Are some people just not meant to socialise?

[SadLoser]

I basically asked a guy I kind of know from college to invite me out for Halloween. When I got there I realised that all his friends that were there were people he already knew for years and there wasn't anyone else from our course that we both only met recently, so I was a complete outsider.

I was there for maybe 4 hours and I barely talked to anyone at all. It was obvious people only talked to me out of pity, like I was a little anxious child. Then they even asked me if I was okay and that I looked depressed. I told them that i'm just not drunk enough/ not feeling well, but the truth is i'm too stupid for small talk and too boring for anything beyond that.
I started going to the gym and college recently. That's basically all my life is. Nothing interests me and I have no life experience. So what am I meant to talk about, really?

I cringe at what they said after I left. Probably asked the guy why he brought a loser like me. I woke up several times during the night because of it.
I think I just need to accept that i'm an introvert and am going to spend most of my time alone with my thoughts. Funnily enough I do talk to myself a lot.

 

[fox_wannabe]

I think It is me. I just cannot maintain my positivisty and I am a bit asocial when I am depressed.

 

[rkvgriffus]

I can totally relate to this. I'm finishing college this year, and my whole experience was like that
i'd try to go to new places and meet new people, try to socialize, but it just didnt work as i expected
I cant make small talk, i'm not funny, and people just consider me as not-interesting-enough or too ugly to engage in a real conversation.
feels like i never had a real chance to begin with, just because i'm introverted. it sucks.

 

[SadLoser]

I can totally relate to this. I'm finishing college this year, and my whole experience was like that
i'd try to go to new places and meet new people, try to socialize, but it just didnt work as i expected
I cant make small talk, i'm not funny, and people just consider me as not-interesting-enough or too ugly to engage in a real conversation.
feels like i never had a real chance to begin with, just because i'm introverted. it sucks.

Well it's good to know that there's at least two of us,. I very rarely come across someone that is as quiet as me. Even people that seem to be super introverted are able to contribute to a conversation. I don't know what's wrong with me.

 

[rkvgriffus]

yea i feel like im a random mistake of nature.
ability to make social interactions is what set us apart from other species, is what made humans evolved to this civilization.
why i dont have that ability
maybe i should have born a monkey... no need for small talk

 

[demuic]

Yes, this is why I've always avoided social gatherings and conversation. The awkwardness and feeling of social rejection is painful.

It seems that if you miss some critical period of developing the ability to socialize, it becomes a nearly impossible hurdle to overcome. I have long since given up.

 

[nottheend]

I basically asked a guy I kind of know from college to invite me out for Halloween. When I got there I realised that all his friends that were there were people he already knew for years and there wasn't anyone else from our course that we both only met recently, so I was a complete outsider.

I was there for maybe 4 hours and I barely talked to anyone at all. It was obvious people only talked to me out of pity, like I was a little anxious child. Then they even asked me if I was okay and that I looked depressed. I told them that i'm just not drunk enough/ not feeling well, but the truth is i'm too stupid for small talk and too boring for anything beyond that.
I started going to the gym and college recently. That's basically all my life is. Nothing interests me and I have no life experience. So what am I meant to talk about, really?

I cringe at what they said after I left. Probably asked the guy why he brought a loser like me. I woke up several times during the night because of it.
I think I just need to accept that i'm an introvert and am going to spend most of my time alone with my thoughts. Funnily enough I do talk to myself a lot.

Totally relate to this

 

[Interloper]

It's a skill like any other, many of us here probably never really trained it early on. Don't blame it on being introverted though because that is not what that means. It's just called being asocial.

 

[lobster salad]

I am a little similar unfortunately. I just don't know what to say and do in most social situations, I don't look depressed or anything but I am sure I seem creepy. This type of event makes me feel so bad because of how I am avoided by everyone, except the creeps and ''weirdo's that the big guys don`t want to talk to''
But yet, just like you I feel that I have to go to these events because I feel so left out from everything cos of my irrelevant and unimportant interests and social weirdness. BTW the last time I had successfully been invited to a party was 7 or 8 years ago. and this makes me feel kinda sad to think about. I am still a young man, but I guess this is what I get for not fitting in.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think some people are naturally introverted. That is the way that I am and I cannot stand people, I have no interest in talking to people. I find it to be hard work. People are tiring. I think in my case I cannot relate to people and I never have anything worth talking about. I am very boring and have no personality. I think for some people socialising comes naturally to them. Maybe in some cases it is also finding the right people. It can be hard trying to connect to those that you have nothing in common with.

 

[ikadasui]

I used to be decent enough when I was younger. I can only do online interactions though when I have a barrier and time to think of replies. I dread voice chatting nowadays which is funny considering in the past I would do it all day long. Now though, I my mind is in fog I don't have any life experience or education so interacting with me is pointless

 

[TheHatedOne]

I think that I wasn't meant for this socialize thing I mean my voice sounds like shit, I have speech problems, my face is beyond ugly, the way I speak and act is really weird. Couple that with the fact that people around me are interested in shallow things which I'm not interested in and no one shares my interests and my humour is completely fucked up so yeah no one would interact with such a freak like me lol.

I used to be better online, when I was teen I'd always talk online, I'd help people and give them coherent advice. Now even online I can barely link two words together. It sucks man, especially considering how our whole existence seems to revolve around interacting with others.

 

[nottheend]

I basically asked a guy I kind of know from college to invite me out for Halloween. When I got there I realised that all his friends that were there were people he already knew for years and there wasn't anyone else from our course that we both only met recently, so I was a complete outsider.

I was there for maybe 4 hours and I barely talked to anyone at all. It was obvious people only talked to me out of pity, like I was a little anxious child. Then they even asked me if I was okay and that I looked depressed. I told them that i'm just not drunk enough/ not feeling well, but the truth is i'm too stupid for small talk and too boring for anything beyond that.
I started going to the gym and college recently. That's basically all my life is. Nothing interests me and I have no life experience. So what am I meant to talk about, really?

I cringe at what they said after I left. Probably asked the guy why he brought a loser like me. I woke up several times during the night because of it.
I think I just need to accept that i'm an introvert and am going to spend most of my time alone with my thoughts. Funnily enough I do talk to myself a lot.

This is exactly how I've always felt me all over

 

[drnhng]

I basically asked a guy I kind of know from college to invite me out for Halloween. When I got there I realised that all his friends that were there were people he already knew for years and there wasn't anyone else from our course that we both only met recently, so I was a complete outsider.

I was there for maybe 4 hours and I barely talked to anyone at all. It was obvious people only talked to me out of pity, like I was a little anxious child. Then they even asked me if I was okay and that I looked depressed. I told them that i'm just not drunk enough/ not feeling well, but the truth is i'm too stupid for small talk and too boring for anything beyond that.
I started going to the gym and college recently. That's basically all my life is. Nothing interests me and I have no life experience. So what am I meant to talk about, really?

I cringe at what they said after I left. Probably asked the guy why he brought a loser like me. I woke up several times during the night because of it.
I think I just need to accept that i'm an introvert and am going to spend most of my time alone with my thoughts. Funnily enough I do talk to myself a lot.

I think were in a similar situation haha; i'm a second year in college and by definition im healthy: im surrounded by people, i try to eat clean, and i go to the gym, and yet i'm still in this shithole of a mind... went to a halloween party for the first time yesterday and ironically made me realize just how lonely i was.

 

[Insomniac]

people only talked to me out of pity,

Ah, this.

 

[Naufrago]

I'm an alcoholic, I've been clean for two years. No alcohol was almost impossible to socialize. Especially when conversations are low intellectual level and futility that add nothing good.