Discussion Anybody feels they will bring shame to the family if they CTB ?

[MeltingBrain]

Most of my family members are what most societies will consider as successful . I am starting to feel like if I CTB I will bring disrepute to their success . Have you ever had these thoughts ?

 

[Vizzy]

Most of my family members are what most societies will consider as successful . I am starting to feel like if I CTB I will bring disrepute to their success . Have you ever had these thoughts ?

There will be always an outlaw in everything

Success differs from person to person so it is subjective

For a doctor engineer is not successful, for a engineer security job is not successful so it depends on a person

Lot of successful people ctb too

 

[StaticCryBabye]

Absolutely not. My parents are the worst, and if my death can bring them down, while also giving me the peace I've always been seeking, it's a win-win situation for me.

 

[jonward55]

I don't care because I won't be here.

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

I know it'd bring shame,
My mom's tried a few times,
But everyone's always called her selfish for it and weak,, mothers not weak, she's still around, but even she views it as a sign of weakness an a sign of immorality, to take one's life, it's a sin, it's wrong and only somone who doesn't care for others would commit such an act,,,
all my brothers view it as weak and selfish,,
and so I know I would bring shame,,
but mabye then,,
might my pain be acknowledged,
might it be wrothy enough
to be considerered real.

 

[AerialBoundaries]

Possibly.

I was always the gifted one in the family and had the most expectations placed on me, so to CTB being a constantly replasing alcoholic who hasn't achieved anything, would be shameful in their eyes. Add into the mix my family are devout Catholics, so I'd have committed the ultimate "sin".

 

[Badatlove]

Feel definitely shame myself, even tough when I ctb im already dead. The idea of when I got found how I look and bother others with a massive shock. They have to plan a date very fast for the funeral.. collect photos of my or something. Think about music I liked but nobody really knows me. I feel so shameful about a funeral for my dead self. Scared my ghost is still in the astral place to look down with shame at that scenery. Wish you could just dissapear and nobody noticed..

 

[PinkyStat]

Two words, catholic doctors

 

[MeltingBrain]

it's wrong and only somone who doesn't care for others would commit such an act,,,
all my brothers view it as weak and selfish,,

I am lucky nobody in my family as far as I know believes that. That's crazy and plain wrong .

 

[saderaser]

I guess my parents would. They are super religious and tried to brainwash me since I was little. They also feel obligated to spread the gospel. It's funny how they tell other to seek God when they create nightmares to their children by neglecting us and expecting God to solve all their problems. I can already imaging them crying over by death but in reality they were the ones pushing me to make such a decision. Please worry about yourself, not your family. If they are already successful, then they need to learn not to care about what others think, otherwise it's just a pathetic life that they're having.

 

[magician99]

I think there are many people who are afraid that they will bring shame to their family if they ctb, but I don't feel the same. My parents play a big part as to why I want to kms in the first place, and the other family members are clueless to what my parents did to me, and I'm afraid that even if I tried to tell them about it, they wouldn't believe me. I already know how it's gonna play out. My parents are gonna act surprised once they find out that I'm dead and wonder why their child who they abused for years, decided to take their own life. Once the other family members find out, who are unaware that my parents abused me, they will also wonder why I did it.

If anything, I'll be happy if my death can bring my parents down in any shape or form.

 

[sadandlonely99]

My family can go fuck themselves for all I care. I want out of this shithole & I don't give a fuck abt my family's image

 

[TheSpookyNameGuy]

No.

I was born a slave, i feel no remorse if their perfect little illusion of oneness and conformity is shattered and the world "Gossips" behind their back.

I don't care for their silly theatrics.

 

[Lucilius]

Yes. Fuck them.

 

[nothere123]

Most of my family members are what most societies will consider as successful . I am starting to feel like if I CTB I will bring disrepute to their success . Have you ever had these thoughts ?

I have these as well. I have often felt like the black sheep of the family as I am not a successful as the rest of them. And my CTB will bring down their reputation

 

[MeltingBrain]

Two words, catholic doctors

?_?

 

[helplessufferer]

i don't think we should consider people around us so much when deciding about our lives. ofc that goes for everything regarding one's life, not just ctb

 

[Ringo]

I'm not sure if "shame" is the correct wording in my situation, maybe "disgrace" would be more accurate. Just imagine that out of the blue your daughter commits suicide, what kind of impression will it leave on others? There was clearly more going on than it seemed. Publicly my family's high standing would be tarnished and privately It would probably make them relive the moments on a hospital room after I "fell" from a roof along with feelings of shame, confusion and maybe anger. Who knows how long the possible fight my entire family could have over it lasts, but frankly I doubt it lasts long or things change a lot as a result.

