After years of enduring physical, emotional, and sometimes sexual abuse I wanted to turn 18 so bad. I wanted desperately to escape this situation and I often dreamed of a life that was better than the one I was in. I figured, once I was an adult, everything would be so much easier. No more abusive mom, no more school bullies, I can have independence...
All I have left of my childhood is the shattered memories and intense emotional outbursts draped over my brain like a blanket of fog. Becoming an adult was like taking my first breath of air. It felt like it'd be a lifetime away.
But before you knew it, I was 15. And my mental health would begin to nose dive dramatically. I often felt that because I couldn't remember my life, I was super imposed into this universe.
I felt as though I was out of my body and watching the scene unfold. Nothing felt real anymore and my symptoms continued to escalate, but the numbing feeling I often experienced due to my disconnection sort of acted as the relief to a barrage of attacks so I didn't complain. It was like unplugging yourself. From everything.
Everything being that I couldn't sleep at home, and spent most of my school days trying to face the fact that I hadn't been to bed yet, that I was working at the time to provide for myself and my family, that I couldn't eat a full meal anymore without puking it back up due to the sheer amount of stress I was under, that I was so absorbed by my obsessive compulsive thoughts and need to make my mother happy that I lost all interests in life.
I didn't draw anymore, I didn't write the same, all my hobbies gradually disappeared and everything that I knew had changed.
I stopped talking to anyone that attempted to interact with me at school and began isolating even more intensely. I also slept in class most of the time to make up for the fact that I'd been up all night after work because it was the only free time I had.
My grades and social life completely sank through the floor and all I could do was watch.
At the time it didn't matter, because I wasn't real anyway. And so I began to feed my delusions more intensely, desperate to escape the world around me. I had fictional friends that I made up and they'd become a huge part of my life for the next two years. Even now.
I began to hear the voices of my so-called friends and black out, losing all sense of time and reality. One moment I'd be doing one thing and the next I was in a completely different location, unsure as to how I even got there. I was so delirious I didn't notice the jumps in time. I thought I was just tired from work, school, and abuse.
It wasn't until I turned 17 and overdosed that I started to collect the pieces. I'd reached my boiling point over summer break as there was no more school to escape my brutal home life, and I saw how miserable my brother was as a 21 year old. He was still getting abused by my mom, and I figured it'd never stop then even if I did turn 18.
My delusions also started to reflect the abuse at home and it no longer served as an escape. So I did the only rational thing I thought you could at the time: take a cocktail of your mother's entire script of benzos and three scripts of your antidepressants.
Unfortunately my dad and brother found me and that's why I'm still alive today. It was a close call, and I'd spent a long time in the hospital unconscious. When I woke up I remember laying there and crying because I was still alive. How frightened I was that I had to keep going. The doctor just stood there awkwardly and asked me if I knew where I was. In hell, I thought.
Shortly after that I got interviewed by DCFS and they sent me to a locked unit for a year where I'd attempt to regain my life, and I thought, this is where it gets better...right?
I worked really hard and took all the therapeutic advice they had to offer. Before you knew it I had graduated a year early, got accepted into a ambitious university, and I left the psych ward in July 2019; thinking this would be the turning point in my life where I finally conquer my delusions, self harm, OCD, PTSD, DID, and mood swings. I would be a successful person. I would go to college and forget about all the shitty things my parents put me through....but that's not what happened at all.
My symptoms got worse and I began to turn into something else. Something resembling my abuse.
And so....my anxiety, dissociative amnesia, and mood swings worsened. I locked myself in a bathroom for a year and a half and refused to leave. Flunking out of college, losing my friends all over again, relapsing back into self harm, experimenting with drugs (thankfully I never got addicted but it doesn't make me feel any less like a failure), feeding back into my delusions, and living chronically online for the next 3 years, afraid to leave my house, afraid to get another job, lost, without hobbies, and this time- without my family, who has actively evaded me since I got out of the hospital.
I moved out of Indiana to get a better life and forget treatment, college, and my familial problems, but now I've just carried my problems with me and new ones are coming up. Financial stress, relationship problems, my problems.
I still feel unreal, I'm still hearing voices that don't belong to me...my friends, I guess youd call them, my eating disorder has come to a head and now I don't just puke from stress anymore, I make myself sick because I can't help it. I act like my mom and get irrational, making me feel foolish and sick and wrong. Because I am.
I'm poor and work is hard for me. Everything is hard for me when it involves leaving my room. Everything is hard.
Life did not get better for me. Positive affirmations did not work for me, CBT was a joke, doesn't matter how long you stay in a locked unit, it doesn't help... and now I'm riddled with guilt. That I survived, that I made it this far into life, that I have no sense of direction, and all I do is hurt people's feelings with my irrational thinking, and it'd be better for everyone if I just died.