence and more empathy? Think jocks and geeks for example. In a way you could say that normies are jocks and we are geeks.
 
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LunarLight

LunarLight

i'm a loser, a failure
Apr 3, 2024
1,368
I'm not aggressive, I don't know how you got that idea.

Did you realize that people with low intelligence and less empathy hook up a lot more often then people with high intelligence and more empathy? Think jocks and geeks for example. In a way you could say that normies are jocks and we are geeks.
I don't like the way you're thinking and classifying people into fixed categories. I won't elaborate, this is not debate class. Let's just agree to disagree.
 
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itsneverbeenmoreove

itsneverbeenmoreove

You are just my love
May 21, 2024
78
I've had one partner. We started going out it high school. She actually pressured me into sex well before I was ready, but things were mostly normal. Sex is cool. But it was never the most important part of our relationship. Well, for a long time, it was essential to her, which was hard on me. But later it became less important. Non-sexual intimate things I found much more important.
Having sex did not really improve my self esteem though. Although I was in high school at the time, I'm pretty sure my self esteem would be higher now if I hadn't had sex. Given that she eventually stopped having sex with me and said I was ugly when she broke up with me after 8 years LMAO.
So not a virgin, but I'm absolutely terrified of sex now
TO FOLLOW UP ON THIS.

She just made a public post about how she just had the best sex of her life with her new boyfriend and how it was 4 hours and her ex (me) could never. So, like, I already suspected this to be the case, but her just publicly announcing it is something else. Never having sex again, it wasn't worth it lol
 
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TheLastBoyOnEarth

Member
Jun 7, 2024
92
No, I used to sleep around in my 20s because I have a chronic pain condition and I didn't want a relationship where the other person would feel bad for me, so I just slept around until sex wasn't fun to me anymore because my condition got worse, so I've been practically sexless these last few years.
 
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ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

death will be my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
4,695
I'm surprised there are so many virgins on SaSu.
What's surprising about that? If anything it makes more sense for there to be much more virgins on this site because, on average, suicidal people are far less functional than the average person. Some people here are probably even suicidal because they have been cursed with a bad set of cards at birth which makes them unable to find somebody to have sex with or to communicate adequately with them. Some people are here because they're a failed normie or because they struggle at being a normie. Whether we like to admit it or not, there are humans which are unfortunately less functional than others and these people are more likely to be suicidal as they're living a significantly worse life than the norm

I'm so glad that I don't have a sex drive because, if I did, I would be absolutely screwed as I know that I would have no chance at having sex with anybody due to my anti social nature caused by my autism as well as my lack of desires to do anything... also caused by my autism
 
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thenamingofcats

annihilation anxiety
Apr 19, 2024
453
I've done it a couple times but found it to be very disturbing. It's not for me.
 
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Ker

Ker

Member
Jul 27, 2023
18
No, at first it was with my ex-boyfriend, then there were a few intrigues, that's why I'm disgusted with myself, I can't have sex without having an emotional connection
 
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littlelungs

littlelungs

Wizard
Oct 21, 2018
634
No, but as someone who suffered CSA, virginity has always been a complicated thing for me.

If the matter of consent isn't being taken into account, I lost it (and a lot of other things in the process) when I was 7. 😞

If consent is a factor, then I lost it when I was 18 with an ex-boyfriend, but the first time we actually did it, it wasn't consensual – I'd initially consented, but then when we actually started I told him that I needed to stop because him going in even just a little bit was so painful that my eyes were watering, I was shaking and I felt like I was going to throw up and pass out, and because it was extremely difficult for me psychologically, but instead he just told me that it "would have had to happen eventually" and proceeded to force himself in all the way and kept going until he was done. (That relationship did not do me any favours with the C-PTSD at all, but I didn't have any reference point as to how a healthy relationship should look like, and it gave me an additional complex and shit on top of that, but that's a whole other story.)

I've been married to my soulmate for over 5 years now and he's been nothing but unconditionally loving, caring, gentle, respectful, understanding and always makes me feel safe and heard, but I just have so much baggage that I couldn't even begin to adequately describe that has always made sex in general and how I view men and myself in relation to men, especially in that way (and I feel like such a sexist asshole for saying that, but I promise I'm really not trying to be... my brain is just messed up from the trauma), an extremely complicated thing for me.

So, I never know what to say when asked when I lost my virginity. It's something that I honestly really try to not think about in my case, because it's just... painful and confusing.
 
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Crash_Bash_Dash

Crash_Bash_Dash

Nothing what I used to be
Apr 23, 2024
66
Only twice with a same woman two years ago. She was a sad but interesting case in many ways... Domestical abuse and violence by two husbands and her children were in foster family's custody. I sheltered her and helped her to move away from her abusive husband. Later discovered that she came back to him... Haven't been in contact for her since then because she adviced so. I hope she's doing fine...:aw:

My two girlfriends in the past had not sex with me, a major reason why I am not with them anymore. Nowadays I don't care that much anymore because I have lost my sex drive mostly because of these stupid drugs.
 
