NSFW Are you a virgin ?

[Marine]

Yes. I only want to do it with the right person (aka mutual love), once I'm no longer cursed relationally and find that person, but I'm still afraid of it hurting I must say even if it's embarrassing

 

[Final_Choice]

Yeah, don't really care about being a virgin either. I do daydream about having a partner to do it with if they wanted to, but I mostly just care about having a partner and don't actually care about staying a virgin or not.

 

[mrpeter]

I am
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time to get laid
I used to spend hours a day trying to get matches on dating apps when i was 17. I was on like every big dating apps, I even joined some obscure ones that are scams. I would get catfished all the time like, I would add a girl on snapchat and get spammed with a bunch of onlyfans ads and they would be of the same girl from multiple different accounts. Some of them weren't bots but were obviously catfishes and I would ask them to prove they're real and they always refused. 2 of them requested nudes if I was stupid enough I could have sent them nudes, but there was no way they weren't catfishes, but thankfully I was smart enough to realize that. One of them wanted me to buy them birth control pills for some retarded reason, thankfully I have a brain so i refused. One of them wanted to drive to my house, and I asked them to prove they were real and they refused than I reverse image searched their profile and found out it was some instagram model, imagine if I actually gave this person my address? Might have been some weirdo who wanted to meet up with a 17 year old.

 

[Plentiful_Despair]

No. But it doesn't matter for my suicidality.

 

[JealousOfTheElderly]

I'm not a virgin. But now I have no sex drive and I'm OK with this. Sex is way overrated.

 

[AnxiousLlama]

poll should have been split by gender tbh.

 

[purpleuser]

You need sex when you're happy. It doesn't help you when you're unhappy. Check. I had one, but life stayed the same.

 

[Ashu]

You need sex when you're happy. It doesn't help you when you're unhappy. Check. I had one, but life stayed the same.

It helps me when I'm unhappy, I'm unhappy when I don't get it. For me, it's one reason to live.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I've had multiple partners, long-term relationships, one-night stands. Never had FWB, though. Although it's been a long time since I had sex. I may try to have it one more time before I ctb and it'll most likely have to be with a pro. And, then again, maybe I won't even bother.

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

I've had multiple partners, long-term relationships, one-night stands. Never had FWB, though. Although it's been a long time since I had sex. I may try to have it one more time before I ctb and it'll most likely have to be with a pro. And, then again, maybe I won't even bother.

Lol "a pro"
I dig your standards.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Lol "a pro"
I dig your standards.

At the stage I am, with ctb looming, it doesn't much matter. Like a last hurrah.

 

[ms_beaverhousen]

At the stage I am, with ctb looming, it doesn't much matter. Like a last hurrah.

So you'll settle for less than "a pro." I hear that. Cute and good kisser will do.
"Last Hurrah" is a good song by Bebe Rexha btw.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

So you'll settle for less than "a pro." I hear that. Cute and good kisser will do.
"Last Hurrah" is a good song by Bebe Rexha btw.

"Doesn't much matter" wasn't referring to settling for "less than a pro". "Doesn't much matter" was referring to that it doesn't matter if I avail myself of the services of a pro. Also, I figure, for a last hurrah, I might as well go "all in", too, meaning splurge on a higher class professional. Of course cute and kissable needs to be a part of it, as well.

 

[SongToSayGoodbye]

Dating Apps are fucking cruel, its not you bro. More men then woman are on dating apps and woman have more choices on dating apps. Its 100% not you. Women are pretty hypergamous on dating apps.

I met my wife on a dating app. However, that was over 10 years ago and I think there have been big changes in the culture of them these days. I hear from friends who have tried them recently that they are not helpful at all.

 

[nux_walpurgis]

Lost it around 19. Good riddance :)

 

[Meowers]

Lost mine at 8 yrs old

 

[willitpass]

Not a virgin, but for all the men who are convinced women can just fall onto 6 dicks by walking out the doors, it's not always that easy. I've used dating apps before and only ever had sex with one person from it. Most of the people end up ghosting you the same way men always complain only happens to them. I've never had someone slide into my DMs from a social media post wanting to fuck me. I have never had someone IRL slip me their number or make a move on me. It really isn't this magical world of free sex everywhere I go just because I'm a woman. I haven't even had sex in 6 months at this point and don't have anyone on my roster if I wanted it.

 

[HereTomorrow]

No. Lost it at 9. I don't really want to count it. I'll somewhat say I am a virgin for my own sanity, and straight up lie in person.

Honestly, I kinda want to go to a place where prostitution is legal and lose it for real one day on my own terms. Might as well do something crazy before I possibly CTB.

 

[Just_Another_Person]

No. Lost it at 9. I don't really want to count it. I'll somewhat say I am a virgin for my own sanity, and straight up lie in person.

Honestly, I kinda want to go to a place where prostitution is legal and lose it for real one day on my own terms. Might as well do something crazy before I possibly CTB.

