Discussion Anyone ever known someone who wanted to CTB?

[Xebsora29]

Its weird.

Few months ago, a friend of mines wanted to commit suicide. Yet, I told them that there were massive opportunities to life and they had the potential to do far more amazing things. I told them it was okay, to not be okay. Reassuring them that life will get better if they search the alternatives. Eventually, they caved in and it appears as though they're doing far better than their previous state. I'm hoping they're doing well. They were facing a breakup of 9 years at most.

Long story short, I myself wanted to attempt the deed however never told them given their situation. Kept up a facade and hid my emotions.

The reality of the situation is that I would never wish for anyone to go through pain and to commit. I will attempt to find a solution aside suicide for them, until there truly doesn't remain an alternative.

Does that make me inconsiderate of their circumstances? It may be ironic, given I plan to CTB soon.

Anyone ever have a similar situation?

 

[Guizin239]

I met a few suicidal folks in the madhouse I stayed for a while. Ended up having a crush on this really cute guy, but he was straight and I'm an ugly fuck so

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[Flume]

I had a friend that I know witch suicidal thoughts... but he avoids me and anyone else. I only had one conversation about this with him before he bailed on me... but based on that, I think that he's going to die by his own choice. It'll take a few years for him to get to that point, but things are not looking bright. I really hope he's doing ok.

 

[T42]

One of my ex's tried to cbt when I broke up with him, and I panicked and called the cops. That was 7 years ago tho so I'm not sure if I'd do the same thing now.

 

[mathieu]

I had a friend who killed herself. We often talked about depression including feeling suicidal. I never thought she'd really do it.

 

[Carina]

One of my friends did, many years ago she outright called me out for being a hypocrite. And she was right given the situation. I didn't try to stop her in any way direct after that, and only gave warning signs to my best friend (who because her boyfriend later for a while). I even tried to explain why someone would want it to my other friend, so maybe he'd be nicer/support her.

Kind of like when she was suicidal, I'd only say some variant of "are your kids at their grandparents?" or just wonder that. Never thinking or saying not to do it to her.

 

[Hopeindeath!]

No, it doesn't make you inconsiderate.
You helped them and that's a good thing.

 

[134340]

It doesn't make you inconsiderate. Dealing with people you know in real life who want to ctb and dealing with the same situation on this site are very different things. I know a girl who struggles severely and I always try to work out solutions and ways to survive with her. Like you said, I'd never wish this pain on someone else. Plus, with all the people I've know in real life who wanted to ctb, I've truly seen a lot of potential for things to improve. I'd never want to encourage someone to accept feeling like dying if they still have several options left, you know?

 

[Xebsora29]

It doesn't make you inconsiderate. Dealing with people you know in real life who want to ctb and dealing with the same situation on this site are very different things. I know a girl who struggles severely and I always try to work out solutions and ways to survive with her. Like you said, I'd never wish this pain on someone else. Plus, with all the people I've know in real life who wanted to ctb, I've truly seen a lot of potential for things to improve. I'd never want to encourage someone to accept feeling like dying if they still have several options left, you know?

Yeah, understandable. Quite similar to the thoughts I have. Good to know that I'm not overthinking and overstepping my boundaries.

 

[NotGoneButNotHere]

Its weird.

Few months ago, a friend of mines wanted to commit suicide. Yet, I told them that there were massive opportunities to life and they had the potential to do far more amazing things. I told them it was okay, to not be okay. Reassuring them that life will get better if they search the alternatives. Eventually, they caved in and it appears as though they're doing far better than their previous state. I'm hoping they're doing well. They were facing a breakup of 9 years at most.

Long story short, I myself wanted to attempt the deed however never told them given their situation. Kept up a facade and hid my emotions.

The reality of the situation is that I would never wish for anyone to go through pain and to commit. I will attempt to find a solution aside suicide for them, until there truly doesn't remain an alternative.

Does that make me inconsiderate of their circumstances? It may be ironic, given I plan to CTB soon.

Anyone ever have a similar situation?

Yes, my ex was as bad as I am now and over the course of our almost 1 year together I convinced her she was worth living and she even decided to start university. There was lots of issues with the way her family was treating her but I showed her to look past it and keep going. It definitely is a bit ironic as I'm going to CTB before the end of January but I just feel like she had more potential than I. I had similar opportunities to her after I got out of High-school and I fucked up my life a lot worse. I'm in more of no going back situation with life and debt so I've always just seen this as my outcome.

 

[Moonicide]

Yes, the closest friend to me has attempted 3 times. She deals with BPD & Bipolar 2. Has been in and out of inpatient, etc.

 

[Deepjoy]

I've known 3 people that have done it. 2 by hanging and the other jumped in font of a train.

 

[one.way.out]

Yes. She got raped by her stepbrother. I don't think she's better.