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VampQueen

Student
Feb 6, 2024
116
Man I still wish I was. Sex is gross. The smell, the feeling, and the intense intimacy of it. Ill stick to kissing and cuddling
 
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cheaptrick

cheaptrick

Member
Jul 17, 2024
17
I understand it's a point of frustration for a lot of young guys. For me however, I have no problem being a virgin. I have health problems so I simply don't have the energy or sex drive to pursue this sort of thing.
 
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Unhumanly.

Unhumanly.

Recovery are not the winner.
Feb 24, 2023
251
I lost it at a very curious age with my once was and only one partner (I will never ever find another partner for the rest of my life and only have one)
 
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Life Is My Coffin

Life Is My Coffin

One final action ⚰️⚰️⚰️
Oct 13, 2023
249
Just rediscovered this thread. Honestly really surprised to see the vote counter is a perfect 50 / 50. I kind of thought it would (mostly) be either one way or the other.
 
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mikuhappy

mikuhappy

Student
Feb 14, 2024
127
I just get a handjob and blowjobs for one partner
 
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kinderbueno

kinderbueno

Waiting at the bus stop
Jun 22, 2024
261
I'm not a virgin, I miss having sex :(
 
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N33dT0D13

N33dT0D13

Xe/It
Apr 2, 2023
365
I haven't been a virgin since I was 5 🙃
 
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Gangrel

Gangrel

Specialist
Jul 25, 2024
377
I lost virgnity at 25, am gay in a very consertive place so it's really hard to find someone to fuck. Sometimes i see people in social media just fucking every weekend and it makes me so sad i'm losing my younger years not enjoying it but what the hell am i supposed to do, i can't just move or something right now...
 
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Ashu

Ashu

novelist, sanskritist, Canadian living in India
Nov 13, 2021
714
Guys, this has been an issue here before. Sexually experienced people telling virgins that they shouldn't be sad because believe me sex is really no big deal... this isn't what's needed, OK?
 
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nir

nir

27/F/Canada
Aug 18, 2024
276
Lost my virginity at 16 and it was awful. Had lots of bad sex as a teenager with bad self-esteem. Now I'm 26 and can't get into a proper relationship for the life of me. The loneliness absolutely sucks. I'm planning on getting plastic surgery so physically I look more appealing, I guess to make up for the shittiness inside, lmao. I'm someone who craves physical touch and intimacy (cringed writing that, but it's true), so having been alone for years and years now has been so draining. If plastic surgery doesn't work for me, I'd genuinely consider ctb because jesus christ this is a drag.
 
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Shinobu

Shinobu

Ignorance is bliss.
Apr 5, 2023
56
Yes I am and I'm a 25 year old man with a high sex drive. I think social anxiety really fucked me over with girls when I was in school and then I dropped out of school and became socially isolated so I'm barely even ever around women my own age it's crazy being that much of an outcast to your peers. I wish I was handsome enough for dating apps to work for me. Maybe if I keep losing weight I'll get better results.
Don't do dating apps man they won't work it's just gonna cause you stress
 
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catmilk

catmilk

New Member
Aug 18, 2024
3
I got a blowjob when I was 12ish by a much older lady and I'm much worse off from it. My incel online-friends always say they wish they could lose their virginity by any means necessary but fuck, you don't.

Don't do dating apps man they won't work it's just gonna cause you stress
That's the only way people meet now, according to studies (can't seem to post the pic, so here's a reddit source). Might as well give up dating all together if you aren't willing to grind through dating apps.
 
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Aloneandinpain

Experienced
Dec 25, 2023
225
Just rediscovered this thread. Honestly really surprised to see the vote counter is a perfect 50 / 50. I kind of thought it would (mostly) be either one way or the other.
I think virginity is a bigger deal to those of us who are unable to lose it and thus we're more likely to read this thread and vote in the poll.
 
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damienlerone03

damienlerone03

reject humanity, return to monke
May 5, 2024
1,035
I would say I am, I've done a bunch of oral stuff but I was to scared to go the full way of penetration. That was back then, now i'm ready so i'll do it with my next gf or something idk
 
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astr4

astr4

memento mori
Mar 27, 2019
456
bro i wish

is it too late to revirginize myself i wanna undo some shitty men and women 😭
 
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Sylveon

Sylveon

Square One Again
Oct 10, 2023
489
Social anxiety fucks me on a daily basis.
 
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Trying To Live

Member
Aug 18, 2024
48
I'm not a virgin. I had sex with a lot of woman. Prostitutes and relationships.

Sometimes i go a long time without sex. Lately I want sex again.
 
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daysnumbered

daysnumbered

To be or not to be
Aug 21, 2024
18
I am a 29 year old virgin, but it is my own fault. It is a combination of having no self esteem and social anxiety.
 
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pyx

Wizard
Jun 5, 2024
618
yes, but i no longer think it's the end of the world. just one great disappointment
 
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Steff1337

Steff1337

Autistic and schizophrenic, please be respectful
Jun 21, 2024
659
Yes, I'm an almost 30 y/o virgin, and I'm pretty sure that I'll die that way.
 
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