NSFW Anyone Else Bothered By Not Having Sex Before CTB?

[KafkaF]

It's probably silly but thinking about CTB one thing that bothers me is the idea of never having sex again. Like that the last time I had sex will truly be my last time, even though I had no idea at the time. And that I can't have it again before ending things.

I know that in some sense that's silly. Because it's not like I'll remember it afterwards.

It really bothers me though. I wish I could.

For context: My girlfriend broke up with me unexpectedly last month.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

I'm Asexual, so I'm lucky in this respect.
Sorry about your gf.

 

[monebeta2]

I'm Asexual, so I'm lucky in this respect.
Sorry about your gf.

You lucky. To have sex only thing keep
Some us to be here. Sex gives pleasure of love, take away loneliness away. Else this life is boring

 

[Iris Blue]

I'm sorry about your ex girlfriend also

To answer your question, I do think about that sometimes, just the thought of dying a virgin even if it's still at a somewhat young age feels somewhat unusual. I've considered having one last hurrah a couple times but I'm too self conscious to even try. But I've also considered I might be part asexual too it always is so awkward though when all your friends around you are constantly talking about it in front of you.

 

[sanlcx]

"NSFW" lol this whole forum is nsfw, why even have that tag

But yes i guess it kinda sucks that im gonna die a virgin, but that doesn't really bother me tbh

 

[lebrodude]

I think when you have truly crossed to that mental state where you are committed to ctb, all these earthly pleasures don't matter anymore.

At least I hope so, I keep focusing on all the things I'd miss and yeah it's hard.

 

[Yaffle]

Could always visit an escort earlier in the day!

 

[KafkaF]

Could always visit an escort earlier in the day!

I've considered that but I don't think I'd feel comfortable with that.

I'm kind of a romantic in that way... I've only ever had sex with women I've been in long-term, loving relationships with. And I'm not sure that I'd feel comfortable having sex with someone I don't love, let alone paying for it.

For the record, not judging anyone who does. Like I said, I'm tempted to do it. But I personally don't think I could be comfortable with it.

 

[Some place nice]

I would love to have sex before I ctb but, sadly enough imma die a virgin.

 

[Neogoloid]

I will die a virgin, if I had money I'd just pay a prostitute before I ctb.

 

[Yaffle]

I've considered that but I don't think I'd feel comfortable with that.

I'm kind of a romantic in that way... I've only ever had sex with women I've been in long-term, loving relationships with. And I'm not sure that I'd feel comfortable having sex with someone I don't love, let alone paying for it.

For the record, not judging anyone who does. Like I said, I'm tempted to do it. But I personally don't think I could be comfortable

You have to do what's right for you.

Personally I see nothing wrong with it so long as with a fully consenting lady and not trafficked. They say it's the oldest profession after all!

 

[KafkaF]

You have to do what's right for you.

Personally I see nothing wrong with it so long as with a fully consenting lady and not trafficked. They say it's the oldest profession after all!

It's not that I'm saying it's immoral or anything. But I have a certain way that I feel about/look at sex. And that is that, for me, it is a meaningful and emotional thing that I do with someone I'm truly in love with. And that's just not something that's possible with a prostitute. So I would feel like I'm betraying myself in doing it.

I'm not saying other people shouldn't do it. I support it being legal. But I don't think I could ever be comfortable with doing it myself, as tempting as it may be sometimes.

 

[raindrops]

Exactly this! You're so right. I'm the same and they call it "Demisexual"

 

[Andrew10]

I have no interest in sex, I'm going to catch my bus and to be honest I don't care at all, neither sex nor any other pleasure is going to be better than having eternal peace

 

[SoulWhisperer]

I don't think this will bother me... I fear something bigger...

 

[winamp]

I am a virgin by choice/out of fear

and the only thing I fear that is somewhat related to this are coroners that happen to necrophiles or just necrophiles in general

or having my autopsy photos posted online

maybe it is just an irrational fear because I don't know how common such incidents are

 

[IWishToDie]

It's probably silly but thinking about CTB one thing that bothers me is the idea of never having sex again. Like that the last time I had sex will truly be my last time, even though I had no idea at the time. And that I can't have it again before ending things.

I know that in some sense that's silly. Because it's not like I'll remember it afterwards.

It really bothers me though. I wish I could.

For context: My girlfriend broke up with me unexpectedly last month.

Honestly, a part of me wants to die because of my sexuality. I'm not a virgin, I like women, I like sex. I hate sex. I hate sex. I want sex. I need sex. I hate sex. I hate sex. Does this make sense?

 

[just_a_guy]

Honestly, a part of me wants to die because of my sexuality. I'm not a virgin, I like women, I like sex. I hate sex. I hate sex. I want sex. I need sex. I hate sex. I hate sex. Does this make sense?

It makes complete sense to me. I feel the same about sex. Last night I went through the motions so she wouldn't feel like she's not enough but I wasn't mentally in the moment.