I'm sorry that happened to you. And no, that doesn't count, you are good :)

I think you can find sex workers in any country, you just have to know where to look.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

Not a virgin, but for all the men who are convinced women can just fall onto 6 dicks by walking out the doors, it's not always that easy. I've used dating apps before and only ever had sex with one person from it. Most of the people end up ghosting you the same way men always complain only happens to them. I've never had someone slide into my DMs from a social media post wanting to fuck me. I have never had someone IRL slip me their number or make a move on me. It really isn't this magical world of free sex everywhere I go just because I'm a woman. I haven't even had sex in 6 months at this point and don't have anyone on my roster if I wanted it.

We're not saying it's easy for all women, just much much easier, especially if they're they're attractive, not overweight or even just a tiny bit above average.

Men on average find black women to be by far the least attractive , so obviously things like that would make a big difference, and obviously it's much harder once women hit 40.

However, to put things into context, I still haven't even had my first kiss yet . I know multiple guys in a similar position to me yet the only women I've ever know who had the same situation were half my age and disabled.

 

[Life Is My Coffin]

I haven't been a virgin since I was 5

Being raped doesn't count (I mean that in a respectful way)

 

[We Are Angels]

Yes. I was born the wrong sex, which means to have sex I would need to get over the widerness of using the wrong parts. Additionally, I am into women, and sadly, looking like one doesn't make me attractive to most women, who want men.

 

[soledad.virgen]

no but as someone who used to consider themselves as like bitter and lonely and unlovable or whatever, when i finally had it i realized s*x wasn't all that. but that's (rightfully) impossible to believe when you haven't had it. also i never had it with someone i love, so that plays into it.

 

[legoshi]

I lost mine at 14. I kind of regret it looking back cause it had no meaning. I felt like it would validate me or make me cool cause I used to get teased for being a virgin. But after losing it nothing changed. I was still awkward, acne faced, and weird.

Now I'm an adult and single. I see a lot of people here are either virgins still or having a hard time with dating. I'm in the hard time with dating group. Social anxiety, depression, and low self worth makes it extremely hard for me.

 

[BlendedHeart]

No, but only because I paid someone to do it. No one has ever desired me in that way. And at 36, I'm convinced that no one ever will. It sucks.

 

[furribcage]

No I lost my virginity to my amazing gf a few months ago but it was rly scary at first and took me a while to get comfortable with that kind of intimacy

 

[Privateer2368]

I'm basically the opposite of a virgin. I love sex and will happily pay for it if I'm horny. Why waste time fishing for minnows when I can just go and buy a haddock?

My best friend is fairly active in the local BDSM scene and she has introduced me to a few people.

I also tend to be rather magnetic to younger women, which is nice.

The whole reason I'm getting divorced is because my wife was fine with my activities until suddenly she wasn't. Honestly, the end of my marriage was traumatic at first, but I'm beginning to feel more like myself again and realising how much I sacrificed (in many areas of my life) for her dreams.

Just because someone mentioned them earlier- dating apps are utterly worthless; they're designed to keep you single and desperate so you'll pay for extras. Avoid them. People who actually get laid do it in the real world.

 

[Rudi]

Yes I very much am

Except I don't know if I'd like to stay one or no

 

[Ceterum]

First off, I am no virgin and had my fair share of relationships and afairs.

As many others have mentioned, if you havent had sex, it might seem something mythical, but rest assured, it isnt. If there is no feelings involved, it might well be pleasant, but it really doesn't change anything in your life.

And for all the youngsters out there - I really didn't have much sexual activity up to my thirties and I dont think I was very attractive to girls back then. This changed a lot and I am approached by girls 10 or more years younger than me even - so things can change!

I wish I could have kept my special one, though, without her, all the sex and all the chatter just seem meaningless in the long run.

I wish I was a virgin. The only time I had sex was with a random girl because I was horny and lonely, I thought that having it once would lead to something, and if it didn't it would make women more attracted to me, obviously it led to nothing. I was delusional from all of the braindead incel forums I was using. Sex will never make you happy if you don't truely love someone, hook up culture is evil.

Sex for pleasure isnt evil between two consenting adult. It only begins being a problem, if one person gets attached then and the other does not. More a question of balance than of good vs evil. I agree that the ultimate thing is a loving relationship with good sex, though. Been there, messed it up.

I also tend to be rather magnetic to younger women, which is nice.

I start to think that woman tend to appreciate if you're mentally not a teen or a young twen anymore and can concur with this observation.


Take care guys

 

[Privateer2368]

First off, I am no virgin and had my fair share of relationships and afairs.

As many others have mentioned, if you havent had sex, it might seem something mythical, but rest assured, it isnt. If there is no feelings involved, it might well be pleasant, but it really doesn't change anything in your life.

And for all the youngsters out there - I really didn't have much sexual activity up to my thirties and I dont think I was very attractive to girls back then. This changed a lot and I am approached by girls 10 or more years younger than me even - so things can change!

I wish I could have kept my special one, though, without her, all the sex and all the chatter just seem meaningless in the long run.



Sex for pleasure isnt evil between two consenting adult. It only begins being a problem, if one person gets attached then and the other does not. More a question of balance than of good vs evil. I agree that the ultimate thing is a loving relationship with good sex, though. Been there, messed it up.

Take care guys

This thread is filled with deeply unhealthy attitudes towards sex that mostly comes across as a combination of sour grapes and repressive Christian conditioning.

There's nothing evil in a good fuck between consenting adults. If anything, it's the opposite.