My parents partly triggered my first suicide attempt, I don't know if they genuinely no longer think I'm a mistake just because of my disorder or not being able to keep up, but at this point I don't really care, I don't want to continue being another cog in this machine nor do I want to become a bargaining chip, I have my own will and goals, you know? Why else would I be so stubborn to stay in a horrible place to avoid being controlled until I couldn't take it anymore? but what can I do, I'm physically and mentally tired of dealing with this, I've already exhausted all the options at hand. In the long run it's better for my siblings if I disappear, they will no longer have to worry about the emotional state of their useless sister.

 

[MeltingBrain]

I'm not sure if "shame" is the correct wording in my situation, maybe "disgrace" would be more accurate. Just imagine that out of the blue your daughter commits suicide, what kind of impression will it leave on others? There was clearly more going on than it seemed. Publicly my family's high standing would be tarnished and privately It would probably make them relive the moments on a hospital room after I "fell" from a roof along with feelings of shame, confusion and maybe anger. Who knows how long the possible fight my entire family could have over it lasts, but frankly I doubt it lasts long or things change a lot as a result.

I can completely sympathize because I feel exactly the same way.

My parents partly triggered my first suicide attempt, I don't know if they genuinely no longer think I'm a mistake just because of my disorder or not being able to keep ups sister.

I feel sorry for you , This part is not the case with me . It's horrible what a simple disease can do .
What do you suffer from, if you don't mind me asking .

 

[woh6]

Nope, just sadness and confusion. I read through some of these comments and realized how my parents are already kind of outcasts from their families. They already carry enough 'shame' that I wouldn't have a big influence on that. I guess they're moderately successful but don't really have a status or reputation that could be ruined by my ctb.
I can't begin to imagine what it feels like for you though. I'm sorry you have to deal with that pressure. Best wishes.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I don't really know. It's hard to judge what everyone would think. I would be the first in my family- if I ever go ahead with it- as far as I know that is.

I think some of my family would maybe view it more as shocking and tragic rather than shameful. That's how I always view a suicide- tragic. Even though I admire them for making that choice and having the guts to go through with it- the fact that their life had been bad enough to drive them to it is sad. But there we go- I never see it as a cowardly act. If people want to think I should have 'tried harder'- well- that's up to them. I think I did pretty well hanging on as long as I did- because I didn't want to upset people.

 

[MeltingBrain]

I don't really know. It's hard to judge what everyone would think. I would be the first in my family

Same here

I think some of my family would maybe view it more as shocking and tragic rather than shameful.

Same here, I don't think my family will think of it as shameful , I was talking about what the general society will think about your family.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Same here

Same here, I don't think my family will think of it as shameful , I was talking about what the general society will think about your family.

Oh, sorry- got you. Well- I'm waiting for my only remaining close family member to go first- before I do. After that- it's step relations In my immediate family. Some of my close friends will know my ideation started in direct response to one of them when I was a child. There's less of a connection now but they know where it began.

Shame is a weird one though- shame because of what? Because 'we' were 'weak' and took the 'cowards' way out? (Their words.) Or- shame because our families (possibly) either weren't close enough to us to realise where we were, knew but didn't support us- or- directly contributed to us feeling like this?!!

In my case- there simply aren't enough people in my life I suspect to really think about it. They very likely won't connect me with my family either because we're pretty estranged. I'll just be that distant relative that no one really knew about- so people won't really know to connect me to anyone they know. Benefits of being a hermit and moving hundreds of miles away from your relatives!

 

[OceanBlue]

This poll will close: Nov 11, 2053. lol
I wonder if the oceans will be empty and if any of you will still be alive by then.

The only shame families should feel is for bringing us into existence.

 

[waiting93]

My family is the only reason I haven't done it yet but I've had many days where I came close . Why does suicide in this society have to be so hard ? I'm tired of suffering with chronic pain everyday which destroys my mental health as I can't do stuff I enjoy or even work currently to increase my confidence . I just want to be pain free and after going to many specialists, suicide seems like my only option . My family tells me it's selfish and the cowards way out which is complete bullshit

 

[MeltingBrain]

This poll will close: Nov 11, 2053. lol

If I come back on that date it will definitely be awkward.

I wonder if the oceans will be empty and if any of you will still be alive by then.

VSED without choice

 

[Yllene13]

barely hanging on to life because I'm afraid that others will see my mom as a bad person if I ctb :/

 

[AllFoxedOut]

I don't know if they will feel shams. But definitely guilt.

 

[tarabole]

Being chronically ill is a major reason for me, so I am hoping that because if this, they won't feel as much shame or guilt. I have been talking about how poor my quality of life has been over the past few years and how I have withdrawn from social life almost entirely. I am trying to prepare them without being too obvious but in a way that they see my illness as the source of pain and death as the method for me to attain peace.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

i dont give a shit what people think , caring what others think has fucked me over in life so much.