 

[WombRot]

Kind of? Honestly I don't really have much of a sex drive and have been very avoidant of intimacy with others in general (due to anxiety and trauma I think). Part of me feels like I should be ashamed of commiting without having sex beforehand. I've thought about hiring a prostitute just to check it off the bucket list but I feel like that'd be sort of a waste of time and money.

 

[Redacted24]

Alternatively, you could have sex with someone you want to scar for their life, then CTB shortly afterward. They'll always wonder if they were that bad...
Don't do this, that would be really cruel.
I agree that physical intimacy is part of a deeper human connection, and that connection should be part of a happier existence. Wish you luck!

 

[reignerreigns]

I Feel as though i shouldnt comment here but...i had been at odds with the same sort of struggle. For what its worth it was checked off my bucket list(citing wombrot) and to put it bluntly...its nothing from another world, the deed itself is whatever(at least for me). Of course if you do it with someone you love, feelings would make it more memorable and special but the cons about is it might be harmful once that person is gone...im curious tho, can you be born asexual or do you become that?

 

[Celerity]

I'm a virgin, so I'm not sure if I will even enjoy sex. A lot of women don't. Trying to muster up the nerve to go ahead and have sex with this guy I'm dating. I don't find him attractive, so it feels like I might as well be signing up for a medical procedure for all the enthusiasm I feel about having sex with him. It would also be cruel since he seems interested in a long-term relationship. The other option would be to date and put myself out there on the apps. But what if I don't find anyone better and have to go through the same dilemma I'm in now? Selfishness and laziness are at war with my empathy and self-preservation.

 

[sserafim]

I've never had sex before so I wouldn't know. I've never desired to have it anyways, to be honest it sounds kind of gross and disgusting. I would hate to have something inside of me. I don't like physical touch and I'm scared of intimacy, I don't let anyone get close to me. I think I have a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or maybe none at all. I'm probably aroace so I don't think I'd enjoy it anyways.

 

[TiredOfAllThis]

Not bothered at all - had quite some.

 

[sserafim]

What do you think about eating? Watching people in public masturbating their tongues with dead animals. Grind muscles & embryos with their teeth. Even vegans slurp & emit foul gasses... and OMFG the output

I don't see how that's relevant

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I used to not let it bother me that much but having to masturbate once a day to prevent prostate cancer has left me craving the real experience. Not enough to want to risk the consequences of booking an escort though. I'd rather have the intimacy and physical closeness of a sexual relationship than the actual penetration (though that's a nice bonus). I don't think I'd be able to perform very well in regards to solely PIV sex due to my near micropenis but I've accepted that I'm willing to learn other ways to please a woman.

Also one of my previous love interests who was a former member of SS may have been the one to have awakened me and she was a self-professed nymphomaniac. She never got to make good on her promise to claim my virginity but she did manage to make the idea of it sound tantalizing enough to me when previously I had almost thought I was asexual but now I can't go back to that.

 

[mortuarymary]

My partner would definitely be suspicious if we had sex. It's been a while

I used to not let it bother me that much but having to masturbate once a day to prevent prostate cancer has left me craving the real experience. Not enough to want to risk the consequences of booking an escort though. I'd rather have the intimacy and physical closeness of a sexual relationship than the actual penetration (though that's a nice bonus). I don't think I'd be able to perform very well in regards to solely PIV sex due to my near micropenis but I've accepted that I'm willing to learn other ways to please a woman.

Also one of my previous love interests who was a former member of SS may have been the one to have awakened me and she was a self-professed nymphomaniac. She never got to make good on her promise to claim my virginity but she did manage to make the idea of it sound tantalizing enough to me when previously I had almost thought I was asexual but now I can't go back to that.

I did not know that about prostate cancer.

 

[SexyIncél]

I don't see how that's relevant

Just collecting data. (Feel free not to oblige.) Whenever someone perceives sex to be gross, I wonder if it's localized to an act they personally derive no pleasure from — or if they see the grossness of their own pleasures & bodies too

 

[mortuarymary]

Just collecting data. (Feel free not to oblige.) Whenever someone perceives sex to be gross, I wonder if it's localized to an act they personally derive no pleasure from — or if they see the grossness of their own pleasures & bodies too

Sex isn't gross, I just can't be arsed lol

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I did not know that about prostate cancer.

i learned it many years ago but I forgot where exactly my source was. I just tried to look it up again and found this: https://www.urologyhealth.org/healt...ulations-lessen-the-chance-of-prostate-cancer

One study followed 32,000 men for 18 years. It found men who ejaculated the most (at least 21 times a month) had a 20% lower chance of prostate cancer vs. those who ejaculated 4 to 7 times a month. The more the number increased per month, the lower their risk. Other studies have found ejaculation rate has no impact on prostate cancer rates.

Ejaculation may protect the prostate by flushing out harmful chemicals that build up in semen. It is also possible ejaculation does not actually protect against prostate cancer. Men who ejaculate more may have healthier lifestyle habits that decrease their odds of being diagnosed with the disease. Additionally, ejaculating may only reduce the risk in men in certain age groups.

The bottom line is more research is needed before we know for sure whether more ejaculation reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

And yet that's still good enough for me to continue. I try to keep it only once a day though, sometimes only once every two days.