Stavrogin
If God not be, then this world dies with me
- Jul 1, 2020
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It's probably been said already but I'm too lazy to read it all. It's a spiral of negativity. Wanting others to be miserable so they aren't alone. We're all strangers here that's why we can talk openly because no one cares. Until you hurt their feelings then they care. About them. That freedom allows for more honesty but only in theory. In reality it allows for more bullshit and manipulation. Also every group needs a common enemy, in this case pro lifers. Something to hate gives a false sense of friendship, toxic in itself but then you have the hypocrisy of people thinking they can speak for everyone saying nothings ever going to improve on top of that. It's the same thing only worse. They don't really know so I hope they're not taken seriouslyI know you said it to him but could you elaborate, sir?
Frankly, I resent this attitude. Who comes to a pro-suicide forum to paint on a smile and pretend that life is wonderful? Most of us have nowhere else to turn, and no other way to express ourselves.It's probably been said already but I'm too lazy to read it all. It's a spiral of negativity. Wanting others to be miserable so they aren't alone. We're all strangers here that's why we can talk openly because no one cares. Until you hurt their feelings then they care. About them. That freedom allows for more honesty but only in theory. In reality it allows for more bullshit and manipulation. Also every group needs a common enemy, in this case pro lifers. Something to hate gives a false sense of friendship, toxic in itself but then you have the hypocrisy of people thinking they can speak for everyone saying nothings ever going to improve on top of that. It's the same thing only worse. They don't really know so I hope they're not taken seriously
You're allowed to. In my defence I was just elaborating because someone asked me toFrankly, I resent this attitude. Who comes to a pro-suicide forum to paint on a smile and pretend that life is wonderful? Most of us have nowhere else to turn, and no other way to express ourselves.
People have the right to acknowledge what a horrible place the world is. They have the right to be angry, or upset, or to despair.
I know that there are many things that might lead to a person wanting to CTB, and that not all of those people suffer from depression or other mental illnesses. People dont start thinking suicidal thoughts if they're life has been going great, though. Many of the users here have lived through trauma and abuse.
Sharing in negativity doesn't mean that one is a negative person. I'm honestly shocked at how cruel a sentiment you've posted here, labeling people 'miserable' just for talking about their experiences.
I'm not saying there aren't *any* users here who engage in bad faith or who just want to lash out, and I do see how negative feelings get amplified here, but come on dude the real problem is that people CANT say these things in real life, or even on other forums or social media. They'll see see it differently when they're ready.You're allowed to. In my defence I was just elaborating because someone asked me to
I don't fully agree but a lot of this is on point. For starters the anonymous community of strangers logic falls apart because when people talk to other people bonds and resentment can form. Even in a space like this manipulation, drama, validation and such have effects, which takes it away from being an open space where it doesn't matter what people think of you. On top of that the pro life enemy barely exists. Pro life isn't an established mindset, it's the result of the complex individual emotions of various people trying to cope with the suicide of their loved ones.It's probably been said already but I'm too lazy to read it all. It's a spiral of negativity. Wanting others to be miserable so they aren't alone. We're all strangers here that's why we can talk openly because no one cares. Until you hurt their feelings then they care. About them. That freedom allows for more honesty but only in theory. In reality it allows for more bullshit and manipulation. Also every group needs a common enemy, in this case pro lifers. Something to hate gives a false sense of friendship, toxic in itself but then you have the hypocrisy of people thinking they can speak for everyone saying nothings ever going to improve on top of that. It's the same thing only worse. They don't really know so I hope they're not taken seriously
I don't think everyone even agrees on what pro life is. My issue is insincerity in whatever form it takes.I don't fully agree but a lot of this is on point. For starters the anonymous community of strangers logic falls apart because when people talk to other people bonds and resentment can form. Even in a space like this manipulation, drama, validation and such have effects, which takes it away from being an open space where it doesn't matter what people think of you. On top of that the pro life enemy barely exists. Pro life isn't an established mindset, it's the result of the complex individual emotions of various people trying to cope with the suicide of their loved ones.
Intent is everythingSome, not all, is a perspective issue. Once again, I said some.
A good intent individual can respond to a post. One person will think it is good positive advice, another will be neutral towards it, another person may be triggered because of the wording or phrasing and the last person may assume the advice is horrible or misinterprets it to be condescending. The problem is the high variability of personalities in us humans. One good intended message will ring differently to each individual ear, regardless of its intent. This really can't be helped, sadly. But, it can be acknowledge and realized and perhaps people will take pause and ask questions.
You have the option to leave if you feel it's toxic here
My big issue is the same as any forum: there are cliques of posters who, if one reacts negatively to a user's post, others jump in. There are a lot of angry, frustrated, lonely, and sensitive people here, so naturally some in-fighting and factionalism occurs along with emotional drama. That was the reason I left the forum the first time, but I still find it useful to drop in occasionally. The big benefit of this forum from what I've seen so far are the moderators--they seem to do a good job of staying neutral umpires, no easy feat with a site like this.It's probably been said already but I'm too lazy to read it all. It's a spiral of negativity. Wanting others to be miserable so they aren't alone. We're all strangers here that's why we can talk openly because no one cares. Until you hurt their feelings then they care. About them. That freedom allows for more honesty but only in theory. In reality it allows for more bullshit and manipulation. Also every group needs a common enemy, in this case pro lifers. Something to hate gives a false sense of friendship, toxic in itself but then you have the hypocrisy of people thinking they can speak for everyone saying nothings ever going to improve on top of that. It's the same thing only worse. They don't really know so I hope they're not taken seriously
This describes probably 90+% of all the arguments on SS.One person will think it is good positive advice, another will be neutral towards it, another person may be triggered because of the wording or phrasing and the last person may assume the advice is horrible or misinterprets it to be condescending. The problem is the high variability of personalities in us humans.